In sexual relationships, everyone's unique personalities come out when the lights go dim. Some are more adventurous and love to try new positions, outfits, and toys, while others may be more shy and traditional when it comes to sex. Sex drive can also vary. Some could make love six times a day and never get tired of it, while others are satisfied with a romp once a month. Then there are differences in who initiates it. Stereotypically, guys tend to be the ones to get things started, but that's not always the case so ladies, do tell, in your relationship, who's the initiator?
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Do Tell: Who's the Initiator in Your Relationship?
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We're equally crazy about each other but I think I'm more of an initiator by just a smidge.
I flirt with him tons and get him going at the most random times.
1Me... I see he wants to do something so I just start doing it haha. I feed off his subtle hints. We're in sync in that respect because we both know what the other person wants to do in the bedroom or not in the bedroom... a car, a pool... haha lots of places.
2It's both. We're in a long distance relationship, so whenever we fly to visit each other, it's all gloves off
3i think definitely both, maybe him slightly more
4id have to say it is pretty much 50/50 -
5Whoever wants it at the time.
Neither of us are shy about it, if one of us wants sex, we initiate. I would say my husband probably wants to have sex a little more often than me, so I suppose that would make him the official 'initiator'.
6He is. This is definitely something I hear him complain about! He wants me to initiate more but I've just never enjoyed that. I like the feeling of being pursued so I'm sure that's what he wants, too. I like feeling submissive so it's hard for me to want to initiate. I'd rather subtly seduce him and have him make the move lol.
7I'm always up for it in the morning, and him in the evening. Who wins the most? I guess that would be me... but he spends his days with his hands on my breasts (like THAT's gonna work...), so I guess he's the one who TRIES to initiate the most!
8hmm.. I definitely need it more often than he does, but every time we actually have sex it seems as though he's the one who initiates it. probably because it's a given that i'm in the mood....
9it's him.
10i have this mental block that keeps me from starting things.
before i met him, i was shot down by guys. a lot.
i just can't bring myself to initiate things
i would say me for sure. but its really hot for me when he comes at me out of the blue
11So far, we both are, which is perfect...
12We both initiate now, but in the beginning I was the initiator (he was a virgin, I wasn't).
13He's the initiator. I've always been more passive in bed.
14well i think that lately it's me - but that's because we've been together for so long that i think my man knows when i'm in the mood and when i'm not - and i like to be able to surprise him when he thinks that i'm not in the mood
15I don't mind initiating in general, but I do prefer that after the initial exchange that he takes charge.
16Both, fairly equally. Although in the morning, it is 100% him, because I am not a fan of the whole waking-up thing.
17He is. He leads the way, and I prefer that.
18Both, it depends!
Strangely enough...my boyfriend is nearly identical to the guy in the picture
19Him, because I have no sex drive anymore.
20Me. I always have been in pretty much every relationship I think. Guys just don't want sex as much as I want it in my experience! My last ex wanted it more than me to begin with and then settled into a comfortable pattern.
My boyfriend now had been single for 2 years so he must have gotten out of the habit of... sex? I think he's always been passive though.
Sometimes he'll initiate though and it's awesome when he does.
21It's 50/50 with us; we both want it all the time!
22We are pretty much 50/50 too. Somedays I am the one ragin to go...and somedays he is! I lvoe when he is becasue man oh man he hit the right spots to get me going!
23Im single at the moment but usually it's me. lol.
24I think I'm probably in the mood more than he is, but I don't like to initiate unless I know he wants some. So usually I'll just do something to get him in the mood without being obvious...soooo I guess you could say I initiate more but not in a straightforward way.
Oddly, my hubby LOVES to do things to me when I'm not really in the mood, I guess he just likes the pursuit? It pretty much works everytime.
25It's pretty 50/50. Which, is how we both like it.
26Both of us, it depends on our moods.
27I am almost always the instigator.
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