I was going to vote forgive, up until the point she said she's thinking of not telling her sister at all. So I changed it to NOT.

Forgive, IF you own up and admit what happened. If you don't tell her or cover it up, not forgive.

Let me get this straight: you want to be pre-emptively forgiven for a lie you are planning to tell?? Give me a break! Why do these people even write into this feature? what a joke.

tell her the truth. Offer to replace it, as you should do! Don't go home drunk again with people, then you wont be in the same situation again! Let it be an expensive lesson. Hope you fed the cat. You sound very irresponsible, (if this is a true post.)

Not forgive. You took something that didn't belong to you - family or not.

Forgive, I know it's a confessional and all, and it's what she's thinking right now, but she's in a distraught mode, hopefully people who confess read these things. It's just a jacket, tell your sister what you did. Pay her back for the jacket, or buy her another. It's really just a jacket, you two are sisters, there's no reason to lose a relationship over a jacket. God forbid one of you died tomorrow, is the jacket really going to be that important then? Pretty sure she loves you more than a stupid jacket.

It's not forgivable if you're not sorry. Be a grown up and take responsibility for what you did. Tell her what happened, apologize, offer to pay to replace it, and (here's the important part) don't borrow things without asking again! If you do those things, your sister should forgive you.

It's just a jacket, apologize, give her a gift card and move on.

Sorry, not forgive. You need to be more responsible with yourself and with other people's things. You borrowed something without permission, slept with some random guy, lost her jacket, and you're not planning on let her now. You need to be an adult and fess up to your sister now.

You stole it and lost it...it's borrowing when you ask, and are told yes. Your multitude of other problems are your problems...

Buy her new one, and get therapy for your selfishness, and give her a break by staying away from her for a LONG time. Jeez!!

Be a big kid and own up to what you did. She already is going to be furious that:
a) you went through her closet without permission;
b) you took her FAVORITE article of clothing [and a LEATHER jacket - kind of on the expensive side!];
c) you're forgetful in nature and irresponsible in her eyes;
d) you left it in a cab.

Don't make her have to start calling you a liar, too.

And offer to replace the jacket, if you can. Or get something else you sister has been wanting. If she's still disappointed, she's allowed that.

Your sister will probably forgive you because she's your *sister*.

Side note: If you're so irresponsible and forgetful, WHY IN THE WORLD would your sister trust you with keys to her apartment and with feeding her cat? Something doesn't sound right. :\

Own up to your mistake and offer to pay her back for the jacket, or buy another one if possible.

Well I'd say you proved your sister right. Don't try to excuse your actions by calling yourself forgetful-you're irresponsible, selfish, and immature.

Tell your sister what you did and buy her a new jacket or pay her for it. Don't go home with guys you've just met. I would be so furious if my sister did something like this to me.

You are an adult...start acting like one!

Losing the jacket is forgivable but not telling the truth isn't. You have to tell her what happened and probably offer to make up for it in some way.

You've already taken advantage of your sister, by taking something of hers when you're doing her a favour, then you were irresponsible by leaving the coat in the cab. Did you try calling the cab company to see if someone put it in the lost and found? If not, and if this is within time, do so. The least you can do is try and unravel the mess before your sister gets back.

The above things are forgiveable. Immature, irresponsible and selfish, yes, but ultimately forgiveable.

Compounding that with not even being able to 'fess up to your actions, and letting your sister think *she* lost it, or someone *else* stole it is what makes it unforgiveable. It takes something irresponsible and makes it mean hearted and calloused.

Admit it, apologize, ask her to let you make it up to her. If you can't afford to buy her a jacket right away, make up an install plan and stick to it. Make up for your irresponsible actions by taking responsibility and atoning.

To be perfectly honest, if you were my sister, I'd be more upset at the fact that you slept with some random guy you met at a bar. A jacket is replaceable but your life isn't. A lot of things could've happened to you and need to remember that. Stop being immature let your sister know now.

I love my clothes, it takes me a brick load of money to get it. I'd cut a b!tch if she ever messed with my things.

I said forgive - but I voted before I saw the last part. Own up to what you did. She'll probably forgive you...but you still need to grow up and take responsibility for all of your actions.

