Forgive. These things happen- you could just tell him you lost it. It's better than letting him think that you don't like the bracelet since you won't be wearing it for a couple weeks. I lost the first ring my boyfriend gave me at the beach. My situation is a little different though because as soon as I noticed it was gone I burst into tears and he was right there haha.

Forgive. Though I think you should your bf that you lost the bracelet. Those no need to keep making up anymore lies.

Forgive. Just tell him the truth though, tell him you didn't know what to say and didn't know how to break it to him that it fell off.

Wait, pass that by me again.
You lied to your partner because of some stupid bracelet and are asking us how you can keep up the facade?

I don't know your guy but if my girl had lost something and I noticed, she would've told me and we would've went to look for it. Sorry for being harsh but dammit, honesty needs to be a priority for couples! It's just a bracelet, not your limb. And because you missed the chance to look for it it might be gone now. Well, unless you call the places you were at and ask if they found something...

I say you should tell him now. Why? Simple: he's going to wonder why you stopped wearing it. When he does, you'll be forced to lie to him some more. Not good at all.

Not forgive LYING, just tell him the truth!

Not forgive. I don't agree with couples lying to each other. If you don't condone lying, stop lying! Yes, the bracelet had sentimental value but do you really think your boyfriend would be more upset that you lost it rather than the 2 week charade that you are trying to get by lying to him?

I forgive that you lost it - it was accidental, after all - but I don't forgive that your first instinct was to lie about it. Looking at it from his perspective, he'd probably be more upset about you lying to him than you losing the bracelet in the first place.

I voted to forgive you, but I think you need to ask yourself why you are so afraid to 'fess up to your partner about this. I understand you're trying to spare him anguish, and in a sense, you're just telling a white lie. But...why do you need to tell it? Are you worried he won't understand or forgive you? Because that would be unreasonable of him--people accidentally lose valuable objects all the time. You should be able to share this with him without being fearful. Accidents happen! You and your partner should be able to communicate about them.

So I think you should tell him the truth. If he is a caring person, he will forgive you for lying to him, since you were only lying out of worry and shame. Then, you should look for it together. And maybe you need to have a chat with him about wearing the bracelet all the time. I find it odd that he asked you why you weren't wearing it...does he expect you to be wearing it 24/7? That sets off some red flags for me. Plus, it's just plain unreasonable. The reason you lost it in the first place is probably because you were wearing it all the time.

My boyfriend got me a bracelet last year and I treasure it. But I wear it only once a month or so. He doesn't constantly ask me where it is or why I'm not wearing it. Frankly, it's TOO valuable to me to wear out every day! Maybe you and your boyfriend should consider that.

Not forgive. Your boyfriend asked you a direct question, and you lied. The stupid thing is that it's over simple -- a lost bracelet that's not even your fault. You can't be truthful about that?? Girl, you have problem with the truth, and in my opinion, that spells trouble.

Don't get started on you scheming behind his back to replace his bracelet. You're trying to pass off the replacement as his original bracelet. You're a fraud.

Forgive although you should be honest with him about what happened.

Some people are being unnecessarily harsh here.
That bracelet probably cost him a lot of money and she probably knew he'd be upset at her losing it and wanted to spare him that.
It's a bit of a strange first impulse to lie about it (I would probably just have reacted upset and wailed something like "oh noooooo"), but we're all wired differently.

Stumbler: if she'd been wearing the bracelet constantly since she got it, I don't think it's that strange for him to notice she wasn't wearing it that night. I also don't believe you should only wear your "special jewelry" once a month or whatever. Things are there to be used.

Anyway, the OP's issue:
Since it's going to take a couple of weeks, you have no choice but to be honest with him (which you obviously should have been from the beginning). Just tell it to him the way it is ... you lost it and didn't want to upset him by admitting it. He should be fine with that.

I forgive the losing of the bracelet--it happens. But, I don't forgive the whole lying part. I feel she should've been honest from the start.

Losing something is natural

Lying to partner? Uncool for school. Middle schoolers pull that crap.

Oh please. I dont know ANYONE who doesnt tell a white lie every now and then. She was caught in a moment and reacted. Most likely I would have done the same thing. Its not like shes lying about cheating, or intentionally losing the bracelet and then lying about it. It probably would be best to fess up now, especially since it'll be a while until the new one is in. You could also tell him the clasp broke or something and it is getting fixed for the next two weeks or so- not even necessarily a lie bc clearly the clasp did break or it wouldnt have fallen off! I just dont think lying about something so trivial is this huge problem- and I would be extremely surprised if all of these people who are so up in arms about lying to your partner have never done it even once!

Ok, I think it's pretty stupid that you lied about it to begin with. It wasn't your fault and had you showed him how freaked out you were about it he probably would have helped you look for it or tried to confort you at least. What you did is forgiveable, but telling the truth from the begining would had helped you avoid all this extra unnecessary stress. I just think it's silly

Oh, really? All this over a bracelet? are you $hitting me? Who cares!
It's just a bracelet, tell him the truth. And i don't understand the inclination to lie to him about it in the first place, if you lost it you lost it. Whenever we lose jewelry we rarely notice and when you do, it might be too late. Most importantly, it's not your fault. Bracelets and necklaces come off easily. I've many times found one of my charms in my bedding or in my bra. It happens. Again, i'm laughing because you're making this a bigger deal then it is.

