Fighting with your best friend can be even more heartbreaking than fighting with a significant other, but a bond between BFFs is hard to completely let go. This was proven last night on The Hills when Lauren and Heidi caught up at the SLS Hotel opening. Although their relationship is undoubtedly strained, Lauren could see right though Heidi's tough exterior and told her that no matter what, if she ever needed anything, she'd be there for her.
After all they've been through, it was clear that they missed each other, but tell me, could you ever be that gracious to someone who betrayed you?

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Probably not unless it was something incredibly difficult, not just a breakup with a boyfriend or something.
1I would answer this question if it wasnt tainted with a beforemention of The Hills.
2Depends on what I was betrayed about. But usually something that serious would definitely break our friendship, I don't care how close we used to be. So I definitely wouldn't feel the need to be gracious to them.
I've had so-called "BFFs" who have done some terrible things to me. And I've told them that I've never wanted to see or hear from them again as long as I live, and I won't try to make contact. I've kept up my end, and I don't regret any bit of it.
Then again, The Hills is a really really strange show. @_@
3*I meant "something very serious" rather than "something that serious". I don't watch the Hills much, so I don't know what happened in the beginning to break them up, anyway.
4If my BF and I broke up, I would be there for him no matter what -- even if we broke up for serious reasons. This is my absolute best friend, and if he needed me after we are done, I would be there. Right now, he is mine, and my best friend, and I would still be here for him no matter what happens.
5i would always be there for a friend going through an incredibly tough time even if i wasn't friends with them anymore or we had drifted apart...BUT if it was a huge betrayal then obviously i wouldn't want to have anything to do with them...but there are some people you have a falling out with about something not that important (seems important at the time but you realize it's not that big a deal later) and i'd still stick by them if they ever needed me.
6I've been in a position where I felt the need to break up with one friend, but did not feel the same sort of animosity toward the girl who was attached at the hip with the bad friend, but that's how it happened (hope that made sense). I had an awkward teary-eyed sort of scenario such as Lauren/Heidi's and while it was slightly cathartic, it didn't change the fact that things will never quite be the same. I've since made some inroads...Hopefully Heidi can dump Spencer and return to her regularly scheduled life already in progress.
7Definitely. My BFF and I aren't really in touch right now but I'd be there for her no matter what but I doubt she'd reach out to me.
8I felt betrayed by my bestfriend and things were never the same. We recently started seeing each other in get togethers, since she is also my sister in law, but things will never ever be the same. She can count on me if she really needs to in urgent situations but not for advise or to talk on the phone like we used to. THings will never be the same. I just can't see her or trust her anymore.
9Gracious; but not friendly. It's a case by case basis- I may begin a new friendship with boundaries or write them off altogether. Depends on what happened and what I choose to do.
10I don't watch the Hills, so I have no idea about that stuff, but I've had to end it with a few BFF's before. Some got into things that were bad and tried dragging me with them. I told them that i couldn't do that and they shouldn't, but they didn't listen, so I had to walk away for my safety. Then I had one that kicked me out right before my senior college exams for a boy. She also drove me while she was drunk and promised me that she was sober. (She was sneaking shots and I'm bad at telling people when people are drunk.) I tried to maintain a friendship, but she'd always brush me off for this guy, even missed my graduation party because her boyfriend was playing a gig. There's obviously her side, but she won't talk to me. When they broke up, I tried to be there for her, but she never calls or emails me back, however she asks other people about me. I've pretty much given up; it's just upsetting because I do care about her and want to be her friend.
11I'll always be there for all my friends even if they are not BFFs. I went through a difficult time when my husband passed away three years ago and I cannot express how helpful, caring and available all my friends were. I will always be there for them no matter what. In terms of betrayal, I don't think that would ever cross my mind and do it to a friend. If a friend does it to me then you can always talk it out and determine if he/she is truly your friend.
