About a month ago I broke up with a guy I'd been dating for four months. I felt his heart just wasn't in it, and he agreed that he wasn't totally focused on us either.
The other night I was out with a mutual guy friend and my ex decided to join us. My stuff ended up getting stolen from the bar (money, keys, etc.) and my only option was to stay at my ex's house until I could get to my spare keys in the morning.
He was so sweet all night and was physically affectionate too; touching my arm or leg when we talked, cuddling with me under a blanket on the couch, rubbing my back and sleeping close to me most of the night. In the morning, we woke up and just laid there and talked for at least an hour.
I thought I was over him, but now I'm wondering if my decision to break up was hasty. I'm interested in getting back together, but not sure if he is. I'm wondering if I'm reading too closely into his behavior or if he's interested in giving it another shot too. I don't know what to do at this point — help!
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You're probably mostly very grateful with his kind gestures after such an experience (I'd freak out too if someone stole my purse, etc). And of course, it's very nice of him to try to console you the best he could.
If he wants to get back with you, he'd show you with his action as in, he'd ask you out again (after this unfortunate incident, ps. sorry that happened to you), then in time will ask you to be his gf or ask you for another chance.
1I'm sorry your stuff was stolen, that's horrible!
But, don't think you want to get back together with him just b/c he helped you out a lot and was really sweet. I'm sure he was helpful and sweet when you were with him before right? Don't let one night of niceness make you forget why you broke up with him. Unless the problem that made you break up is fixed and gone, two ex's should never get back together. In other words, unless you think he would really have his heart in it this time and want to seriously be with you, don't get back together with him. And a great way for him to show you he really wants to be together again is to ask you out again. I wouldn't initiate anything if I was you.
2I think he was just tempted by having a girl spend the night at his place -- the temptation was too much, so of course he's going to make a move while he's on his home turf. I'd wait to see if he shows any more interest to be sure it was more than a one-night thing.
3He might have meant it as just being comforting to you since having your stuff stolen is quite a stressful situation
4He wanted to get in your pants.
If he wants to get back with you, wait for him to show it for more than one night under a comforter.
5Agree with Karlotta and the rest of the ladies.
Don't obsess over it. If he calls, he calls, but I would NOT initiate it.
6Exactly what karlotta said.
7Now, I hate the "if a man x then he'lly" stuff, but in this situation, I have to apply it. If he truly wants you back, he'll initiate it.
8Ditto on Karlotta. If he wants back with you, he'll call you. Dunno what his intentions are, but if he wants it, he'll show it. Just don't be too hasty about sleeping with him at all till he really actually shows it *truthfully*.
9Yep, karlotta said pretty much what I was going to say.
10What Karlotta said!!!
11karlotta said it all.
12karlotta said it all.
13I agree with all the ladies here.
It's hard to tell just what he wants - to get in your pants, or to get back with you. He was obviously showing SOME kind of interest in you that night... So I would just wait for him to make the first move. Or, if you're really interested in getting his opinion of you, ask him out for a cup of coffee or lunch [something casual]. Don't talk about anything serious, like your relationship, or what he thinks of you. Just talk, and you might get a better idea of what he thinks of you and what he wants to happen between you two. You can also tell by his language and by his body movement whether he wants you as a person, or just your body... haha.
Good luck! :]
14What's up with old posts showing up again lately?
15Just because he has feelings for you doesn't mean he wants to be with you. If he wants to get back together he'll let you know until then I wouldn't think too much about it.
16Don't initiate anything. Just like the ladies before me, if he wants to get back together with you, he'll let you know.
17Time will tell. If he makes an effort maybe he is interested. Be sure to be cautious that his interest is in trying to make things work not just being bored and seeing this as a potential for you two to sleep together again.
If he is serious he will make sufficient effort. Until he does that, don't read into things too much.
18its definitely hard to wait, but i agree. only time can tell. don't be the first to make contact with him because he could have just been kind in his actions that night and have no further intentions. in which case you don't want to put yourself out there and risk getting hurt. if its meant to be he will come back and take the initiative
19I would just ask what was going on. but dont assume he wants you back.. im not saying he isnt. just been there where they say i wanna be with you. get a call next day and they act like it never happened.
20Guys like testing the water, see how far they can get away with things. If he hooks up with you again, please do it with open eyes. You are after all supposedly aware of what the guy is capable of making you feel, hurt or otherwise.
21He wants to get back in your pants. Lay off this guy.
22I agree with Karlotta and Pinaywriter.
Maybe I'm just in a cynical mood but I would not take this as a sign that he wants to get back together unless he contacts you and asks you directly.
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