Stop meeting with him, simple as that. You just took vows and said I do's, and then kiss someone else, that's a really bad start. Seeing him like this is treading into dangerous territory, either you cut it out and tone down on the hanging out, or you tell your husband and get an immediate divorce, either. Of course option 2 will only ends in disaster, ruined family relationship and broken marriage. Stop NOW!

Is this a joke?

Ok, you may get away giving the excuse 'I was drunk' to people if some saw you guys kissing, but what's going on with you and your husband to the point you find another guy attractive..in your own wedding? Are you that unhappy with your husband?
There's an alternative as to: stop the lunch/private meetings (like GScott86 suggested), go on a marriage counseling if you're unhappy with your relationship or if you feel there's something missing. If you don't want to even repair your current relationship, then you need to do the right thing and get divorced.

Do what's right.

Exactly like those two say! Like seriously, even if you think divorcing your now husband so that you can be with his cousin, do you think the family is goign to be ever so accepting of you and your behavior? I don't think so.

In my books, there is nothing worse than cheating, your husband does not deserve you, he deserves much better.

I do hope this is a joke...

I'm going to pretend this isn't a joke, although I'm truly hopeful that it is...

Listen, you're going to be attracted to people for the rest of your life. Being married doesn't make you blind and dumb. The thing is, marriage is a bond and a contract in which you decide that no matter how much you want to screw other people, you're not going to.

But you shouldn't work on your marriage, you should get a divorce, immediately. You obviously have no idea how to be in a committed relationship. It's only been 3 months. Let your husband go find someone who has enough respect for him to not mess around with family members less than 1 month after marriage.

I agree with pop... and also, tell your husband to be more selective on the guest list at his next wedding.

LOL is this a JOKE? You're already cheating on your husband with his cousin, practically from day ONE?

Sorry, I can't help but laugh.

It's simple, you either stop meeting with this guy and work on your marriage (like an adult!) or you get a divorce (or perhaps an annulment if you're lucky - though I think perhaps your poor cuckolded husband should divorce your ass).

OH MY GOD!!!
i dont even know what to say to this girl!

Like the others, I hope this is a joke. Disgusting.

its nothing but infatuation. cut all contact with the man. and focus on your hubby. its up to you if you want ot come clean to him or not. shame on you. if you choose to stay with hubby and make it work and not tell him, the guilt you will carry for the rest of your life will be your punishment.

you're a bad person. there's no advice for you, except stop being an adulterous wh*re!

Is it too late to get an annulment? You need to get one if you can. No offense but you sicken me. It is people like you who ruin the sanctity of marriage. And if you do get an annulment, divorce or whatever you need to stay away from his cousin. His family will hate your guts and will not support your relationship. Next time maybe you should use your brain cells and think before you say yes.

I am not going to judge you ... Rather I will give you two peices of advice ...
If you want to even give your husband/your relationsip then stop seeing this man at once ... explain to his that you are both being dishonest and unfair to your husband ... and distance yourself from him and give your husband a fair chance ...
If you think this other man is the one and your husband was a mistake then get a divorce and get to know this other man really well ... and don't get into a marriage unless you plan on giving it a fair shot ...

Um, I'm going to assume that a) you're fairly young and b) you haven't had many relationship prior to that of your husband, because it sounds like you are having trouble distinguishing love from infatuation.

And you just don't cheat on your husband with his family members. You just don't.

Seriously? I think you have some maturing to do. Until then, you need to break it off with the cousin and divorce your hubby. You've already ruined the this relationship which only just begun. Break things off quickly and take some time figuring out what you want- alone! You weren't ready to get married if the first other man you see turns into an affair. That is not normal and a sign you aren't ready to be committed to one person.

I have a feeling this has nothing to do with the cousin and everything to do with your relationship with your husband. You don't mention you're relationship with him at all, which is odd. Does he make you unhappy? What do you think this new guy would contribute to your life that your husband cannot?

You need to ask yourself why you are doing this, and again, I don't think it has anything to do with this cousin. Maybe see a therapist and he/she can help you sort out everything that is going on with you. At the end of the day, if you decide you should not have married your husband then get an anullment or divorce.

joke..please..let this be a joke.
Was it a forced marraige that you can't even be happy with him on your wedding day..you had to "fall" for his cousin? wtf?

i hope this is a joke and even if it is a joke thats sick.

this is your family now. you're lying to your poor husband and have continued to do so. what kind of dirtbag is this cousin anyway if he would even consider doing that? you need to cut contact with the cousin and tell your husband what you have done so maybe you can fix this mess you made or atleast give him the heads up as to who he married so he can find someone that deserves him.

