I started to date this man who has a girlfriend two years ago, we ended our relationship once the girlfriend found out about us. It's about six months that we didn't really spoke with each other, somehow we started to talk again last month. Everything just come back all at once, it's really hard to be strong sometimes, I want to stay away from him but I'm too weak to do so.....what should i do? Can someone help me? PLEASE!! DESPERATELY!
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It's not a good sign for you, if he broke off the affair "when his girlfriend found out".
1There's obviously something holding him to her.
I hope you feel that you are worth more than being his girl on the side.
If he wanted to be with you, he would be. After all, he's not married, he just has a girlfriend. Much easier to break up with a girlfriend than a wife. And yet, he hasn't. And frankly, even if he did, you shouldn't want to be with him. He obviously has no problems cheating. Would you want him to treat you this way?
Go find someone who has eyes only for you.
2Thanks for the comment......both helps! Actually, I'm torn between the two!
3Walk away sweetie. You don't want to be with a man that cannot choose between two women. Don't you think you deserve to be with a man that worships the ground you walk on? How would you feel if you got back together with him only to discover he his cheating on you with another girl later down the road? Drop him like a bad habit sister! (snap snap!)
4Let him go. Find someone who is proud to be with you and not involved with anyone else. You owe it to yourself.
5Walk away! Any man who would cheat on his current girlfriend with you will cheat on you if you ever become his girlfriend. Additionally, it sounds like he only wants someone on the side and is not interested in an actual girlfriend. You deserve to be someone's number one! Don't waste your time on him.
6Don't be with him. You will get hurt.
7If he's not dumping the girlfriend for you, then fight temptation and don't have any contact with this guy. It's not like she's his wife and there are bigger issues. If he hasn't taken steps by now to make things right for you and he to be together then he probably never will. Don't even IM with him. Zero contact.
8Oh..I think your mantra should be 'I respect myself and I respect other people even if I don't know them because I'm a decent person and I'm proud of it'. Keep repeating that whenever you want to jump back into that messy relationship. It may sound a bit robotic but trust me it can work wonder.
9By the way if you don't want to resist it, then don't bother trying to be proud of yourself. You decide if you want to be decent or not.
10I agree with popgoestheworld. He is def having his cake here, then expecting you to give into him again. Pass. It will be hard but you will find someone who likes only you.
11There is no way that this can end well for you if you stay with him...
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