This is a repeat of a question from about a month ago which I already commented on. Early sex researchers (I believe the ones at Kinsey institute) thought that there may have been 2 different types of orgasms for women, with the clitoral one being 'immature.' This is not the case, and most women achieve orgasm through clitoral stimuation (and perhaps another type of stimulation, such as intercourse, at the same time). Few women can achieve orgasm from intercourse alone, it just is not the way our bodies our set up. This is why most women masturbate and orgasm mainly from clitoral stimulation. I think the myth about the clitoral orgasm being 'immature' was perpetuated to make women and men feel that womens enjoyment of sex with men was more 'mature' because it is more pleasurable for men to just have intercourse instead of working to satisfy his partner through other means. It also was perpetuated because of a general scientific and social ignorance regarding womens bodies and sexuality. It made women think that there was somehow something wrong with them if they could not orgasm through intercourse alone. As I said earlier, the vast majority of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. I think that what your friends were referring to was orgasming through intercourse or from G spot stimulation. Some women find that oragasming while their partner is inside of them or stimulating the inside of them to be more sexually satisfying, while others feel that an orgasm feels the same either way. So, scientifically speaking, there is no difference. An orgasm is the same physiological response no matter how the woman achieved it, vaginally or clitorally. I would suggest that you study or read a book or research this subject if you are interested in your sexuality.

In my personal experience, I found that it took me some time to learn how to orgasm from sex with a partner. For me, as for many women, this involves clitoral stimulation during and throughout intercourse. I would suggest you rub your clit the whole time you are having sex with your partner, or use a toy such as a vibrating egg. If you want to try to have a G spot orgasm, then I think your best bet would be to first buy a banana shaped vibrater, which will stimulate your G spot, with a clitoral attachment to stimulate your clit at the same time. BTW, the G spot is actually just the top of the nerve of the clitoris, which runs up and inside of your body (it is the same with men, the base of their penis runs inside their body, which ends at the prostate gland). Overall, there is nothing wrong with you, you just need to learn more about your body in order to discover more pleasure. Good luck, use protection and have fun.

I am mulit-orgasmic...many ways...clitorial and vaginal and g-spot. Lol please don't hate me! In general very few woman have vaginal orgasms, though porn, and romantic movies and harelquin romance novels would liek use to believe otherwise. But hey if you are coming from clitorial stimulation good on you and if you feel sastified then f*ck your friends for being assholes by telling you they are immature.

G-spots are different some women can have them eventhough they don't get a vaginal orgasm (I know a gspot and vaignal certainly feels different for me), you may want to just try and find it yourself one night and try masterbating and seeing if you like it, or just ot locate it so its easier for your partner to find. There are plenty of diagarams and advice on how to find it if you google g-spot.

I find it just feels differeint. G-spots are my fav for sure..but my bf has now been able to do clitorial and vaginal and sometime gspot all at once...and honestly that is the most amazing thing ever. He bascially does doggie and starts rubbing the clitorius in teh right way and rythm and I seriously turn into a pile of mush aftewards.

Clitorial is something new for me actually, normally I have orgasms through penetration and mutliple of them very easily...clitorial is new and its been good too. I do prefer penetration though..to me they feel more intense, but it doesn't mean you are missing out on anything if oyu just have ciltorial. Because I think does are pretty amazing too. I think a lot of it just comes with relaxing and experience and different experimentation with different positions and how to people's parts fit together.

Just enjoy what you have and be open minded to exploring other stuff. Try vibrators, like the previous post suggested. And just a lot of time it is just experimenting and finding out what works for you.

"What difference does it make to the dead, the orphans and the homeless, whether the mad destruction is wrought under the name of totalitarianism or the holy name of liberty or democracy?" Ghandi

Actually, a vaginal orgasm (G-spot-related) is stimulating the interior part of the clitoris. The clitoris actually extends back and out, so what we think of as the G-spot is related to clitoral orgasms. And yes, I personally couldn't enjoy sex without G-spot stimulation. It makes sex worth having!

Clitoral, Gspot and vaginal orgasms are all different. And I love having them that way. Different that is.

I can't see how an orgasm from stimulus from the clit is immature. I get the feeling those girls are only saying so because they don't enjoy it as much as a vag-gasm.
Its different for every woman, some go nuts and feel the greatest satisfaction from the clit and others from the g and others from the vag.

I suggest just doing some serious exploring with your partner and finding out what really hits it down there. Use fingers, tongue, vibes, anything really, dont hold back!

Can't really add much more; the ladies have done an excellent job, but as far how they're different in feeling--in laymen's terms, clitoral is more electric and vaginal, I think, is more of an explosion, almost? Though honestly if you look up statistics you'd be shocked how many women can't orgasm through penetration alone; I'm happy you orgasm at all. Some ladies just downright fake it and stay unsatisfied. But either way they're both mind-blowing so your co-workers can all suck on a lemon. I don't get how it's immature? Perfectly grown women still play that way; myself included. It drives the boy nuts.

I'd have to agree on relaxing and trying out new positions. I don't know if this is a problem for you too but some find it hard to get there because they're not totally relaxed ("did I do this or that") so whenever you try this, don't focus on getting there; just go with it. And get a kama sutra book; 101 positions; something. :)And toys! Mmm fun. Just try them all and have fun with it. The different positions and elevations offer a different experience every time, and some of them enhance the depth and/or intensity of penetration so that might help.

