Why would you wait for someone who basically told you not to bother contacting him again? Find someone who isn't an *sshole. I'm sure this one will come crawling back AFTER it doesn't work out with the other girl. DO NOT let him come back, do you want to be 2nd choice?

Ok first I have to ask..did you meet him online and online Long distance dated for 7 months? Because this sounds like what happened to my friend a while back after her bf visited her and they met and hung out together for hte first itme and then they broke up cuz it wasn't what they thought it would be. If that is the case it is different from knowing someone as a friend of started dating for a month and then them moving away and dating them for 7 months.

I have nothing against online dating but as well all know, when you actually meet the person things can be different from talking on the phone, im or email or webcam. I have nothing against online dating in fact that's how I met my current bf..I am just saying if that is the case his behaviour makes a lot of sense. You guys met finally and for you it might have been great but for him...perhaps he was expecting more...or something else?

At any rate the way he handled the situation was not at all classy. Just consider yourself lucky you got rid of such a jerk..and like bluestar says don't take him back!

Yeah, you got played. If he doesn't want to talk to you, there's nothing else you can do. Move on.

I have to say that you're better off without him. You got played. Move on with your life... and do not let him come crawling back.

I've never online dated. What happened to me was much stranger than that. More like um..You've Got Mail meets The Lakehouse with a SAW twist. It wasn't pleasant and caused a tremendous amount of tormenting stress and grief. So, I would never do online dating, or chatting in detail for that matter nor would I agree to a long distance relationship. It's not what I want, so I wouldn't accept it.

But in this case, I think you chalk it up to the fact that he's just a mean, insensitive person. Be glad you don't have to suffer his abuse anymore and try to heal emotionally. 'Get whole' and go on with your life as it was minus the jerk.

You should be thankful that this relationship isn't that long (he sounds like a jerk the way he handled the break up--don't bother contacting me? Tsk). MOVE ON. He clearly isn't the guy for you. Maybe you got played, but it doesn't matter now.

I don't think you got played, I think he's got some crazy-cracker issues. Seriously. NOT NORMAL! He sounds really emotionally unstable, borderline needs to be committed. He's needy, an attention-wh*re, and has the emotional attention-span of a fruit fly. He thinks love is about who is giving him the most attention at the time. He'll probably be back, so brace yourself - you should never answer his call again, he's a freaking nutjob.

Breathe a huge sigh of relief, girl! And you are allowed to make fun of him, too.

If he was willing to hurt you like that then he isn't worth a minute of your time. I know it is hurtful and confusing and the confusion makes it harder to let go at first, but you'll get through it in time.

Send him a big f*ck you letter for playing with your emotions like that. It's pretty obvious you got played, he asked another girl out and now won't talk to you. The man is a jerk and you're better off without him.

If By "old married couple" you mean you had alot of sex, and canoodled , then well really you were just like "an old played long distance mark" and he got what he wanted and onto the next.

Lesson learned.

Right on, CG.

So sorry this happened to you, OP. While I am a firm believer that not all men are dogs...it sounds like this one really is. Whether you got played or he just has his own crazy issues -- it's irrelevant. No one should be allowed to treat you that way. Cease any contact with this bonehead, pronto. But not before you write him a serious Dear John letter. Regardless of whether you mail it, it will help to clarify your own feelings about the situation.

Take solace in your friends, take some time to yourself, and you'll be well on your way to finding someone who is much more worth your efforts.

oh dear, that sound horrid. I can imagine how frustrating this must be for you, I really sympathise...
That said, I think I'll have to be the first to break the chain of 'he's a player'responses. Could it be that in your enthousiasm you read more into it all than he did. So maybe he was intersted, maybe very interested even, but the fact that you felt like an old married couple, and were clearly thinking ahead made him less eager? I'm not saying you're wrong for feeling that way, nor has he any right to treat you like this, but could it be that his love has cooled down because you were maybe coming on too strong? We all know that men sometimes have to be eased into a relationship, like the chase, etc...

I agree with Bluestar DO NOT PLAY yourself!!!!!!!!!!

FORGET HIM and move on, nobody deserves to screw you over like that.

OMG please do not write him a letter saying how sad this makes you!! You need to tell him, "Good, I'm glad you're gone! It saves me the difficulty of having to dump your sorry a**. And PS, the sex was terrible!" lol, or something like that. He doesn't deserve your tears, he deserves for you to laugh in his face! Sorry this happened to you

Ew, what an *sshole! You did get played. What are you waiting for? Dump him!!

"Should I wait it out or give up?"

Sorry, you don't have either of those choices...there is nothing to wait out or give up. HE cut off contact and told you to do the same, end of story. It is over.

Agree with Karlotta...I think this guy enjoyed what he got from you and has moved on. This doesn't make you an idiot who got played...you are just a good person who cared about another and got used. I am so sorry this happened to you , but unfortunately it happens to almost everybody in some way or another.

He is a motherf@ucker, and you are well rid of him..do NOT talk to him. Take care of yourself and hang with people that will not treat you this way. With time you will get better.

I'm sorry that you had to go through that. A very similar situation happened to me in late August. I stopped talking to him altogether, and started working out a lot instead of eating ice cream and laying around. Throwing myself into my work and taking care of myself really helped, so did watching a lot of Jane Austen movies -- which reminded me of the guys I really wanted. He was such a Willoughby, but pretended to be a Mr. Darcy the whole time. It's hard to get over, because nothing makes sense and you want closure, but I say, just let it go, because he really isn't worth your time. When you take care of yourself, you'll realize how much happier you are without him.

Talk about disturbia.

kick him in the *ss!!

I am so sorry that happened to you! I had a bf of almost two years who dumped me sort of the same way. He basically went to drill one weekend and then never, I mean never, called me again. Not even to say "we are breaking up". I found out through mutual friends what was going on.

The best thing that you can do for yourself is stay positive, pick up, and move on. There are better men out there who will respect you. Mourn the relationship if you must, but then set it all aside and move on. You never know who you may meet tomorrow!

dont even wait for this loser to call you. he clearly just has you as an option and now that he has someone closer by you are no longer of importance to him. don't wait for him. don't listen to his pathetic excuses if they ever come at all, and its time to move on.

Honey, I really hate to drop the bomb on you like this but he did PLAY you like a fiddle! He's not worth holding on to, for what! If he's taking the time out to call you and leave nasty messages like that then he's really got some issues.
Long distance relationships rarely work out but if this so called new girl has his mind all in a bind then she's going to be the next victim on his list! Don't feel to bad about the situation b/c she's going to get the PLAYER button just like you but maybe a little worse. Never underestimate your self b/c things happen for a reason and maybe he felt he wasn't the one for you! You never know she may be the one to show him what a PLAYER button feels like!

Like most of the comments........ Men are dog's but one day you will find MR RIGHT and he will be RIGHT on TIME!!

Yes ..... Unfortunately he played you big time and there's nothing else you can do about it.It sucks. Keep your self respect and don't bother to contact him.

He did you a huge favor and I hope someday you will see that.

He's obviously moved on and so should you.Your guy is out there somewhere just be patient. Good Luck to you!

Sometimes men can be such sc*mbags.

please dont contact him or write him a nasty letter. No reply is the best way. And as Ivana Trump has said-living well is the best revenge!

Yes girlfriend, you got P.L.A.Y.E.D. I agree with everybody else about how much he's an *sshole. Get get over it, I know it sucks but at least now you'll be more aware. God, i feel soo bad. That's why I don't understand "long distance relationships".