No - run!!! Trust me, I've dated way too many of these type of guys - they're manipulative and selfish. His feelings aren't about you - they're about his insecurities. Seriously, you shouldn't waste your time - he's not being "sweet" and you'd see that soon enough if you stick around.

Frankly, if in three weeks, the guy is already causing you to write in questions to an advice website, you two are not compatible. Obviously no one's perfect, but in the first little bit you shouldn't already be thrown off and irritated by his flaws!

Dump him and find a nice, genuine guy who isn't going to "irritat[e] you beyond belief" before the first month is even out!

These are the kind of guys that end up being control freaks...asking you where you are going, who with, who called, who texted, etc. Believe me, you need to nip this relationship in the bud and move on. If you are not happy now, you certainly won't be later.

After two dates an "I love you"? Yikes.

Walk away. Fast.

Ok, RUN!

He's going to smother you and if you continue the relationship, it's only going to get worse.

I agree with everybody else -- drop this guy. He has a big problem with insecurity. This makes for relationship woes.

I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but frankly, you're going to have to. That relationship got creepy, quick, and you need to break it off before it gets creepier. If he's already being clingy and smothering you, imagine how it'll be later in the relationship.

Tell him he's moving too fast. Then run, faster.

I'd be honest with him. Tell him that you really like him but you need to have a little more space and that he's rushing you into something you're not ready for.

I'm with princess_eab. It's not sweet, and what you see as an annoying habit now, will turn into your reason for hating him. And yes, they are manipulative. They use emotional blackmail to guilt you into thinking that it's YOUR fault you're pushing them away, and you ought to be the one feeling bad, when in reality you're just trying to stay sane by asking for space.

Yes. I am deeply hurted and reported to the police five times about a stalker that process these traits as described. I was on the verge of getting a restrain order on him. I had to get out of town for 2 weeks to get away and even then he continued the harassment and eventually I moved away after finding a job else where. It was such a dark time for me. But the scary part is he told me that he almost run his car down to the cliff with his ex-gf. They were about to end life together, at his request of course. So freaking scary. excuse my language but you won't ever want this type of guys and trust me, you would only regret it if you don't get out sooner!!! They are self center, controlling, manipulative, nasty (he left 2 used condom on my car windshield) and suicidal and unstable... GET OUT and run as quickly as you can.

BY the way, the guy described in this post has never kiss me, hold my hand or has any opportunity to have any bodily contact with me and I am not sure where he gets the idea that I am his gf or even consider him an acquaintance. He is probably just a nut case that thinks of all the one-sided sexual imagination in his sick head...sigh...enough said.

Good luck and you truly need it.

RUN AWAY RUN AWAY!

tell him its a turn off and not nessasary to cling. tell him what your boundaries are first. he may not really know it or hes just nervous trying to impress you. but if he keeps overstepping those bounderies and make you uncomfortable then i would just walk away, he will take the hint that his clingyness is a bad habit.

Trust me, I went through this before. this is a guy who is not in love with you, he is in love with you. This is a total nightmare waiting to happen! i dated a guy who i couldn't break up with for a year and a half all because i was too afraid to hurt his feelings because of his clingy nature. At first, it all seems very sweet, but soon you'll be wondering how you got stuck with this guy and how to get away. And, unless you want to move to another state and change your identity, i suggest you get out while the gettin' is good.

No, trust me, he's not in love with you. He may have severe mental problems and is insecure and will use whatever to hurt you. Don't slow down the relationship, breakup with him and don't remain friends. These guys also grow up to be physical abusers. They tell you everything they think you need to hear and then they start breaking you down.

Better hope he doesn't know where you life, or you may wanna consider moving XD.

I met a man and lived with him five years, then married him for 18 months. In the begining he was very attentive, we shared similiar interests and I was lost in his initial kindness. He began to appear obsessive, calling me every day and 10 times in work and after. Every day off he was there and every weekend. Six months into the relationship he wanted to move in but I backed him off so he took an apartment close by me. When I started to feel very smothered I told him. He said he would kill himself, got drunk and left. An hour later he busted into my locked home and viscously beat me and put me in the hospital. I had a PFA on him for 18 months. He went to counseling and called me to come back to him, saying he couldn't live without me so I foolishly took him back. Now after three PFA's, an assult charge and 7 years of control, hitting and verbal abuse I am divorcing him. I tried to help this man and he destroyed me in the process. Don't loose yourself in someone else's problem . Look at the signs , the first being your recognition there is something wrong. I saw it way upfront but didn't pay attention and I am lucky I'm alive. Don't put yourself in a position you have to protect yourself and be honest with yourself about what you are feeling and seeing and good luck.

