No one is perfect and we all make mistakes, but when it comes to dating, I see women making the same ones over and over again. I know it's hard to see clearly sometimes when you're smitten with someone, but repeating bad behavior can quickly turn into a vicious cycle.
If you're curious to see what author Greg Behrendt thinks the most common dating mistake women make is, just read more.
What are some common mistakes that women make, and why do you think they keep making them?
There’s really one big one, and that’s hoping that somebody will turn out differently than they are. I always say don’t get a fixer-upper. You can’t put a coat of paint on a person.
To see more from my interview with Greg Behrendt, just click here.
Fred Perry
Very true...
1come on, guys mature eventually right?! . . . . right?
2aka "don't fall in love with potential".
3http://www.theonion.com/content/node/38827
4Girlfriend Changes Man Into Someone She's Not Interested In
This is so true. My mom always says, "well you should find a fixer upper" and I'm disgusted. I wouldn't want to be with a guy who wants to fix me, so why would I want a guy who needs to be fixed?
5Great advice from Greg. Take people as they are, not as you hope they'll be.
6I will never understand why people think they can change a person. If you met them that way and it was enough to interest you in him/her in the first place, why go out of your way to change them.
7The thing is, you can't fix them. If it were possible i don't know that i'd want to. I wish that some of these women would get that.
8I agree with this too...well said, Lickety split.
9Am I the only one who doesn't go into a relationship asking, "so what's your baggage??" Personally I had a rough childhood growing up and I think it's reflected in the way I am today aka over emotional. If someone couldn't handle that about me or considered me a "fixer upper" I'd be appalled. I personally date someone who has some emotional problems but I am thankful every day I have him in my life and I hardly consider him a fixer upper. I'd rather date someone as amazing and unique as he is than just some average type of guy I see so many people I know with. I don't do average to me that's a fixer upper...
10Also all people change, whether you call it maturing or what not we all do. I used to be quite the party girl and never wanted a boyfriend for more than 3 months and was quite the bit** but after being with my now boyfriend I changed, no he didn't make me or ask but it goes to show people CAN change. I know I never thought I would...
11Aimee, that's because people can change for themselves... it's a lot more difficult for people to change for other people. It has to be something that the person wants to do for their own self
BTW that's a really nice story about you and your guy
12i have such mixed feelings about this book!
13me and my wonderful now-boyfriend had been co-workers and friends for a while before going out and although there always was chemistry (we made out after our first shift together), he basically rejected me and spent FOUR MONTHS telling me he'd rather be friends, and another month saying he was ok with benefits as long as there was no commitment. at that point i picked up greg's book, read it, and when i saw the boy again said "cut the bull, i know ur just not into me. that's cool. now leave me alone to find a decent bf."
later that same night, he got down on his knees in the middle of a busy street and said he was sorry he'd been a jerk, that he just had emotional baggage that was v hard to let go of, and that he wanted to be with me. a month later he said the l-word, too.
i believe that nobody's perfect: every relationship, and every person, is a work in progress.
and he really was that into me, after all. take that!
ps: for the record, we now live together and he's looking for a job in NY so he can go with me when i leave for grad school next year.
14Thanks macchiatolove !!!
Candy I'm with you, I think everyone has baggage and issues in some way and if you don't think so they're in denial-some people just hide their scars better.
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