12i try to be unconditional in my dealings with my friends, having said that however there are things that i cannot forgive. and when i say i cannot forgive, that would mean i would just fade away without any notice and not return calls and not respond to emails.. the reason for that is not to be mean.. i do not want to have to point out my friend's flaws... i would stick it out though, until i cannot take it anymore.. then i would be the invicible woman... i have very few friends, maybe because i am picky but also because i do not get very close with anyone.. the saying "familiarity breeds contempt" always held true for me... i hate drama and having friends always make my life full of drama... i guess i am just cautious...
13I've done it in spite of me. Not sure i want to in the future.
14I was betrayed by two best friends, and they can seriously rot in hell.
One of them - I'd like to think that if she called me to tell me her Dad had cancer I'd forget everything and be there for her in a heartbeat, except her betrayal was to NOT call ME for 6 months after I told HER that MY Dad had cancer. She even had the audacity to call me up after those six months and be angry with ME for not getting in touch. So f*ck her and her problems.
The other one - I had a severe bout of depression and anxiety a couple of years ago, that lasted for a few weeks (not months, not years, just a couple of weeks). She invited me to a birthday party for a friend of hers, and seeing how depressed I was, I decided to politely and discreetly excuse myself so as to not ruin the party. The next day she called me and lay into me really hard for "being a selfish b*tch" and "not being able to get over myself". Her rant lasted two hours, and drove me under my desk whimpering with the most horrible, heartbreaking anxiety attack I have ever had. She can go and get hit by a bus for all I care. I was there to support her through her drug habits and skanky boyfriends for years - and I'm not allowed to be depressed for two weeks? Please go drop dead.
I have some wonderful friends that I'd give an arm for. Those who prove to be that unworthy, I will never forgive, whatever the circumstances.
15There are some things that I would not forgive anyone for. Including my husband or my family. I hold grudges. Forever. Sad for some but true for all.
16Most of the friendships I've had that have ended are because either one of us has changed in a significant way, but nothing too dramatic has ever been involved (like sex tape rumors!). It is pretty easy for me to forgive, so yes, if I was Lauren-- I think I'd forgive Heidi. It was such a long time ago anyway, and there's no need to hold grudges for that long. You don't have to forget, but you can forgive. Growing apart from a person is different, however, because usually there is no definitive reason for the friendship to end. I've found that is a lot more confusing and frustrating at times than being mindlessly hurt by the other person. In Heidi and lc's case though, I think it was a mix of both. Spencer brainwashed heidi and kept her apart from lauren & her other friends. But if you watch the 1st season, heidi wasn't ever that great of a friend anyway.
lol I really dislike this show and only watch it to mock it basically, and it's a horrible example of what friendships/relationships should be... but, I digress. It's addicting and somehow I find a way to think of it in a serious way haha.
17A Scorpio trait is extreme loyalty to friends until death, but you expect the same degree of loyalty from them, and if one of them betrays you, you are done.
That pretty much says it for me.
18It depends on the severity of the betrayal, if it was something huge probably not. But in any other case I would definitely be there for her/him. I'm very sensitive with these issues and even if the person has done something wrong i believe in second chances and I'd be there for them no matter what.
19I have been gracious to friends in the past who have betrayed me..this has come back to haunt me before but I can't help it - it's just in my nature to be that way.
20I didn't read this question, or the comments, but I would just like to point out how much classier Lauren looks in this picture than Heidi. Heidi looks like a big fake barbie doll (and not in a good way) who thinks shes still 16 years old. Lauren looks mature and sophisticated (not in an old, boring way either).
21Who are Lauren and Heidi and where are these hills that they are living in?
22Going through that right now, and I have no idea how I have the strength to continue with this. And trust me, I'm still here for her "no matter what" and it's not over some spilled milk or an argument over some material thing either.
23I definitely got all teary eyed when Lauren broke down and said "Heids" when Heidi was crying about her mom
24Personally, if it were meant for us to be friends again I'm sure it would happen but in this situation I wouldn't dare...anytime a girl chooses a jackass over friendship i wouldn't trust her. Sure I'd be cordial but that's the extent of it.
25Life is short and you keep positive people around you...
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