Sit down with your boyfriend and let him know you're not unhappy with the relationship or him as a whole but that you're worried about the relationship stalling. Then explain that, to you, there's a difference in the way you spend time together day-to-day (living together) and spending time together as a couple (quality time) and ask him what his response to that is and if he has any suggestions.

As for cheap ideas: there are dollar theatres in some cities (they are a couple months behind regular theatres so no new relases) or, if you don't have dollar theatres in your city, you can go to the matinee. You can also go for walks/drives, take a class (community colleges often offer the public inexpensive classes), rent movies (Netflix is pretty inexpensive) or play games at home.

The first suggestion I made because even though you explained how you felt spending so little time together, you're boyfriend's response makes me think he doesn't realize you need quality time vs. just living together.

Well, maybe you've got to make your own excitement, since it seems like he isn't noticing the lack thereof. You've already tried to express your feelings through words, but unfortunately he's a (sorry, in this case "typical") guy and it might take a little more than lip service to get the message through his head.

Why not try setting up a date for you guys yourself? It doesn't have to be fancy or even expensive. Use what your circumstances have actually given you- if you bend even a little bit out of the norm, that's spicing it up right there. It could be making your (or his) favorite meal or surprising him after work to explore a section of your city you don't normally frequent. It could be the subtle push he needs to realize it's fun to change things up a bit.

You don't spend enough quality time together, but do you spend too much time with each other altogether? Try a new activity solo or with your friends -- away from your bf and home. Less face time could be good, so that whenever you're together, you won't take each other for granted -- and it'll count. You'll have new things to talk about and you'll learn something new about yourself. It might just motivate him to find something new to do, too.

Or, maybe you two could pick up a new hobby together, like rock climbing, dancing, paintballing, going to concerts, etc...The key theme here is to spice things up a bit by injecting something new into your relationship. If your bf is comfortable being laid back and lazing around at home, but you're not, you have to tell him how you feel. Just remember that not every moment is going to be heart-racing, thrilling fun. Being comfortable with each other is valuable, too.

I think that's pretty normal for a relationship when you're living together. What you need to do is try to respect his space by hanging out with your girlfriends more often, he might feel a little suffocated always being around just one person. I know it sounds backwards but spending time apart makes the time you have together more special. As for cheap ideas I don't know if there are any parks where you live but it is a great way to spend the day for free.

My husband and I go on walks together around our neighborhood, some people think it's corny or like an old-people thing to do, but it's really nice because we talk. Also, cooking together can be lots of fun! You have to eat dinner anyway, find some recipes you'll both enjoy. We also watch movies together, at home or at the theater, just find some common interests.

My boyfriend and I moved in together soon after we started dating. Initially I felt the same way, I was used to us constantly being out with our friends and at parties, so I felt like we weren't spending time together although we were in the same room. As time went on we developed a nice set of activities we enjoy together such as playing games together such as Guitar Hero & Jeopardy etc. on the PlayStation (and we saved for a Wii so we can get that when it's available again). We also cook meals and eat together. We walk to work together in the mornings. Go to book sales (we both like to read) and we have a joint Netflix account so we have an agreement to get movies we would like to share with each other. Also we save money so we can go up to NYC once in a while (we live in Philly) to see a play and get dinner. So although we aren't out all night we are still making time for each other and doing activities together.

He's right though, you already live together. Why do you feel the need to always be attached at the hip with him? Go out on your own.

my bf and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and I've been feeling the same way. he got me a puppy for my bday and its brought us closer together. we go out for walks and all that jazz. it's a big responsibility though and a commitment but we love our baby!

my boyfriend says the same thing when we are in the same house but not spending time together or watching tv like oh we are together all the time. lol. I say make a date night, you guys have friends no? go on double date out to eat. Go play pool, bowling, ping pong. =)plus there are activities you can do without each other just to get outa the house. Join gym, go out for a jog, just alone. So that way you are not "together" all the time. =) good luck. but you definitely need to talk about it, maybe more than you already did. Good luck!

Invite him to go sledding/on a walk/out for coffee/snowboarding or skiing/ice skating/swimming/to the movies/to see live music/to a play/to a high school sports event ETC. and if he doesn't want to go, call a friend or go by yourself! Seeing that independent and fun loving streak in you will make him want you even more and you'll get to have fun either way.

