Well, we love to have sex, but with busy schedules and lots of stress it doesn't happen as much as it used to, but we still try to do it a couple of times a week. (:

I never understood how sex before marriage works asi believe sex is a v.important connection. I feel like it can reveal alot about your relationship!

I think being sexually compatible is an integral part of a relationship. The physical is just as important as the emotional. A healthy relationship has good standing in both areas. This is one of the reasons why I don't believing in saving oneself for marriage, because its good to have relative idea of how the two peoples sexual needs and styles mesh together. Human beings are sexual beings and it's just part of our biology. If sex wasn't important we wouldn't be such a hormone driven species....

My bf and I only do it about two or three times a month. I'm fine with that. Right now we're taking a break until January though (for a physical reason). I don't know how we'll last.

its not too important 3-4 times a month my boyfriend would be happy with more but is cool without it

I'd say 2-3 times a month is fair for us. We've been together 5 years, and this has been pretty standard since the honeymoon period ended. We're both pretty much fine with it, though sometimes I'd like more.

i find it EXTREMELY important. my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship, so when we DO see each other, we need to do it a LOT! however, this past time we were together, he never wanted to have it!! i think i need to ask dear sugar if that's normal ...

We try to have sex a few times a week, my beau would like more but is happy the way it is. We are both too tired during the week, but the weekends are spent in each others arms as much as possible. I think it is normal for some couples as long as you are happy go for it as much or as little as you like

Like Meeshee my boyfriend and I have to deal with being in a long-distance relationship because of his job. (USMC) When we do see each other we constantly love to have sex to make up for lost time! He's coming home in about 3 weeks after 3 1/2 months of being gone so we will definately be busy that first week.

Yes, it's pretty important. My bf and I have been together for 6 years and we're still at about 3+ times a week. 'Course my man's a dog about it but it's kinda cute and endearing. At least I know he's still crazy about me!
But yeah, sex is stress-relief, and a time to have fun and relax with one another!

Honestly, if I never did it again it wouldn't matter to me. And not cause DH is bad at it, it's just TOTALLY unimportant to me. Still, I accommodate him - but it's absolutely not necessary for me.

super important to me as I think you need a physical connect as well as the emotional connection. Just my take on it.

I learned from experience that it's extremely important to your bond. Not because I'm shallow, but because I had a long-term relationship that partially failed because desire left. I'm committed to daily sex in future relationships. Very seriously so.

It is incredibly important! If a guy I was with was /bad/ in bed then it would be a deal breaker. I /need/ sex at least 2-3 times a week which I think is pretty normal given I am young and healthy?!

Why waste your best years on somebody who is bad in bed...?

If my relationship had no sex at all it would still be absolutely wonderful! The good sex is just the cherry on top, and since we are going to be ending a LDR next month, we can't wait to finally be able to be intimate with each other as often as possible! I feel like this will be opening a whole new chapter in our sex lives!

I agree with you princess-eab, I've had an otherwise wonderful relationship fail because sex wasn't a priority and we became more like friends. It was something that eventually couldn't be repaired. Luckily my current bf and I don't have that problem, and I couldn't be happier!

In a relationship, having desire for each other is a good, healthy thing. It works differently for different people, but sex is pretty amazing if its with someone you love.

When I first met my husband, I had a pact with myself not to have sex with anyone else unless we loved each other. Some people would think that sounds silly, but I was tired of sleeping around and not being with anyone. So we waited until we knew we loved one another. It was amazing.
Now when sex wasn't a part of our relationship a year after we were married because of my depression and the medication I was taking for it, well our relationship was dull and boring. I stopped taking the medicine for this reason. I just didn't feel any desire to be with my husband, I was tired all the time and just wanted to sleep. Now because I have stopped taking the medicine I am happier the lust is there and I even get butterflies again. Sex is healthy.