Geez, you're an idiot. I feel sorry for your husband. Act like an adult.

(Though I have a feeling you're either 18 or this is a fake letter.)

The fact that you cheated on your wedding day tells me this isn't about the cousin - it's about your own selfishness and the fact that you got married before you should have.

I recommend you come clean to your husband, seek an annulment (as you lied in your vows) and let him find someone better. Then you can get into therapy.

You need to decide what your husband means to you really and then decide if his cousin is worth ruining something like that.
Im not saying keep up your cheating ways, but maybe you should mention to your husband that you just so happened to get drunk and fall onto this mans lips. Im thinking you should have really thought it through before actually getting married. If you do leave your hubby or he leaves you, I suggest you really take the time to think about takin this kind of step again.

Whoa. Not a good sign. I hope this is fiction.

This is terrible. I hope you feel guilty, and I hope you question your marriage-because you obviously aren't wife material if you're already cheating the same day you got married.
How awful! And to make it worse, it's a family member.
You need to come clean with your husband, and talk about separation or divorce, or you need to cut things off with his cousin, RIGHT AWAY, before things get worse.

oh my.

my advice is... wow. i don't even know what to say. i mean, it's his cousin. there's no way that he'd be out of your life even if you broke contact. ...oh my.

oh my... and what kind of person is his cousin?

...i consider myself to be pretty open minded and forgiving, but this is just shocking and terribly wrong.

You are already committed, and never have given your marriage a CHANCE!

BAD BAD BAD!

Umm, end it with both, you'll never make it with either. I mean seriously, unless you and the cousin want to elope (who would come to the wedding, seriously, its his cousin!) and have him never speak to his family again or you can grow up and be committed to your husband. You really depress my soul, cause all I see is you day dreaming about this cousin and getting your thoughts interrupted by that annoying guy asking you to say "I do".

Stop cheating on your husband.

the other thing i find kinda weird about this is the fact that you'd never met your husband's cousin before the wedding....so he's obviously not a tight relative or doesn't live close....so, then, why was he one of the select few invited to your intimate homecoming party?!?!?!?!??!?!?!

something doesn't sound right. how long were you dating this guy? doesn't seem very legit.

i'm thinking that she cheated on him before but thought that marriage would solve some of their problems...

Wow! It is people like that who ruin the potential beauty of marriage. That was a completly disgusting thing to do. ON YOUR WEDDING DAY? How can anyone like you even get married? Wow, I'm like at a loss of words. I didnt even think anything like that was possible. But I guess there are disgusting people like that walking around. Divorce your husband immediatly, he doesnt deserve you AT ALL, And I dont even know him.

Well first of all I hope that this is a joke. But, if its not then you really need to stop. I think that you may have some nerves about being married and spending the rest of your life with one person. You made that choice and you have two options. One is to accept it and love and cherish your husband for the rest of your lives or you can get a divorce. I suggest you really really really think about what you are doing before you make a move. Good luck to you!

oh man, what a mess

To be blunt. Both you and his cousin are disgusting pieces of scum. Do your husband a favor and ask for an annulment and leave his cousin alone. It's one thing to cheat on your new husband but another to cheat with his family member. That's just nasty and beyond foul.

damn myst tell her how you really feel!

Seriously this is crazy! Not only are you cheating on your brand-new husband but its with his cousin???? you are ridiculously selfish and I hope you are not sleeping with both of them at the same time, for everyone's sake.

lol sorry mommaof2 but people like this disgust me. Both this person and the cousin. Selfish and unrepentant. She's cheating on her husband and he's doing his cousin's wife how low can a person be? And people wonder why marriages across the nation is in the state that it is. People just have no respect for the sanctity of marriage anymore.

You're homecoming seems more like it was some COCKtail party where you were just looking to get laid... You're willing to throw your marriage away because you're "attracted" to your husband's cousin? This demonstrates a complete lack of love and respect for your husband, which by the way are two key ingrediants in a marriage. Your budding "relationship" with the cousin has absolutely nowhere to go because there is no way that his family will accept you into their folds... again. Even if you break it off, you will both tear apart your husband's family and relatives. That family and your husband will feel the reprecussions of your thoughtlessness forever. You are obviously not ready to make a commitment and your irresponsibility is not something your husband should have to live with. Tell him immediately, break it off with the cousin and never go near this family ever again. Grow a spine.

It's obvious you're emotionally immature. It doesn't bode well for you, get a grip.

