Well, I'm a lawyer and for the past year or so my husband has been waiting tables, sooo obviously I'm OK with it! I don't feel a need to be "taken care of." The important thing to me is that we are both contributing.

In a perfect world, he would make a ton of money and I could stay home for awhile and raise a couple of kids, but that's not our situation and that's ok

As long as we make enough to be compfortable I am happy - whoever is making more. I want to be able to have it so one of us can stay home one the children come. And if it's me, that's ok, if it's him thats ok too!

I don't think it matters as long as both halves are contributing to the better of the whole. I can't take a man seriously if he has a poor work ethic or no job. As long as both partners are going out and doing something to contribute to the household it doesn't matter who makes more money.

who cares who makes the money? as long as you're both taken care of, i don't see why there is a problem.

and i agree with you lawchick... i'd love to be a stay at home mom, but what can ya do? (considering i'm not even a mom yet)

I dont think it matters really. Right now we average just about the same every year except he has ALOT more savings than i do, his childhood was slightly different than mine... but as long as someone is not being a total freeloader I dont think a making more money than ur partner should ever really be an issue

I made a substantial amount more than hub for our first few years of marriage while he was going to school part time trying to finish up. He has since expanded his career and I have been able to switch to a job that I love and enjoy without the pressures I had to endure with my prior career. I now make about half of what he does and I know that he really enjoys this switch.

I recently started making more than my husband does, and I think it's going to bother him a little for awhile. The way I see it, we're two halves of a whole and it doesn't matter if one of us brings home more money. The fact is that neither one of us alone could afford the things we can together, like our house! I think he'll get over it

I have no problems with it and neither does he. I do sports marketing and he's a graphic designer. I'm make more now but he's sent to inherit a pretty large sum of money from his parent's restaurant chain business. He never needed to work, but he's doing something that he loves and earning his own money for the time being so it's whatever for us.

Even though we both work the same amount, I make more money. I like it, it makes me feel independent. we rarely argue about money, and i get to shop and blow through cash without him caring at all.

For me, it doesn't matter who makes more money. But I have a feeling that it would bother my hubby a little if I started making more.

I make a significant amount more than my guy and the kicker is he is far ahead of me in the education department. I think it used to bother him more than it does now. Although he would never admit it, I think it's a motivator for him. I try to just find ways to let him take care of me to remind him that I need him.

I don't think it would matter too much, as long as he loves his job. I mean I would rather be with a guy who is passionate about what he does than someone stuck at a job they hate but make a lot of money.

im a trust fund baby- but i don't act that way! i spend my money bc i have the guilt of it as not being 'mine' - i'm not cheap but i don't live like paris hilton. might be b/c i actually work and have a job and know what it's like to earn money. it bothers my fiance bc his friends always tease him about who my dad is and that he lives WITH ME (euros are really egoistical about that stuff)- but i reassure him with the way i act with money and being responsible. we try to be 50/50 but it's nice having that pillow to fall on when times get rough.

The only two problems I could see with this would be: a) the man becomes a mooch and lives off of his high-earning lady instead of helping contribute, or b) the man is an insecure, primitive tool who feels threatened by not making as much as his lady. In both cases, the man just wouldn't be worth any self-respecting woman's time and affection, so really, there's no problem with earning more whatsoever!

bring it on, I'd love to make the money in the family!! honestly I've never dated the type of guys who would care about this sort of thing at ALL. and I wouldn't have a problem sharing as long as we stuck to a budget.

as long as we have money, i don't care...not sure if he would care either
he makes a lot now but in a job that he will not make much more throughout his career...and while i'm making half his salary, i will be making more and more and more until i retire so eventually i could catch up...hope he wouldn't mind because it would just mean more disposable income!

I made more than my husband until he got a promotion a few months back. If he were the type to care that I was making more, I wouldn't be married to him. I don't have time for that kind of ego-tending.

My ex used to be really mean to me about my job and how much I made. He kept talking about how he didn't like having to support my expense tastes when I never asked him for anything, and I pretty much supported myself without his help.

Don't care, long as she isn't a gold digger and loves me for me, and we make enough together, or even if she doesn't work but at least does something good with her life, I couldn't really care less. I wouldn't be embarrassed if she made more than me either, I know what I want to do with my life, and it's not about the money really. It's about the two of us, not everyone else.

Strange; my boyfriend and I were just talking about this. We're still finishing school anyways but the way things are looking in the economy he's not feeling confident about his field (journalism) whereas he feels mine will always be in demand (psychology). I disagree (everyone needs writers), but either way--he said "I can just stay home and clean the house" teehee.

I'm sure if things ever came to that he'd find no shame in it, but obviously he'd want to be the main provider. It wouldn't cause real problems though; just one of his cute little ego trips. But we love each other. All that matters is we're not starving and out in the streets.

I make about 5 times what my partner makes. Our house is in my name only. He contributes to the household expenses, and overall we spend the same percentage of our income on household stuff. That's OK by me.

Of course, my partner's currently in school, so eventually I expect that income ratio to change.

I think it would bother my boyfriend if I made more money than him but not to the extreme and he wouldn't tell me directly. We've talked and I asked him what would happen if 15yrs from now I'm making more money than him, if he would expect me to be a stay at home mom or not and he is all up for me working if it makes me happy regardless of how much money it generates as long as I stay at home when we have a baby for a bit which I totally plan to do. I think if he were to ever make it a big deal it would be a deal breaker as I will not feed a mans ego by demeaning myself.

Nice avatar Belle

I don't think Ill ever make more than him, ha.

I currently make more money than my beau. Its not a huge deal - although he does prefer to take care of me. I have bigger bills too. We manage thats what matters.

Haha Jude, I agree with you completely. Men shouldn't mooch or get insecure. It should be about love not money

I'm in the minority here. If I earned more than my husband, it would bother me, AND bother him. We're old-fashioned in this way.

My parents are retired but my mom's last job she made more money and my dad loves her even more for her strength, courage, integrity, principles and amazing leadership skills.

It's a guy with that kind of attitude I want to marry!

my boyfriend and i are both in the entertainment business. He has an associates degree and is an audio engineer at a recording studio, i'm getting my masters and do floor directing/audio for television... i SHOULD be making more money... WHEN HE MAKES MONEY its good but hes there like 48 hours straight and only gets paid for a 4 hour session... pretty ridiculous... I'm expecting to be making more than him come november when I have my masters degree...

It doesn't matter either way. Currently, I make more while my husband is in school. The role will more than likely reverse when he graduates. As long as both of us are supportive of each other in any scenario, that's all that matters.

I could care less. As long as we're both doing what we love and contributing to our life I don't care who makes more. What I do care about is that I myself always make enough that I can survive without the other half that way I don't feel like I 'need' him just that I want him in my life. Tis goodness.

I have always made more money than my boyfriends. It's not by choice it just seems men around my age aren't as successful and don't know the concept of saving money. The next guy I date I want to make more money than me. And not even just a little more but enough that I don't have to worry about money with him. I always felt like the provider. Since I had more money I should be the one paying for more things. Call me old fashion but I don't want to be the more successful one. I start to feel like a baby sitter or a Mom.

When I first started dating my boyfriend he made more than me. We had no problems. Now I am the primary breadwinner. He has dealt with it very well. I had actually had more problems with it than he has. I am a worrier and I wanted him to also help around the house more.