I think sex is pretty important. My bf and I have sex prob. a couple times a week. When there isn't any passion/sex in a relationship I end up feeling not wanted. People act like looks don't matter too, and it's all about personality, but that just isn't true. You have to be physically attracted to someone to like them for the most part. Sex is the same...to me at least.

I think it's an important, healthy part of a relationship, but I think it's a little more important in the beginning, and also happens more often in the beginning. It seems like when a relationship is new and exciting you can't get enough of it and then you get comfortable and it's kind of like old hat. I guess that's why people need to try different things to get that spark back into their bedroom-life.
I've been in three serious relationships(4 years, 5 years, 1.5 years) and they all had one thing in common: they wanted it every day. After awhile, it was a few times a week, and then maybe once a week. But it never seemed to lessen from once a week unless someone was sick or pissed off. Which reminds me, on another note, never use sex as a weapon!!

Really important ... it's way up there on my list of things to do in a relationship

Really important. I didn't get married to be friends.

Sex used to be really important when I was single, I usually made the first moves. I never had sex with a lot of guys, but I had a lot of fun. Luckily I had great sex partners that loved to please me. My husband isn't like them though (sex-driven), he is 33 and is pretty mature about it. We have sex about 2-3x a week. I think it shouldn't be the first thing in a relationship, but you also should be compatible in bed with him before you get settled in with him. And of course, having unprotected sex (imho) means that you don't take your health or life seriously. If sex is at all important, you need to protect yourself.

It's so important to me. I feel like I get a certain connection with him from it that I can't get from anything else, and it reassures me that he still finds me attractive and loves me in a way that PROVES it to me in more than just words. That said, it has dropped from 2-3 times a week (which I can deal with, but STILL lower than before and how much I actually want it) to maybe 2 times a MONTH. I'm starting to get really, really, really worried... I'm starting to get worried that what happened to cmcgra and princess_eab will happen to me...

I agree with GlowingMoon: sex is super-important. Married or not, I need to have sex with my man. Otherwise, he'd just be a friend, and that's not what I'm looking for from him!

Yes, it is very important!

Sex should be enjoyable. And if his penis is really really small, it won't be enjoyable. Period.

I knew I would never wait till marriage to have sex - sexual compatibly is extremely important to me, and in order to maintain a functional and fulfilling relationship, I believe an active sex life w/ your significant other is crucial.

Very important in my relationship with my husband. Sex isn't always just for physical pleasure between us. It's also for the spiritual intimacy and connection. Sex feels good on so many levels and I would not mind continuing to have it as frequently as we do into our old age.

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we used to have sex several times a week, but with in the past 8 months, it's been about once a month. It's so sad, but I don't really make an effort to change it.

Sex is a VERY important variable in a relationship for me-- I cannot be comfortable in a relationship with someone who isn't comfortable with sex. My boyfriend and I live together and have sex at least once a day, normally right before we go to bed. If I'm on my period, we go for alternatives. I love the intimacy and how closely connected we are during intercourse.

very important! it's also fun and good for your health. i'm in a long distance relationship so when we see eachother we can't get enough. when we are living in the same place, it's usually at least 3 times a week. i can't wait to go home for thanksgiving this week:)

I love sex, mostly because of the intimacy involved.

But it's not the most important thing in the world. If I don't have it my life isn't over, my libido just gets the cold shoulder for a little while. No biggie.

I'm not going to say how often my partner and I go at it, but it's not the most important thing in our relationship but I feel that it helps keep us close and connected (when are you more vulnerable then when your nomping?) and in tune with each other.

That said. It is important to be comfortable having sex with someone, and a lady must be satisfied. I once slept with someone who I just didn't do it for me, needless to say the relationship went under.

Verrrry important - I have told this to the BF, and he accuses me of just "wanting the d*ck" and nothing more. Suffice it to say, we hardly have sex unless we are drunk -- which I make a point to be pretty often, because that seems to be the only way to get some lovin'. I have given up on telling him that sex is important. He says he WANTS to have sex with me -- yet, he never does.

