sometimes. Not obsessively, but if your around another couple enough, you can't help but notice the differences

Nope.

I do that a lot, but in the end I realize that my relationship is completely different so if we're not at the same place, its not that big of a deal.

not obsessively like missyd says but yes for sure...it's only natural, especially if they started around the same time and if you spend lots of time together

thankfully i'm the one being able to say "but my boyfriend..." in a good way!

When I was in a bad relationship I noticed how all our couple friends were much more affectionate and loving than we were... should've clued me in!

Nah not really, my friend Amanda and I can better understand each other when it comes to our boyfriends because of how they are and how similar Amanda and I are.

But as far as comparing not so much-I don't think anyone could truly understand another's relationship if you're not the one in it. Also a lot of my friends currently date, married and are engaged to certain types of men I would never date anyways...so what is there to compare?

I've always been pretty different than my friends relationship-wise. It took almost a year and a half for me and The Husband to exchange ILYs. It's just one of those things that takes me a long time to decide.

Not in the way the post describes, but I do watch my friends' relationships to see if I can figure out what makes them work well together (or not). Everyone's relationship is different but there are lessons to be learned everywhere.

I think I just naturally compare myself to the people in my life. It's a bad habit and facebook makes it so much worse! Now that I've been in a relationship for awhile, it doesn't really bother me. When I was single, that was a totally different story

No....I have a great relationship with my husband and I'm pefectly happy with the way things are. There's no reason for me to compare it with anyone elses.

Sometimes...normally when my relationship is going through a rough patch. But a lot of times and most of the time I just realize how lucky I am to be with my guy if I do compare. But normally I don't just because every relationship is different...

nope never have and never will.

I'm sorry but who would say "I love you" after one month of dating.. there is so much you must learn from that person still. Its true what Jay said. The three words are said to frequently. There is a difference between Love and Lust. And coming from Erin that has acknowledge the fact of having 3 boyfriends at the time. I believe Whitney and Jay relationship will eventually get there. and there is nothing wrong with taking things slow.

and i would never compare my relationship to another.

Since all of my friends are either single or in "young" relationships, for lack of a better term (like only 3 months of dating or so...) it's hard to compare because my boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years and live with each other. Maybe if we knew another couple in the same situation as us, I would. But, I wouldn't obsess about it. Everyone is different, and every relationship is different.

As tempting as it sometimes may be, it is never a good idea.

Sort of yeah from time to time, especially when they seem happier than you and your man, but on the whole, I try not to let it get the best of me because I am so happy with my own relationship and wouldn't trade it with anyone for anyone else. I love my bf!

Nope, but the bf does. He acts on it too. Just cause something is allowed or works for another couple does not mean its justified in ours. So it has caused problems between him and I.

try not to

No. The only way I'd compare it is by example: Just because their's is like that doesn't mean that ours is jsut like it too. Many people go through that stuff, there's no reason why we shouldn't be mature enough to deal with it better than they do!

yes i do, it seems like quite a few of my friends have dysfunctional relationships so when i watch say my best friend and her psycho boyfriend together it makes me appreciate my perpetual on-again off-again boyfriend more. i can't help but compare.

Well, I suppose I do in a negative way. When I was single, I'd analyze situations my friends experienced and think... how would I react? would I accept that? or would I be angry?

my closest friends have almost all been dating their chosen partners for 3+ years, and I'm starting to think I'd be getting engaged if it were me, but they haven't yet. So... yes, I suppose I do in the sense that I think how I would be in their place. When I'm in a relationship, I'd compare it in the sense of - I'd kill my bf if he ever did that, or, I wish my boyfriend would do that.

But the way things appear isn't always how they really are, so there's no point either pitying or envying anyone too much!

we used to hang out with a couple that were in the same situation as we were in so I couldn't help but notice some similarities and differences.

I do, and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I tend to move things too fast, so I ask my friends for advice on when "normal" people would do this or that. Plus it's very useful to learn from other's mistakes.

I do! Sometimes in a negative way (like, I'm jealous that they're in relationships, and I'm not), but sometimes in a good way (I've learned various things I really don't want to do in my next relationship).