Dear Sugar,

My last relationship was pretty hot and heavy, and when it ended over six months ago, it was because of his personal reasons — he said he needed more time to concentrate on his career — not because our feelings for each other had changed in any way. We remain friends but every time we have hung out, we have hooked up. All my friends tell me he is a jerk and that he's just using me, but when I'm with him it's like all the bad things he's ever done just disappear. I really want to stop hooking up with him so I can finally move on, but I'm not sure how to do that. Do you have any advice? — Being Used Brenda

To see DearSugar's answer, .

Dear Being Used Brenda,

Continuing to hook up after a breakup will only prolong the getting-over-him phase. Since he's not interested in being in a relationship any longer, the only way to move on is to simply stop seeing him. Sure, when you're together all the bad things disappear, but if that were enough for you, you wouldn't be asking how to put him behind you.

If you're in the same circle of friends, hang out with different people for a while. If you only see each other when he calls you to hang out, ignore his attempts. The only way to be successful here is to set your mind to it — treat this just like any other goal you make for yourself. It might be tough at first, and you might even miss him, but it won't be long before he's a distant memory. Good luck.

Source [1]