Bad idea. You broke up for a reason. I tried to remain friends with my ex after we broke up - it didn't work for very long.

I am friends with a few exes, and the key is not trying to be friends right away. You need time and space for awhile. I love the fact that I am on good terms with all of my exes. They were so important to me at one time and it's nice knowing that we still fundamentally have each other's backs

I think it depends, at least for me, on whether we were friends before we got together or not. If we were, then, it's okay to try and remain friends, but not while the breakup is still fresh. If we weren't friends, then I just want to move on.

i'm only friends with one of my exes...and that friendship didn't start until about 6 years after we broke up!! i think that there needs to be some healing time after a breakup (though not necessarily 6 years!), so it's a bad idea to jump right into a friendship. let the relationship breathe and let the wounds heal...then see if you can be friends. if so, then i don't see a problem with it.

i broke up with my live-in boyfriend/best friend before that about a week ago.

he's moving away for the summer, so that's good, but he's not leaving for another week, and it's terribly tense and awkward now. So looks like i'm just going to have to wait and see what the answer to this is.

I think that it depends on the type of breakup. I've ended it with a guy before only because distance became an issue when I moved away. We're still pretty good friends.
If a relationship ends because you don't like your partner's character or his qualities, then I would say that staying friends is a bad idea!

I used to think it wasn't possible but I think it depends on the relationship and how it ended. xo

i think it's more of an issue of whether you were friends before the relationship or not. it doesn't work to stay friends after the relationship if you weren't friends to begin with because there's no basis for that relationship. also, the lingering feelings don't help either.

Funny, I am in this position right now. At first I thought hell no, no way! But then we became friends but are both realizing now that I am dating it is more difficult for us and we might have to end it...neither one of us can see each other with someone else..its very hard!

I think its a bad idea, because there will always be the memories of good and bad things... there was a reason to end.

Depends on the situation. Most likely you won't be able to be friends right after, but once you have both moved on it could be ok. Also depends on what your ex is like. If they're not actually a very nice person who you would want as a friend, then it's probably just better to leave them out of your life.

In my experience, it's been a bad idea.

I agree with Fab, depends on how the relationship ended and that there's no leftover emotions. I also think it has to be a gradual thing too.

i agree with fab, but for me it is a no. I tried with the last ex, whom i broke up with because he cheated moultiple times, and he ended up jsut using me for booty calls, which i allowed to happen cause i thought he loved me again. anyway, i learned my lesson, no no no! haha

I know a lot of people who are able to do it. No it isn't a bad idea. It is only bad if he has beaten you up or has cheated on you with your friend (just examples)..

i think it's a bad idea. although it would be nice to keep him in your life because obviously you liked him for more than romantic reasons, it does a couple things. it prevents you from fully moving on--you know those thoughts you have when you start dating someone else and you can't wait for him to see? that's not moving on. it also makes for an uncomfortable situation for anyone else you do meet...like, here, hi, i used to sleep with/fool around with this person. you guys should hang out! we should all hang out! haha.

i just really think it's an excuse to not move on, to be honest, and that's after a lot of soul searching on my part. you find that once you stop being friends (and i'm not talking becoming enemies, just not being friends) it's like a mini-breakup all over again. better to get it done right away.

Personally I don't think is a good idea!

Bad idea. It's just common sense.

its a bad idea thou my ex wants to be friends with me i cannot accept it

I really think it could work. But it's not easy. Especially if the ex gf is still demands her "right" to kiss your husband and to go only two of them. It's just...too much for me (and also my husband didn't like it but didn't tell her because it means they would argue and like always...he would always be the loser).

But I still have a good friendship with some of my exes because they really are friends.

I think it's a bad idea. Right after a break up and even when a lot of time has passed, there will be jealousy. How would you feel, when you see him with another girl? What about if they had a better relationship then you had together?

Besides, how would remaining friends ease the break up? Depending on why you broke up, why be stuck in the memories and relationship. I don't think a person ever moves on in this situation. Maybe after many, many, many years exes can become friends again. Move on and have new experiences with others.

It is dificult, he cheated on me, harresed me, and i found out he did all cause he was having affair with his cousin's wife, he wantes to be friends, keeps on writting, try saying hello, keeps on saying lets try to be friends, he says he loves me blah blah.. but I know i am so hurt it is impossible to be friends,the more i hear from me the more i get hurt, no i can not be friends with him.

and yes its been two years, and still he is trying and still i feel the hurt and pain..!! the more i hear from him the more i get hurt,the pain keeps on coming back, he was nasty to me cause he was having a relation with his cousin's wife.yes it hurts, it still surts too much.