Forgive. It was obviously an accident.

When my wife and I were in college, I gave her my senior ring (Big thing in those days, don't know about now. Not too many college students could afford diamond rings.). We were in a rowboat, I was rowing and she was feeding cracker jacks to ducks and swans that were following us. Well while throwing those crackerjacks, the ring flew off her finger and into the lake. She was VERY upset; she kept saying “I shouldn’t have worn the ring before she had an insert added to fit her finger. We are coming up on our 44th wedding anniversary in a few more months, and still laugh about it in retrospect. Why would you even THINK he blame you? Would he think you would lose that bracelet on purpose? If he did, drop him, and count your blessings, because that type of thinking is toxic to any long term relationship.

Forgive. It's not too late to confess that you lost it, but were afraid he would be upset with you. Did you try going back to where you last had it to see if maybe someone found it? Instead of going through all that trouble (and cash) for a new one?

Listen to Grandpa

Granpa is my personal hero of the day. Just cause.

Forgive but tell him the truth. If you have to, you can always say you thought you forgot to put it back on after your shower but when you went back to look for it it wasn't there. Telling a lie to spare someones feelings isn't a sin.

It wasn't your fault. *sigh*, your mistake was special ordering one...since you've used the money up either run with the story or sell it. What you should have done was just tell him on the spot what happened or tell him now. While he may or may not be slightly upset, I'm sure he loves you regardless. I'm sure he would actually realize how upset you are. It's not his bracelet, it's yours (though it sucks when someone loses a gift you give them). It was obviously and accident though. When my gf thought she lost the bracelet I gave her for her birthday, she was so scared when she told me. While it would have sucked, if she did, I'm glad she wasn't fearful of me to not be honest. (She had the bracelet out on the table and was cleaning so I put it in her jewelry box so it wouldn't get lost). When she told me she thought she lost it, I told her where it was. Moral of the story, it would have sucked if she tried to order a new one. It's also somewhat deceitful and while it's understandable, it would be better to just tell the truth.

Umm why did u just say it fell off, why are you going through all that trouble.?

Maybe it wasn't just "a bracelet". Forgiven. But you really shouldn't of lied.

I agree with Grandpa!
I understand that in the moment you let a white lie slip, but you should tell him what happened and that you didn't want him to get upset but that it must have fallen off. He cares about you which is why he got you the bracelet in the first place. He will hurt and confused if he feels you can't trust him enough to tell him. Best of luck!

forgive, because your intentions are pure.

"Oh please. I dont know ANYONE who doesnt tell a white lie every now and then. "

I'm so glad my husband and I aren't just ANYONE. I'd hate for a second to think that my husband and I are the only couple who never lies to one another and that includes all those stupid white lies.

although if he finds out, he may have been more forgiving if you told the truth the first time since you were upset and freaked out, he may be more upset if he knows you had time to think through your lies..

Why would you lie - It's not like he could get mad.
I was accidental, after all.

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forgive.

Just tell him ASAP that you lost the bracelet at the bar, and in a moment of panic, you lied about it. He will be pissed I'm sure, but at least you came clean about it. It's not like you lost the bracelet on purpose-- things happen. Just be honest about it.

Seriously...give her a break. Something similar happened to me when my boyfriend and I first started dating. He had given me a necklace w/ a heart pendant. I accidentally broke the chain. One day he asked me why I wasn't wearing it and I got nervous and didn't want to upset him so I told him I just forgot. I told him the truth eventually and he was a little upset that I had lied but he understood that I was just trying to spare his feelings. FORGIVE!

Forgive, but you should have been more careful with it. And make sure you tell him the truth before he finds out the wrong way. Because if he sees you can lie about something as little as this, he might wonder what else you will lie about. That's just the way I see it.

Okay, just tell him that you've looked all over the house and you're beginning to think that you were wearing it that night, and that it had fallen off.

Did you call the restaurant/places where you were at that night to ask if they found a bracelet? that would have been my first thought

awww... something happened to me quite similar to "jlynn818"... we were at the beach and a huge wave stole a ring my boyfriend gave to me 3 years before... I spent a few minutes frantically looking for it while he was asking over and over again if I had lost my bathingsuit bottom or something haha...
then when I told him, he just smiled at me, turned around, he threw away his and told me it was time to renew our "vows" anyways hahah... of course they weren't really expensive gifts or anything...
so he bought newer ones and gave it to me over dinner...

Forgive for losing the bracelet.Sh*t happens and it's not like you lost it on purpose.

Not forgive for lying I can't believe you would go to as far as you did just to cover it up. What was wrong in telling the truth and then back tracking your steps to look for it.You compromised your boyfriend's trust in you for a bracelet.That makes zero sense to me.The real story will come out eventually and I hope for your sake that he doesn't get pissed at you for it.

Not forgive for lying! Why didn't you just tell him that it fell off? Geez, he might even have bought you a new one!

i'm undecided.....it was honestly a mistake in losing the bracelet but you lied straight to his face and have been lying to him ever since.

Eh, this is such a small thing. You sound so young. Why did you lie? He won't be mad at you. If he does take back his suitcase. Anyway maybe he would buy you something else with a better clasp. It's OK. Nothing you could have done about it. Jewelry can disappear. When that suitcase gets lost by some airline do you think he would replace it without you knowing? Just think about how silly the whole thing is and fess up. Definitley don't make this a habit or anything.