Foreplay is essential for most women in order to get aroused. All that kissing and touching makes us feel beautiful and sexy, and it also strengthens the emotional connection we feel with our partner. 
The problem is, some guys don't get it. They often rush through the passionate part and head straight for our boobs! While seeing and touching them is a turn-on for him, he may automatically think it's a turn-on for us too. Now I'm not saying that caressing our breasts is a turn-off, but there's a right time to touch them, and first thing isn't always the time — a guy has to ease his way through foreplay!
So how can you deal with the guy who does this? To find out read more.
The best way to let your guy know you're not into him fondling your boobs right off the bat is to communicate that to him. That's not to say you should sit him down and talk it out — you might shatter his ego and scare him off — but if you're a verbal person, the next time you're getting it on, try suggesting things for him to do (in a sexy voice) that does turn you on. Not only will it redirect his hands, but some guys love it when a girl tells them what to do!
If talking about it makes you feel uncomfortable, or you're worried about it ruining the mood, gently use your hands to communicate your needs. Slide his hand down and place it on your hip, or flip your body around and change positions so his hands are forced to switch positions too. Whatever you do, don't just put up with the groping. Some guys need a little direction so if he doesn't appreciate the guidance, then he may not be the guy for you.
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In a way, I have the opposite problem. My boyfriend seems to go straight to below the belt. I feel like I'm always pulling his hands up to touch and caress me first, which he always seems happy to do, but I;m always reminding him.
1I dated a guy like that for a while. After some talking and guiding, he learned that I liked to be kissed and caressed before jumping to my breasts. Of course, he was always eager to please, so that made it a little easier in talking to him about it.
2I don't mind.
3My guy loves my breasts - and I love that he loves them. I'm well endowed and he likes playing with them just because they're big and squishy but they're also super sensitive and sometimes he gives little tugs and pokes and caresses that are....awkwardly placed. I don't want to discourage him from giving the girls love but there are times when I'm extra sensitive that I can't even tolerate him touching. I try to pull away and keep em covered and give him attention so that he gets distracted
4I wish my man would spend more time there. Mine are very sensitive, in a good way, but he insists on going straight below the belt. I am very well endowed, which our friends always crack jokes about, but I think they might intimidate him. He says he likes them, but he doesn't like to play...it might be time to bring out the sexy dice to get him focused elsewhere.
5Uh... I'm not the sort who complains about this... he could spend an hour on my boobs and that would be awesome.
6I don't mind either. I have a spectacular pair, and frankly, I don't blame the man.
7The last guy I was with spent a lot of time paying attention to my boobs... Which was great! Before that I always felt awkward asking whoever I was with to pay ~more~ attention to them.
8Yeah, the boobs and down below.
9i personally love the touches on the back, the neck, anywhere else almost more than those two. at least at first.
guys, a tip:
make us want you to touch us there. pretend like you aren't going to, pay attention to everywhere but there! (well, for a little bit.)
My boyfriend is the opposite, too. I'd love it if he did this more.
10It's not a problem with me. I'm thankful that my fiancee loves my boobs and loves doing fun stuffs with them gals LOL. I have sensitive breasts and they're pretty important in my reaching of orgasm so in my case, please go straight to the boobies.
11my problem is that my nipples are super sensitive and my guy can be a little bit too rough sometimes with them.
12Like many who have already posted I absolutely love having my breasts touched and fondled, sucked, licked, bitten, etc. Sometimes I can even have an orgasm if they are played with long enough. But even though I love having them touched and have pretty big ones (which is a blessing and a curse) I usually have to remind the guy I'm with to pay attention to them. But I usually just take his hands and put them there during the below the belt action. He's getting better at remembering and doing it by himself without any prompting, but a gentle nudge never hurts.
13I have NO problem with that......
14If I need a little help getting in the mood (i.e. if I've had a long day), I do NOT want my husband going straight for my girlie bits. But usually I don't mind. I find it flattering that he can't resist.
15I think sometimes the problem is - uhm. The predictability of it! at least in my experience. It's like "OH MY GOD, THERE ARE OTHER THINGS YOU CAN DO." Especially when it's practically like clock work. (LOL)
Breasts are nice and all! But a variety's a must.
16My ex (who I still hook up with on occasion) has always gone straight for my boobs. I don't mind. I actually like it. What I hate is when he's in a hurry to get my pants off right away.
17My bf balances everything out thank goodness.
18Hah, this made me thing of scrubs. Where JD tried to fondle this girls boobs, and she was like "You can't go to boob town, its a gated community"
19Like many others, I would have NO problem with him heading straight to my boobs, and then staying there for a while!!
Instead he starts fingering me below belt right away. Hate it. I've told him so but he's so slow on learning, sometimes I wonder if he really DOES want to please me.
20oh I luv it
21i dont mind,coz mine are small its nice that he likes them,makes me feel gd about my self.
22I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's noticed this! I guess I can understand it, though. That's the fun part for them to play with
23Oh I dont mind at all...my husband loves my boobs and loves the fact he knows how to please me
24Honestly, I get turned on when he does this. I have nice boobs, im glad he loves them as much as he does. Id PREFER him touching them all the time, cuz i dont mind at all.
He keeps all the important elements in there, boobs or not.
25I personally like a little cuddling and kissing before any such 'groping' takes place, and it can be a little annoying when instead of saying that he missed you or hugs you, he just goes and squeezes your boobs. Few minutes of sweet-talk and I'm game, though
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26i'm glad that i'm getting a divorce! i do not have to worry about this at all anymore!
27Ugh I hate that! I used to be with a guy who immediately went there and was super rough, which completely turned me off. I wouldn't mind it at ALL if he led into it a little, but it was like as soon as our mouths touched his hand was there and never left!
28I think Men are often physically minded. We love to touch, alot. Women are not the same. So when we think we have the chance to have intimate touching we often go for what is usually forbidden. One thing that I know for sure is that we are not mind readers. If you don't come strait out and say exactly what you want we are usually not going to figure it out. And like the article said, if he isn't open to hearing your desires then he might not be for you.
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