If it's your cup of tea, volunteer together. Me and fiancee are big on animal rescues and the humane society.

Or go walking together, have a picnic (and don't go all out on the food, just simple food), watch your local baseball/hockey games... Eh, me and my fiancee do watch tv in different rooms at certain times, but we have our weekly movie night where we HAVE to find a movie we BOTH like LOL.

Or you go out on your own or with friends

Um, Im not sure how the sex is going, but I suggest, just one day do something really hot and unexpected. Sex is a very powerful thing. Guys like when a girl can be spontaneous.

Yep, that's real life.
We make a schedule, have a basic one but its flexible. Certain nights of the week are for us to "do our own thing" which often includes being in different rooms while I watch shows he hates and he plays video games. A couple nights we spend non quality time together (watching tv while doing tasks on our computers in the computer room). And then we have at least two nights a week where its to have more quality time - one is a date night where we go out to "our restaurant" (maybe you can find a local inexpensive place you like to go to) and the other night watching a movie holding hands on the couch.
Now- he doesn't need to have those definitions, and it sounds like your guy might not want to have to THINK about it either, but for your peace of mind you might want to set some terms, otherwise too many nights of "but honey, we never spend any time together" with a response of "we LIVE together and are together ALL THE TIME!" can put a lot of stress on a realationship.

There's many things you can do, and you don't really need money for it. I'm sure there's things around that are free. For instance, in NYC, it's free to ride the Staten Island ferry. It's a nice ride and can be quite romantic. You two need to get out of that house! Maybe go for a nice evening walk, or go to the park or do something. You're being couch potatoes and in that instance, you're being as lazy with your relationship along with being lazy with yourselves!

I don't really know what to tell you, but I'm glad to know so many others feel the same way I do...it kinda makes me realize that it is just a normal cycle.

And I don't at all see how anyone can claim that you are being too clingy or attached at the hip...that wasn't even part of the issue. Don't pay atttention to that.

If you feel that you're staying at home together too much, then just make a certain day of the week your day out. In other words, if you choose Thursday as your night out then make it so that you go different places each week. Places that may put a spark back into your relationship because it's something new for you both to experience. You may learn new things about each other.

the real issue is that he's happy the way things are and you aren't. seems like maybe the tv should go, but will he agree to that? sheesh, talk about being taken for granted.

My bf and I were in pretty much the same situation and it was bothering me a lot. I would talk to him about it but it didn't really get through so I decided to write him a letter. it gave me more time to really think through what i wanted and needed to say and allowed me to not get mad about it as opposed to if i was speaking to him. Anyways we have changed a lot since then. Some things I suggest are: playing card games together, going on walks around the neighborhood, going out for dessert once in a while or for tea/coffee, find new recipes and try them together, go to the bookstore and get some books and then spend time reading instead of watching TV, local cheap theatres, MUSEUMS. And of course spend some time alone or with your own friends every once in a while!

well i am married, so its different, but we go to seperate rooms sometimes and do individual things, its different though if you guys have stopped growing together in your relationship and hit a stagnant point, which will happen to everyone but when you are just living together, that can mean sudden death

You have to get out and do your own thing once in a while. When I lived with my ex he had no car and no license so he basically never left the apartment unless I did. He literally went everywhere with me and I never got ANY time to enjoy the apartment on my own. He would complain that we didn't spend enough time together and I would be like HELLO we are together every second except for when we are at work and even then we talked to each other all day over email/text. Thank God he is now my ex and finally out of my hair. So, def both of you need to do your own thing once in a while because you will then in turn enjoy the time you do spend together much more and actually appreciate it for what it is.

I just broke up with my fiancee for this reason. I was a proponent of walks, parks, exploring the city. He was a proponent of having the TV on every single moment. Sad, but true. Sometimes I think you just have to give up.

Same as zcoral actually, except with him it was the computer. I think all of the suggestions above are excellent ones, try them all and find your own thing, but if he's not cooperating, you need to decide if you want to have quality time on your own or find someone who has the same need for social time as you do.