I have a great roommate that I'm really good friends with— we eat out together, we talk about nearly everything and we have so much in common; even taste in men. She and I both have a friendship with this guy who is nice, attractive and funny, but he's a bit of a flirt as well. I secretly have a small crush on him and I'm suspecting that she does too, but neither one of us will admit it. I'm sensing that he's interested in her and I'm having a hard time seeing them together. I keep telling myself that if they like each other, I shouldn't stand in their way, but I just can't seem to take my own advice. What should I do?
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Unless he's specifically asked one of you out, he's not very interested in either of you. Find another guy.
1It's normal to be jealous, especially if you think that a guy you like might like your friend! When I'm jealous, I always just say it out loud to the other person I'm jealous of, in a nice way. It just diffuses the situation.
Like in this case I might say to your friend: "Joe is so freaking cute, and I think he likes you and not me. I'm so jealous!" Then you just deal with it.
2This same thing happened to me and my roommate. They weren't very respectful of my feelings though, they would go have lunch and dinner and agree not to tell me. Turns out he was a jerk, and she wasn't a very good friend. The best way to deal with this is to just find another guy.
3this happend to me when I was in college. My friend and I were attracted to this one guy - we agreed not to pressue it since we both liked him. After a while my friend got over it and said if I wanted to date him it was fine with her.
I think you should put it out there that you like him or think hes cute. Listen to how she reacts to that or what she has to say and take it from there. You really cant stop her from dating him (if it even goes that far) but theres really nothing you can do. Plus if hes not into you then move on, there plenty of men to go around.
4I agree with everythin said above ...
5Just tell your room mate that you are so damn jealous ... n see how she reacts ...
and he hasn't even asked one of you girls out ... maybe he doesn't want to ruin his friendship with either of you ...
so just take it as it comes ...
Oh, jeez! You probably die another death when he looks at her.
6How about acting like a grownup (and not a mild, timid little girl) and just ask your roomate point blank how she feels about this guy. Let me know that you kinda have a crush and if she "claims" not to really feel anything towards him make your move knowing that you actually "know" versus "suspect".
I hate to sound mean (I apologize) but this whole "I think my friend likes him and I do too but we both deny it" is a little too high school for my tastes
7well i feel like part of it has to do with the thought that if they were to get together that you would lose 2 of your good friends rather than just one if she were to find a different guy. i think that's probably what would bother me the most. if you want to put yourself out there - you can always approach him and let him know how you feel and see if it's interested - and if he is then you have your decision there - and if not - then well, you can't really get in the way of things, and you'll just have to figure out how to be friends with them both. chances are that you'll be able to find someone else that's even more attractive to you if you're put in a position to. it doesn't seem like it's worth it to be jealous of a good friend if that's what your roomie really is.
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