Not only do you need to own up to it, you need to replace it for her!

Myst made a perfect point.

Did you call the cab company to find out if they still have it in lost and found or something?

Tell your sister, apologize and pay for a replacement. Don't just offer to pay, actually do it.

I voted Forgive-but only because it's your sister. If you were anything else, I'd say not.
You need to tell her, because like you said , it's her FAVORITE article of clothing, and she's going to notice it's missing soon and she will be a lot more angry that you didn't tell her until she noticed than if you come clean before. My sister ALWAYS used to take my things without permission when we lived together and it started to hurt our relationship. Since it happened so often, I started to feel like I couldn't trust her, and that she didn't have any respect for me. This could turn into a big deal if you don't fix it. Regardless of what others have said that it's "JUST" a jacket, it's the principle of the thing, so to speak.

well i know that if it were me - i wold be SOOO mad and i don't know if i would be able to forgive that one easily.

did you try calling the cab company and see if they have a lost and found? i know that here in NYC - it's not always likely that you'll get what you lost, but you can try to call - since you'd be surprised how honest some of the drivers can be.

I voted not forgive only if you if you don't tell her. You need to tell her exactly what happened and that it was you who lost it. And like ilanac said, do you what you can to either find it (like the lost and found of the cab company) or replace it! Tell her you are very sorry but you are willing to buy her a new one. If you don't tell her and make her think she lost it that's unforgivable.

forgive. What's not forgiveable about that. She's your sister, I borrow my sis's colthes ever since forever. You shouldn't have taken it, but just apologize, give her some money, and learn your lesson. She's always going to be your sis, and it would suck to hate each other over a jacket.

Hmm, I think your sister put a lot of trust in you when she thought you were irresponsible and what do you do? Break it. You didn't even take something that she might not have minded losing, you took her *favourite* item AND you didn't feed the cat.

You defintely need to tell her, because 1. she's going to know it's you anyways, you were the person she gave the key too the weekend it went missing, so fess up so she doesn't think you're a liar and a thief, 2. pay her back for it, although if it has sentimental value she will most likely still be pissed about it and 3. take full responsibility for your actions. You knew the jacket wasn't yours, you should've been more careful with it.

Personally, family or not, I think if you're going to be disrespectful of me, which you were when you took something without her permission, you should be treated the same way I treat others. Especially if I give you the benefit of the doubt and trust you.

Forgive. You shouldn't have done it and like someone else said, don't call yourself just forgetful, you were acting irresponsible. Take responsibility for your actions and don't act like you can't change how you act.
My younger sister took my favorite jacket once without my permission and lost it at her school. I was away at college and it was so funny, b/c about the day after she lost it, I called my mom to ask her to mail it to me b/c I realized I didn't have it and wanted it at school. I'm sure my sister freaked, LOL. Of course I had no idea my sister had taken it and lost it. But she found it in lost and found, so it was all good. But my point: Yeah, I was pretty mad, but a stupid thing like borrowing a jacket and losing it, isn't something I would never forgive my sister for...that's just crazy. I just won't ever let her borrow any of my clothes again, with or without permission, until she grows up a little and actually starts caring about other people's possessions.
So advice: Yeah, you did some stupid things that you shouldn't have, but nothing bad enough to not be forgiven for. So now you can fix it the best you can, by telling your sister the truth about what happened and offering to pay her for the jacket and/or find her another one. And of course apologizing like crazy. And don't do it again!! Respect people's things and the people themselves!!

She's probably going to be angry whether you confess or not - so just man up and tell her what happened. If she thinks someone stole the jacket or that she had lost it, wouldn't you feel as bad about that?

Tell her what happened and say you want to either buy her a new jacket or give her cash to replace it. She'll probably be angry, but it's better than deceiving her!

You pay her back for the jacket. Don't be a dumbass and try and pass it off that SHE lost it herself because she'll know it was in her closet when she went away if it is her favourite item of clothing.

People have too much attachment to material goods though ... so just offer to pay her back for the jacket and try and mend your now damaged relationship.

