That depends...does the girl know he has a girlfriend? If so you can do what you please. If she has no idea this guy has another girl on his side then it's not her fault.
I never liked women going after the "other" woman when she didn't even know she was the "other" woman!

I agree with momma, but then, if this b*tch has a boyfriend I'd go after him and tell her what a scum she is.

For real? I would confront her instead of playing game. And the boyfriend, I would yell at him and possibly dump him. If I can't dump him, I would plan my way out already.

I'd do it in a heartbeat. Wouldnt think twice.
I'm a bit of a b*tch. LOL

No, you can't do that. Simple.

I assume that girl KNEW the boy was taken, but if that is not the case - that girl is innocent. Your boyfriend really is the one you should be angry with. Or are you with someone so weak who only does what his under-section tells him to?

I don't think you should do this. Why not focus on your cheating boyfriend? He is the one who hurt you. You can't blame this woman for what your boyfriend did. It is your boyfriend's fault. Don't get involved with her. She doesn't matter. If it hadn't been her, your boyfriend could have found someone else.

I think that would be really funny...everyone should get checked regularly anyway.

BUT as the other commenters mentioned, it's really your man you should be angry at. Play your little trick and then leave the girl alone.

the only reason i said not forgive is because it's too lame
do something worse! i am all for making her squirm but this isn't that scary cuz within a couple days she'll know the truth and you'll look like a weird liar

oh, and i might be the minority here, but i LOVE when women go after the other woman! i am ALL ABOUT IT!

To be honest, you KNOW it would be wrong to do that. That's not to say it wouldn't be fun though . Although I don't think I could do this to someone, I would go more along the lines of "I won't say anything other than I think you should really get tested.. for EVERYTHING.. that's all I can say..." That would freak someone right out. But it would be MEAN!!

this will just make you look kind of pathetic. take the high road & just completely cut both of them out of your life. they don't deserve the time that it would take for you to plot some kind of revenge.

UH, am I the only one here who thinks this is ridiculous and childish? I voted "not forgive" on the sole fact that it's so unnecessary.

I voted "not forgive" too. You'll make yourself look silly and childish. I would tell her boy friend about it if she has one and definitely center more of your anger on YOUR boy friend.

Yeah so it's not reeeally the right thing to do, but it's forgivable. Thing is, you can't tell if this girl knew he was cheating, in which case, she's going to be feeling pain for no reason known to her. He's the one you need to work it out with, and not necessarily by getting revenge, but by making him understand the pain you're undergoing. Revenge may seem sweet but don't be fooled, it soon comes back at you like a ton of bricks! x

I would do it. I would probably do a lot worse. I know it would be wrong, but oh well.
So, I said forgive, I don't want to be a hypocrite or anything!

please don't waste your time! recognize this guy is a chump and forget him and your desire for revenge.

this is the dumbest crap i have ever heard.
go after the guy all you want but leave the other broad out of it.
does not matter if she knew or not
your bf at the time was the one who made the commitment to you, not her, he hurt you more than she did.

don't be a twatwaffle.

I'd laugh my ass off when KARMA comes back and bites you even harder in the ass.

Good luck

Not Forgive. Tell her he has an STI? To what end? Though any anger at her is understandable, your focus should be on your boyfriend. After all, HE is the one that cheated on you. So HE should be the one your anger is directed at. If you didn't know who the girl was, would you still be considering this idea? Revenge can be an intoxicating motivator, though I don't justify it in any way. Just remember who has really hurt you and betrayed your trust. And also, like 356UIK said, karma will get you in the end if you do, just like that show.

What if you met some guy that you thought was great, hooked up with him, and out of the blue some girl called you to tell you he had an STI?

I agree with others- dump the guy...he's the a$$hole here.

I understand that you're upset but I think that's a bit childish. If she didn't know he had a girl then it's really not her fault and if she did know, well then hey, they deserve each other!

sure do it! she will find out later you were lying, tell ur boyfriend abt it who will tell mutual friends be4 u know everyone will know what you did and the focus will move from your cheat of a boyfriend and what a horrible thing he did to what a lil mischievous liar you r...

Well said Ghana_Princess!

Don't drag the girl into this if she didn't know about you...

unless she did. Then get your revenge!

Childish. Dump your boyfriend.

He cheated? So maybe YOU should go out and get tested.

I'm with skigurl on this one, I would want to do something worse. To both of them. If she knew about you, she deserves at least a little consequence... too bad you cant give her a real STI haha

Your "man" deserves to be dragged behind your car with a sign saying "CHEATER" around his neck! ... but I think that might qualify as attempted murder so instead just dump him and tell him he has a tiny dick.

Why are women so obsessed with getting back at "the other woman" when it is THEIR BOYFRIEND who cheated?

Dump the loser and move on.

You don't correct a wrong done to you by committing a wrong. First off what he did to you cheating on you is bad, but telling someone he had an STI and it getting passed that one person is much more heinous than him cheating on you. Okay he has ruined one relationship but by you telling that lie you have the potential to ruin most if not all of his future relationships. My suggestion to both you and your cheating boyfriend is to grow up you stop being vindictive, and he needs to keep his manhood in his pants!