Good luck!

I'm not quite sure how you define "experienced" but I have only slept with 3 men and would consider myself a lot more sexually experienced than some friends who have slept with 10+. Number of partners does not increase your sexual skill at all!

Back to the question. For me, orgasms in different positions (whether they're vaginal or clitoral) feel different. A vaginal orgasm on top feels different than doggy style. (Even on top, sitting up, feels different for me than on top, laying down close to him). A clitoral orgasm feels different if it's from a vibrator or from his tongue. Since different parts of your body are being stimulated, the body's reaction is different. I would never call clitoral orgasms "immature"! My boyfriend can get me off vaginally, but I still GREATLY enjoy oral sex! Oh, just to note, vibrator penetration does nothing for me; so I wouldn't worry about it too much if that didn't work for you either.

Simple answer Yes you can have one on the inside and one on the outside the inner one is usually more intense.

Some women can also ejaculate through clitoral stimulation.

I thought women "ejaculated" (that sounds so weird) from stimulating the g spot? Anyway, I'm not a huge fan of the clitoral orgasm unless it's coupled with a vaginal orgasm or a eyes rolling back in my head toes curling g spot orgasm. After 4 years with a guy who never made me orgasm with penetration I am happy to say I found a guy who can and I am in heaven. Very much more intense then just a clitoral orgasm.

I can only have clitoral orgasms. I've been with the same guy for 5 years and we've tried everything. I just don't think I can orgasm vaginally.

"immature" orgasms? that is the STUPIDEST thing i've EVER heard. honestly.

for quite a while after i first lost my virginity i thought that i could only have clitoral orgasms, much like hiding55 the right guy proved me wrong. i prefer vaginal orgasms to clitoral but that's my personal taste -- other people i know prefer clitoral. it all depends on your body, everyone reacts differently. if i were you for now i'd concentrate on how to stimulate your g-spot, which can be done with certain positions in bed that give your partner that right angle. you might want to also check out the slanted cushion (don't remember what it's called) that dearsugar posted on here a few days ago.

i agree with jesssa.there is no such thing as an "immature" orgasms...if people are so different in every other way..why would sex be any different..its all about experimenting and seeing what works for you..what one person gets off on, another person might hate.do whatever makes you get in the mood and eventually get off.i personally love the bullet..and just looking at my boyfriend sends me into la la land.the most important thing is to have fun..if ur not having fun..there is no point..who cares what other people like..are other people having the oragasm for you. sooo RELAX!! do what you want to do!

Immature orgasm? Look an orgasm is an orgasm and I'll take however which way it comes to me:D

I 2nd that Myst!

Actually, it was Freud who said there were two different types of orgasms and veiwed clitoral orgasms as "immature". But, yes, like CYL said, porn, romance novels and movies all portray sex as "perfect": no mishaps, no rude noises, positions always work and the woman always orgasms. So just ignore your friends because, quite frankly, they're obviously still living in the Fantasy Land created by all the romance novels they've been reading and the movies they've been watching.

Can't add anymore. But just want to say, I LOVE BOTH. Different, yeah, can't really describe the feeling, but I like having 'em..'immature' or not LOL I'd take 'em both or either one every time.

I think common thinking is ejaculation is from the G-spot, but for me, it's clitoral.

"Immature orgasm? Look an orgasm is an orgasm and I'll take however which way it comes to me:D"

Ditto.

To:MyOwnRules,
You are right about Freud- I just read a paper written by him for my women's psychology course. Personally, I think the whole thing is just ridiculous as I mentioned in my first response. One of the big criticisms of Freud was that he knew so little about women. I think there was an agenda behind it because back then, womens main purpose was to be a mother and reproduce within the confines of marriage (since there was not readily available birth control). So, women were made to feel that orgasming through intercourse was somehow 'superior.' No wonder so many men to this day understand so little about womens bodies and so many women are unable to orgasm or are made to feel sexually inadequate if they can't have an orgasm through intercourse. It really frustrates me. Particularly since the women the op works with are actually very ignorant about their bodies to begin with and are making her feel bad/inadequate. Annoying. Let's educate and empower ourselves, ladies, instead of buying into outdated theories.

"immature"? were your friends students of Freud or something?? I'm sorry there is no way a woman actually said that . . .

To Janine22: Totally agree! A lot of people think that if a guy measures himself, masturbates or anything like that, it's normal guy stuff but if a woman masturbates or (horror of horrors) looks at herself in a mirror, she's a "slut". Another problem (and another HUGE contributor to misinformation), is like what CYN said: romance novels, movies and porn. I love romance novels (and have about a zillion, LOL) and I do enjoy porn from time to time, but the scenes are all "perfect" and so many people mistake them for reality. So when a position doesn't work, or there's an unexpected surprise (someone falls out of bed, makes a "rude" noise, or hits their head/elbow/leg/whatever on something, etc.) and the woman doesn't orgasm then they think something went "wrong". Grrrrrr.

yea ! definitely the clitoris and vaginal orgasms are different from each other. when i masturbate, i go for a clitoris orgasm..and with my hubby..i get vaginal satisfaction. vaginal is more intense and it feels amazing. citorial orgasm is a wonderful feeling of satisfaction by your own hands. i try different positions of sex. and rubbing ur pussy(g spot) while getting f*cked will give you an awesome orgasm.