Yup, like everyone else has said, this guy is really insecure and a future control freak. Run away. And I agree that if after 3 weeks he's already on your nerves so much that you have to write in, just get rid of him completely instead of just telling him to back off. You have to be very direct and confident/strong with people like this usually. And saying "I love you" that soon is just crazy, he doesn't even know you!

I agree with everyone else. Run! This is absolutely the type of person that turns out to be controlling. He's needy and probably insecure too. Not the type of guy you want to get involved with. He is throwing out red flags you should react immediatly.

I agree 100% with Bodhar. I think this dude needs an equally clingy / obsessed girlfriend!

This is the common story of a controlling but loving guy who will begin to abuse you after you have your first baby with him. Maybe not all guys who are like this will eventually abuse, but the guys who abuse were generally like this in the beginning.

I hate it when guys that do this...it's such a huge turn off. I would break it off with him, asap. I wouldn't even say lets be friends. This type of guy usually ends up being a stalker, imo. In my experience, it can even happen when you don't date them. So, I would take the advice of the ladies above who say, run away fast! Good luck.

wow. I think saying I love you after such a short time is a definite worry. I think if it was me, and I didn't want to break it off altogether, I would do what one of the previous posters suggested - set boundaries and explain to him that you are not ready for the kind of behaviour he is displaying. If he continues to overstep the boundaries of comfort you have set - say goodbye.

I don't believe he is necessarily abusive, although he is acting in a way that would set off alarm bells for many women. It's possible he thinks this is what you want to hear! in any case, I would be as annoyed as you are! I hope everything works out! best of luck

I wouldn't worry about hurting his feelings. He will probably be hurt by you for about a week, then get over it and fall in love with another girl a week after that.

Nothing about the way he's acting is normal, imo it goes beyond creepy.You are asking for more trouble than you may have bargained for so cut him loose before his stalker like behavior and his insecurities totally ruin your life.

The last guy I dated was like this! So freaking annoying! It's like how can I miss you, when you text me 5 times a day asking me how I'm doing?!?! Ugh... and even when I tried to explain it to him, he didn't get it. That's why I had to be a b*tch and ignore his calls and text messages. He just didn't get it!

Wow, creep. Change your phone number.

Cut him off now before he becomes the psycho stalker ex-boyfriend who won't leave you alone!

He said the L word after a week? Dude just escaped from a mental hospital! Cut him out and pray that he didn't stalk you when you weren't together.

I'd head for the hills on this one. If he's doing that after a few weeks by a month he'll be ready to propose.

Yeah, trust me - it only gets worse.

One of my ex's told everyone at work we were moving in together over the summer - problem being, I went to school in a different town (6 hours away) and would only be home for 2 months... and he had never mentioned this to me. And yep, it started with the "I love you" after a month of dating too..... Oh, and after we broke up and I started seeing someone else, I still got love letters on myspace, eventually I had to block him!

When you say you're not interested in something serious, MEAN IT. Date other guys, dont answer his calls, be busy with other things... talk the talk, walk the walk. That's the only way he'll get the hint.

Princess eab is so right! Not only is this guy showing you a clingy quality which I am sure in some ways is flattering, he is also going to show you other qualites...most likely is is going to be very selfish and self centered and manipulative, and potenially a complusive liar (I know that may seem like an unfair assessment, but those qualities often times seem to run together)...anytime you do something that is not with him, he is going to take it as a personal stab...for example, I dated one of those guys, when I wanted to go on vacation with my girlfriends he told me how inconsiderate I was of his feelings and I never once thought about how it would effect him! Um, give me a freakin break!
It sounds like this guy is what he is. He is clingy and falls easy and you are going to either have to accept that as him, or move on. And subtle ain't gonna do it!

Oh, and let me guess. This guy has probably told you about how all his previous relationships have ended bad with the girl being horrible to him and mean to him and yelling at him and you initally think "How could anyone be so mean to this sweet man." Ok, thats what I thought too, but if you stay with him, you will soon find out. It's because he is a complete nut and the previous woman had to be mean and evil in order to get him to leave them alone, and he still wouldn't. It took the guy that I dated for 9 months (and he reminded me constantly that it was 9 months) a good year and a half after for him to stop texting me. One text would be "Oh I would love to be your friend". I wouldn't answer and 20 minutes later it was "You are such a fat b*tch and a loser and no one would want you". And then 20 minutes later "Why won't you be my friend?" I thank GOD everyday that he knocked up his next girlfriend and felt the need to marry her, although I don't envy her!