I'm sure if you google safe anal sex, you'll find a lot of proper advice!

lots and lots of lube. taking it slow. making sure that you know santorum is part of the picture, i'd have TP ready. and lots and lots of lube.

have a glass or two of wine (or whatever drink) before, and don't forget to relax your muscles, it'll make it easier

Bluejeanie...Santorum...HA! I LOVE that other people are using this term!!!

It's too gross to post what it means so if you're curious, just google "Santorum" and you'll get your definition (and the reason behind why that word was created).

oh yeah, and i tried it before and had to stop b/c it was too painful. it was my idea and i'm glad my bf wasn't too into it. sigh...Port and cosmos do not mix b/c they put crazy ideas in your head!

first of all, TAKE YOUR TIME!
you will need lots and lots of lube, and a towel on the bed.

make sure that you have used the bathroom no more than 3 hours before, or make sure you do not eat anything with a lot of fiber or bread. one rule of anal sex is that too much lube is NEVER enough! start off with a finger, then increase to two until you are comfortable. TAKR YOUR TIME TAKE YOUR TIME! if it hurts, you are not doing it right. stefapie is right, maybe have a glass of wine too, just to help you loosen up a little. relax, take your time, use lots and lots of lube, and make sure that he understands that you need to go slow, at your pace. you will enjoy the wonders soon enough =)

It can't be a good sign that the idea is to get drunk first.

Also strange to look at list of topics and see Anal Sex near Lemon Curd Tart! LOL!

There is information on line or course.. but why do this?
Is it a first for both of you?

lube,lube,lube.. or perhaps while taking a hot bubble bath together.. but it will more than likely hurt and it is not like you have a clitoris hidden there.. so this is more for his pleasure than yours.. the real world is not like a porno where girls seem to ellict emmense amounts of pleasure from this act(and guys sometimes do not understand this).. so just know that this isn't going to be a pleasurable act neccessarily for you.. therefore he should show his appreciation and pay attention to your needs too (before or after).

Also you can rip and possibly bleed..so use protection to protect yourself from STDs/AIDS.
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um use lots of lube. i just kind of sucked it up the first time, it hurt so bad but after the first few times it doesnt hurt at all.

Take your time sweetie. If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. Just because your BF would like to, doesn't mean you have to be on the same page.

Please wait til you're ready.

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I agree with pinupsweetheart, if you aren't into it don't do it just for his sake! It's your body, so only do what you are comfortable with!

I'm not advising from experience, so just take this advice for what it is - a rip off of stuff I've seen Dan Savage write in his column.

1) Try other things first, like fingers etc. Don't just go straight to sex.

2) Lube, lube, and more lube.

Agree with others to look online about how to do this properly. I'm sure there are ways to make it easier for both of you.

above all else-hopefully this will be a good experience for you and your boyfriend

yes a lot of lube.... My bf wants to try that as well but I'm still nit game, I mean my friends have told me stories and most of them came out with an unwanted guest, Id be way to Embarrassed if he pulled out of there and there was poo...lol. How about in the shower to spare any of that, besides if it does happen I'm pretty sure he wont notice . Id still be scared dough.

Hey this is interesting..LOL Well honey I suggest you buy vaseline and spend at least 1 hour exploring each other before you do it with the help of vaseline. Do use condom and check if your vaseline is water based? You don't want to ruin the condom I think you should not watch porns at all. I have seen some horrible anal scenes (it's truly scary). Do it your way and good luck

I have to disagree with the fact that one can never use too much lube. Personally I have experienced that too much KY sometimes has a laxating effect...

Also I'd recommend to use a condom. Sperm has the same after-effect mentioned above...

Madre de Dios. Que paso?Nunca pienso que esto puede pasar.

I suggest you check out the book The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Females.

PLEASE PLEASE be safe and use a condom even if you two are disease free. He could get an infection from you that would be painful. Every had a UTI? Terrible!
I personally don't see the point. Either have vaginal intercourse or do something else. Whatever you are comfortable and informed about.

PLEASE PLEASE be safe and use a condom even if you two are disease free. He could get an infection from you that would be painful. Ever had a UTI? Terrible!
I personally don't see the point. Either have vaginal intercourse or do something else. Whatever you are comfortable and informed about.

there's an "ultimate guide to anal sex" hahaha!

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As "CYCY" said above the uhh sperm does have that lactating effect and an hour later when you're just sitting there minding your own business, it's not the best situation-it's actually pretty disgusting.

I find if you do go through with it (which you need to be 100% prepared for) going to the bathroom immediately after is recommended, trust me you'll know why. It's a little TMI to go into details on here. (but it's not pretty)

Also speaking from experience and living in fear of it from a very very bad experience I know find that if I'm the one deciding how when and where it'll "go down" it makes it easier, I make sure I'm the one in full control so that I don't have him get over excited and potentially hurt me but become a tad too excited a tad too soon.

I also find laying on my side has made it a lot more pleasurable and whole lot less painful than having him just throw me over the bed. (or some would assume)

I never thought it would be something I'd enjoy, but I have. Although it's not a daily thing either, because well I don't think doing that more than on occasion can really be all that good for you.

Just my .02

I would also like to add, that you should be sure not to have any hemorrhoids or other similar problems. It can be an horrible experience if you have!

Oh boy! my ex boyf and i on 2 occasions were really going at it, and by accident it 'ding-dong' slipped into where you asre refering to - all i can say is that it was REALLY painful!!! but not messy as you might think. Experiment, but only if you want to and I use protection. I have heard that if ppl do it regularly it can cause piles.

The biggest question here is rather YOU want to try it, you stated your boyfriend does but nothing in your post says something about you would like to try it to. If you do want to try it, you MUST be 100% in trusting of your boyfriend because you can get seriously hurt. First, put down some ground rules to where if you dislike it or it hurts too bad then he has to stop then and there. Lube is a must, start out with fingers and see how that feels to you. He has to go very slow because if he rams it in there you can get some nasty tears and hemorrhoids from it. If you are absoutley certain you do not want to try it then you need to tell him and if he pressures you then you need to get a new boyfriend.