Always a cheater.

Twice a cheater, always a cheater. I think a person can mess up once and learn from it and truly never do it again. The people who have done it multiple times will almost always do it again.

I THINK ALL MEN ARE DAWGS!! & EVERY MAN HAS DID IT 0NCE 0R 2864 TIMES!! IT D0ESNT MATTER, MEN ARE SNEAKY SNAKES!! LIVE WITH IT 0R BE SINGLE! L0L!

Well put, popgoestheworld.

Once a cheater always a cheater. I learned the hard way. My first boyfriend cheated on me several times before I found out and I took him back like a weak baby and in the end he cheated on me again. Jackass. Since that relationship I DONT tolerate cheaters.

I have never been cheated on, but I agree with popgoestheworld. Once is forgivable, after that no way.
Note to LEXO : not all men are cheaters. You just haven't found a faithful one yet.

True, I've no tolerance for cheaters.

I try to believe that people should have a second chance...but at the same time, I really probably could never trust a guy who has cheated.

I have cheated on,and i learned from my mistake. i haven't done it again and i don't plan to.

I had an exboyfriend that had cheated on his previous girlfriend. He told me he would never do that to me because I treated him better and all this crap. He gave me the greatest birthday present by telling me he'd slept with someone else the night before! I forgave him for that. But he lost his chances when he did it again and again. Turns out he was cheating on me the entire time we were together. He'll never change..

I cheated on my ex throughout most of the relationship, after we broke up i promised myself I would never treat anyone like that again. I have been with my boyfriend now for about 3 years and will NOT (nor do i have the desire to) cheat on him. So I dont think once a cheater always a cheater.

I say true till the reason for why they did is revealed. People can change but most people never look to see why they do the actions they do. Rather misdirect to other things solve them and think that is the answer.
Ofcourse there is many forms of cheating not just phsical but emtional as well. So that could also be related to the relationship and the communication not just to the actions of the cheater

i've never cheated nor been cheated on (not that i know of at least) but i think that everyone can make mistakes. and it doesn't mean they should have to live the rest of their lives in the shadow of their past mistakes.

I have been cheated on in the past, and I knew when I made my selection for a husband that I would not ever tolerate being with a man who even allowed himself to be in positions which would lead to reasonable questions of fidelity.

Not only would I not tolerate cheating, but I would not allow myself to fall for someone known to have cheated on partners in the past. If you cannot be sexually/emotionally responsible I have no use for you. Not as a spouse, not (for the most part) as a friend. It's demonstrative of immaturity in any form.

Hard to say, because everybody makes mistakes in life.

I think for the most part, people only regret cheating when they get caught. Ignorance is bliss.

Shop is right. The only man I can think of who turned his life around for the right woman is Warren Beatty. 99% of the time, cheaters cheat.

I think that it depends on the context. When you are young and dumb and make mistakes, ok whatever... once is once, if you keep going, then you have problems. Not to say that I would stay with anyone no matter what their age, but if you break up, find someone new it doesn't necessarily mean you will cheat on them also. Sometimes people grow up, but if the person takes them back, the results will typically be BAD. Move on and take a page from Carrie Underwood!

i'm struggling with this... i recently found out that my incredible boyfriend of 2+ years has cheated on every single girlfriend in his past, has juggled multiple girlfriends at once, slept around, etc. the shocking thing for me is that i never would have guessed any of these things, given the way he has treated me since we've been together. i almost wish i didn't know about his past. he says that he's different now, and i believe him. he's always treated me amazingly. patterns are patterns though, and i worry that someday he will be in a situation where cheating could be possible and he just won't use his head. i don't know...

it reali does depend on the situation i think

Danni99 You are SOOOO right!!!

I don't believe in being so pessimistic all the time about mistakes. I have seen men who have cheated and felt terrible about it. I have also seen men who have cheated all their lives (serial cheaters if you like). It depends on how their mums have raised them.

A person CAN change....I cheated on two ex-boyfriends (sadly) and now I can't imagine doing something like that. I would never do it again, but I think forgiveness speaks volumes. Just don't let it happen over and over....

Once a cheater always a cheater. I've learned from experience and now no more cheaters. You cheat once -- you got your walking papers.

i like popgoestheworld here--twice a cheater, always a cheater. also, i don't necessarily think that past history is an indication of current status. i used to cheat on my boyfriends in college, and i would never, ever dream of cheating on my boyfriend now--i am always conscious even of the situations i'm in to make sure that it's not even a remote possibility. that said, though, once a cheater with me, you're out the door. i'd never be able to trust again.

ive never been cheated on but i would probabaly find it really hadrd to forgive and trust again........if they've done it once.........nothin to stop them again

This isn't true. I'm a woman, and I have cheated. Once. Never again.
I've also been cheated on, and I can honestly say the guilt, and regret you feel when you cheat is probably the same amount (althought different) of pain as being cheated on.

It would be different for everybody, it all really depends on if you have a functioning consceince I suppose. I just know that I will never cheat again.

So "once a cheater, always a cheater" does "always" hold true.

totally depends on the person. i like the idea that "twice a cheater, always a cheater"...that makes more sense to me than once.

i don't know the answer and i don't think that i would stick around to find out. not saying you shouldn't give it another try, but doubt that i would.

Partysugar: I had the same thing happen, only he did it twice more on me before we mutually decided enough was enough. It was difficult to work through with the new boyf, but I know he would never do it, well, unless his freebi and him meet haha (I think his freebie is Kirten Dunst or someone...i can't remeber but it is a blonde with a killer body) My freebie is wither MM or Daniel craig. It used to be ben affleck, but out of respect to my fav actress, it is no longer.

once, always.
this is not just an act, a mistake.
it's an outward sign of your character.

I'd like to direct this toward "Once bitten, twice shy..."

Just because it happened once doesn't mean it'll happen again... but be wary.

I never know if I can truly trust them or not. So... I decide to be friends instead until I know them well enough.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Maybe that's why i'm so hard on men, I've been hurt so bad before b/c of cheating. I have no tolerance towards cheating.

There are exceptions to every rule, but I found that most cheaters are repeat offenders.

no its false though i am a cheater lol i still think about it but i am sure i wont cheat on my hubby
the people i cheated on were my boyfriends and i wast serious with none of them