Wow, how soap opera-ish can you get?

You don't love your husband. Please cut him loose before things get any worse. He deserves better.

I hope I'm allowed a big WTF on this one. How the hell does this happen? Why did you get married? And what's up with cheating with your husbands cousin? Man there's no advice here other than stop being a skank and get an annulment. Whatever kind of man your husband is he doesn't deserve to be treated this way.

Wow, I feel so sorry for your husband. His new wife and a family member are deceiving him. You're both jerks. You need to stop seeing the cousin immediately and tell your husband what you did so he can make an informed decision about whether he wants to stay with you or not. I'm sure you probably won't do that though. You don't seem like the kind of person who tries to do the right thing.

I hope your husband dumps you and his cousin asap.

1. Stop seeing your husband's cousin.
2. Come clean with your husband.
3. If your husband would like to attempt to repair things, then get counselling and try to make it work.
4. If your husband wants a divorce after coming clean with him, give it to him. (Because honestly, I wouldn't blame him.) Again, do not start seeing his cousin.
5. Or if you are 100% sure you are not going to be able to make things work with your husband, then divorce him now and give him the chance to be happy. If you go this route, you still need to come clean with him. And you still shouldn't see his cousin even if you leave your husband.

All that said, you need to grow up and get on with things. Leave your husband's cousin alone. Decide if you want to honor your marriage vows or throw it all away.

totally agree...she's just nasty with it!
I mean c'mon..the wedding day? I think its worst then a soap opera!

This type of situation, I thought, only exists on Jerry Springer Show LOL.

WOW!!! I can't think of anything worse to actually do to someone, if you didn't truly love him you should have never married him. That simple.

Shame on you.

Well...I guess at least she didn't have sex with his cousin that day?-_- That could be worse bchicgrl.

I pretty much agree with everyone else. Why on Earth did you get married? And exactly what advice are you looking for? You didn't mention a thing in your post about hurting your husband or that you feel bad for doing what your doing, or anything of that nature. If you cared about your husband you wouldn't have done cheated in the first place, so no matter how many people tell you it's wrong, you aren't going to change a thing, b/c YOU don't think it's wrong.
Also, you didn't mention any problems with your husband at all, or that you just don't like him or get along with him or anything that's truly wrong with the relationship. You just said you regret it. So it seems pretty clear that there isn't anything really wrong with your marriage, like fighting or anything. Your just an immature, possibly young person that is bored and extremely selfish and got married for no real apparent reason and is ready to jump at the whatever next sexy stud comes along.

I would normally say come clean to your husband and let him decide if he wants to give things a chance and y'all can possibly work it out from there...but why do that? You don't want to work anything out right? You want to be single to go flirt and have fun with whoever you want... You regret being married and it sounds like it has nothing whatsoever to do with the person you are married to. In your post it doesn't even sound like your talking about another person, your husband is just an object that you are now unfortunately attached to. No matter who you were married to, I have the feeling you would feel the same way.

You know what you want to do, you just don't have the strength, or the morals obviously, to do it. You want to leave your husband, but it's only been 3 months, and your affair will most likely come out no matter what you do. And it's a lot of trouble to get a divorce now.

Well, my advice: You caused the problem, now face the consequences for your actions, you're a grown up (I assume, even though you act like a 15 yr. old). You've been married for 3 months and you now regret it...what exactly do you think you should do!?!?!? Stay in a marriage you hate and hurt a guy that most likely does not deserve it?!?!?! I mean really! What is the question here?!? What do you want help with? Get a divorce and leave your poor husband alone, let him find someone that actually cares about him, at least a little bit. And stay with the cousin if you want, y'all deserve each other, neither of you care about other people, so that should work out just fine. But I wouldn't recommend ever going near that family again. People like this, guys or girls, both sexes do it, are why I'm ashamed to be part of the human race.

tsk tsk, this really is a shame. i feel for your husband.

ditto what starangel82 said.

OKay, wow, nevermind everything I said. This is the worse cheating post I've ever read. This is my new advice. She should tell her husband what she did. Divorce him, and let him move on. Talk about no morals, no dignity, etc. You've been married only three months and regretting, what in the blue hell are you doing being married. Get a divorce, give him back his engagement ring (yes HIS ring) and don't even think about going after some bullsh*t settlement. If someone did that to me, I'd throw them out, even if it were my wedding night. It's just the fact that you don't even see that what you did is wrong, you're regretting marrying him? He put himself out there. Whatever, let him go so you can slut around all you want.