I've never been one to have serious relationships, so after dating a guy for a couple months this Summer, I developed real feelings for him. However, I don't think the relationship started out on the right foot as I wasn't really looking for a boyfriend at that time. I ended up bringing him home on the first date — we did not sleep together but things progressed rather quickly from there on out. It has now been five months since I broke off the five-month relationship, and I am still beating myself up for the way I handled things.
I broke it off because I wanted a more serious relationship and he did not; I wasn't going to continue dating him with no commitment. I feel like he didn't see the best of me as my behavior changed during the course of our relationship. I know this was a learning experience but I am wondering why I can't get over it. I feel like I still have something to prove to him and I can't let go of it. Do you have any advice?
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Ha, you should read my post from a few days ago. I just broke up with a guy after almost 4 months because he wasn't willing to move the relationship forward, and he was still hung up on an ex from early 2008.
Instead of beating yourself up over the way you feel you handled yourself, write it all down, then tear it up and let it go. We all have regrets when it comes to relationships, and it's easy to look back and say "Things would have worked if only I had . . ." or "Maybe I should have been more ______, then we would have lasted." Trust your own judgement and don't be hard on yourself. When you meet that next great guy, you'll be SO glad you aren't still with whatshisname.
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