This feels chidlish to me. Dump the guy, save the energy and go treat yourself to the spa Assholes are not worth wasting your anger over...

And I agree with runningesq...your bf is the bigger *sshole here..

Not forgive.

If you are still with the guy, dump him and move on. Not worth the time it takes to tell the lie.

Forgive - she should get tested anyway so you are doing her a favor.

ahhah wouldn't judge yah a bit.!!
Thats hilarious.
wouldn't do it myself, but wouldn't tell yah not to either way.

Why should he have to forgive YOU? He's the one who cheated. Get rid of hi stat.

him*

Excellent point sonya ina. After all, HE is the one who cheated in the first place. Like I said before, I don't condone the whole "revenge" thing, but really, HE should be the one begging for forgiveness right now.

Really? REALLY?
Even if she knew that you were in the picture, your boyfriend still had a choice in it. No, this does not mean that she was innocent, but shouldn't your issue be with your boyfriend? I don't even know why you'd still consider being with him. It might make you feel better to take your anger out on her, but she isn't your problem.

Please have more self respect than that. Do NOT go after her; you don't need to give her anything to be able to use against you if you two have mutual friends. You were the one who was cheated on, but if you go crazy you make her look like a better person your boyfriend may have been retreating to. Do you want to come off that way?

LMAO @ Daria...twatwaffle! ha ha

It's a stupid idea.

How old are you? Dump him and get on with it.

Women who let other women's boyfriends get in their pants should be set on fire and thrown off tall buildings.

I hope you already dumped the mofo, because that's priority number 1. Priority number 2 is finding something way more humiliating to do to the b*tch (if she knew of your existence, of course. If not, she's just as much a victim as you are. And you should keep her informed that she's now doing a total douche.)

I say forgive because I know your feelings are on a serious roller coaster ride. HOWEVER, don't attack the other girl. You should seriously beat your boyfriend down, and then bounce. Make him feel like scum.

Well, if he cheated on you, he might!!! YOU better get tested.

Oh, and...forgive.

You dont even know if the girl had any idea he even had you in his life. So why dont u take all that built up anger and device an evil plan for your MAN, you know the one that actually directly betrayed you

Not forgive, even if the woman knew he was taken she didn't owe you anything. It should be your ex bf you channel your anger at.

Plus threatening somebody's health just seems tasteless regardless of the cause. Come out of this the classy one, not like some Jerry Springer trailer trash.

Women really have got to stop this cattyness. It is so true when they say women hate women.

Okay I've got to be honest.

The politically correct answer is "No way, do NOT do that, it's wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right" etc etc.

BUT

This is something when I was in my early 20's and dating I might have done. It's just vindictive enough without causing long term damage. Obviously if she's tested she'll know it's a lie, and he can prove it is by being tested himself.

BUT, remember too that Karma is a b***h and if you do something like this then be prepared for it to come back on you ten-fold.

I agree with Marni7. Betrayal like that can drive you to do crazy things. But playing a serious prank like that on the OTHER woman isn't the way to go. But, nor is "beating down" the b/f. I understand the serious hurt involved, but violence is never a solution, regarless of the pain it's caused you.

Are you kidding me? This is completely ridiculous. You have NO RIGHT to be mad at her. She didn't make you a promise of fidelity. He did. She didn't break a promise to you. He did. She didn't cheat on you. He did. So explain to me why you're pissed at her?
What you're considering is immature, hateful, and pointless. If I did something that ridiculous, I'd lose respect for myself.

Jesssie "Women really have got to stop this cattyness. It is so true when they say women hate women."

I know eh? Sometimes we are our own worst enemies

he's an *sshole and he cheated- she didn't. he was the one in the relationship with you and decided to deceive you. this girl has no obligation to you. you won't feel any better about it. when it comes down to it, he still cheated on you and while thats a sh*tty thing to do, it wont make it right and you won't feel any better about it in the long run. you'll just look like the psycho ex. leave it alone. move on and find someone that won't treat you that way. if he continues to see this girl he will probably cheat on her as well. she will learn her own lesson when it comes to him, but its not your place to get involved.

Immature much? If she didn't know he had a girlfriend, then tell her that. If she did, then they deserve each other anyway and will get what's coming to them in the end, without you making up stories and stirring up drama.

Oh come on, it's pretty harsh to call her names when she's hasn't even yet done this thing she's only contemplating because she's having such a hard time dealing right now. Doesn't it smack of kicking someone while they're down?

Seriously? This is pretty tame as far as revenge goes. Everyone should get checked up regularly, anyway.

If I got cheated on the first thing I'd do is get tested for STIs myself.

Before you do anything, take a moment to consider whether it can end up hurting you. If it can, it's not worth it.

It is true that this is just going to make you look bad, so because of that, I say don't do it, for your own sake.

I've been there, I know how you feel. It's really easy to misstep when hurt and anger is clouding your better judgement.

You know what they say: "Revenge is a dish best served cold."

Wait until you can be cool, calm and collected, THEN come up with some plan for revenge if you still feel like it (but when the anger and hurt die down - and, trust me, it will - you're probably going to be like "Nah, whatever, it's not worth the hassle.")

In the meantime, it's no harm no foul to have revenge fantasies.