My sister ripped a big hole in my favourite jackets cuff after I lent it to her so EH I won't ever trust her with anything of mine ever again.

You are upset about a jacket, but not concerned with sleeping with a total stranger.

Wierd priorities.

You essentially stole from your sister ... which is wrong.

I was going with forgive up until the point she said, "I haven't mentioned it to her and I'm contemplating not saying anything at all. Can I be forgiven if I let her think someone else took it or that she herself lost it?"

Um, yeah... this is a forgivable offense IF you 'fess up and replace the jacket or pay her the cost of the jacket. If you don't tell her what happened, she'll figure it out... and the lost of her trust in you will hurt more than her being disappointed in you now.

And be prepared for your sister to not let you borrow anything for a LONG, LONG time... if ever.

Not forgive.

Honestly, if I trusted my sister enough to let her have the keys to my pad to house sit I would expect that she wouldn't go through my things! I mean I knoe you're her sister and everything, but everyon is entitled to their privacy!

Put your big girl britches on and own up to your mistake. Do what you have to in order to make it up to the girl. And in the future please dont take things without permission. Even my 4 yr old knows better.

My younger sister did this to me too. She took my fave leather jacket w/o me knowing and left and at school. It was gone. What really upset me is that I was looking for my jacket for 3 months and kept on asking her and everyone else about it and she NEVER said a word until 6 months passed. I was pissed to say the least!!! I am still a lil' disturbed by the fact that she lied/never said anything until well after. Own up to your mistake and eventually she will 4give you - I did.

better get something ridiculously nicer.

I agree with those above that said they were going to vote forgive until she said she was not going to tell her. You have to admit to your mistake to be forgiven.

I'd forgive but only if you immediately purchase a similar replacement (or, if that's not possible, give her $$ so she can eventually replace it) and tell her what happened. She definitely has a right to be pissed though. And you should at least try calling the cab company to see if they still have it.

But I don't get why people are bringing up what she did that night with a guy--she's not asking forgiveness for that and plenty of people do have one-night stands. As long as you use protection and neither party is committed to someone else, what's the harm once in awhile?

she isn't asking for foregiveness for LOSING the jacket! : Can I be forgiven if I let her think someone else took it or that she herself lost it?

She's asking for foregiveness for LYING about it.

grow up.

You tend to lose things? Then why would you set yourself up to be in this position?
Don't take anything without permission.
Don't be cavalier with other people's things.
Don't drink yourself into oblivion.
Don't sleep around (with your "forgetful nature" did you remember to use protection?)
Don't lie
Don't try to justify yourself.
Don't complain about your sister after she's been proven right.

Make it right, tell the truth, try to find the jacket, pay for it if it doesn't turn up, and never do this again. Oh, and when she asks you to give back her keys, do so.

i. I hope you fed her cat before you went out on the town.

1. Call the cab company.
1a. If they have it, then lucky you! But 'fess up anyway.
1b. If they don't have it, replace it. Don't care if you're broke. It's your responsibility. Pay her in installments. Take out a loan. But replace it.
2. Tell her the truth. Pleading guilty usually shortens a jail sentence, doesn't it? Ergo, an honest thief is more easily forgiven than a dishonest one.
3. Don't take anything belonging to her, or anyone, ever again without asking! That is called stealing.
3. Tell her the truth.
4. Be prepared to never be allowed to borrow her stuff ever again.
5. Get yourself tested for STDs.
6. Tell her the truth!

you are irresponsible. and i voted not to forgive u. u lied to ure sister, u didnt feed the damn cat, u didnt own up to ure mistake, you are okay with letting her think its someone else. how immature can u be? ure sister is right about u. u arent reliable. quit being such a big loser and confess to ure sister about it. u deserve a punishment. damn, dont u feel guilty? tsktsk

that's irresponsible behavior, anyway, do like what phunkometry said, my friends had lost their cellphones in cabs and found them back before, so give it a chance and see.
But sorry she is right to not forgive u!
whyyyy take something she owns and u KNOW is a favorite article of hers!knowing that u are forgetful and going to drink also might end up at someone else's home!(And it did happen)