I guess sex is quitely important, but not important enough to keep ranting and raving about it.

Nowadays when we do have sex, and we are drunk, it makes me feel a lot worse. I don't really enjoy sex anymore.

I love sex lol, so it's pretty important to me in a relationship. Not only that, it helps me relieve stress and puts me in a better mood.

With my ex, we didn't have sex that often...and I was WAY moodier and always thought it was weird. But with my current man...woooohooo! Lol, him and I connect so well in bed it's amazing!

Good sex on a regular basis is a must for me. I love being close and intimate and feeling connected with my bf. The sex is absolutely fantastic and I just love to be completely intertwined with him body and mind. Another one of my favorite activities besides sex is just cuddling up on the couch and watching tv or a movie. I just love being close to him.

Sex is essential in any relationship. Great sex, however, is what takes a relationship from the casual bf/gf to something a bit more intimate and special. Like a connecting of souls, sharing a moment on a regular basis. There's absolutely nothing like it! Placing the importance of sex on the relationship any lower than 2nd is a farce.

ITS A MUST.

SEX IS IMPORTANT TO ME.

I love my husband more than anything in the world, but the sex isn't the top priority for us. Its fun, I like it, we do it 3-4 times a month but we find other aspects of our relationship more important. Of course, if the sex disappeared that would not be ok.

I Love having that moment to remember the next day when I'm at work but I don't know how I would react if I didn't have it. My husband and I make Love at least 4x's a week! Which include quickie's before work or when we get settled in from working all day! We save the romance for the weekend unless we catch a break during the week! I don't think it's the most important thing in a relationship but it is needed.

First marriage it was mechanical and the same EVERY time. I had grown up with the thought that it was simply for the enjoyment of the husband and to reproduce. It never occurred to me that I was supposed to enjoy it at all.

Second marriage...it was a nightly duty. ARGH...but I learned that I would not make this same mistake again.

Between second and my third final marriage I learned "how things worked" with my body. A great friend invited me to a "toy" party.

Final third marriage...WOW! I am making up for lost time! Many of you cannot imagine a woman not having the "BIG O" for the first 40 years of her life...but that was how it was with me. Once I learned that mutual enjoyment was the ultimate goal...OMG. My husband and I have been enjoying the journey of finding the many ways to "get me there" and what can I say..."Wow" just does not seem to really describe it.

Ultimately I think that we have to be brutally honest about what our needs are, unafraid to voice them, be willing to try things that may seem unconventional, and have a partner equally interested in the ultimate goal which is never one-sided.

I think that if your guy loves leather then you wear it...if you like wearing kinky shoes then you should do that...if you both enjoy dancing...then dance. No topic should be out-of-bounds. Too many of us deny those little things we secretly dream about but do not share. A partner really interested in YOU will want to know those things and will share as well.

Frequency is not as important as quality. I believe it is a wonderful gift that our bedroom is at the opposite side of the house from our teenagers.

Married now for several years to a magnificent and talented man we still act like newly weds and make efforts to make memorable moments both in and out of the bedroom. Invest in locks...teenagers will just walk in...and nothing is as embarrassing as your 15 year old daughter finding your toy bag or your private dress-up clothes.

Be honest about your needs and expect the same honesty in return. Anything less and you are "settling" for less than you need and that is never a good thing.

i think it is very important. besides, i couldn't live without it hahaha

pretty important. i have a pretty high sex drive.
in fact, my boyfriend and i started out as friends with benefits. that lasted a good six months before we realized that we loved each other. sadly the amount of sex has gone down considerably

It's extremely important to us. My husband and I have sex almost every day and we've been together for 6 years.

If I couldn't have sex with my husband anymore it would be slightly disappointing but not a deal breaker. There are so many more reasons to be together than sex. Everyone makes such a big deal out of it and it is so much fun but I think a long lasting relationship requires shared passion but not necessarily sexual intensity. Maybe that's just me. That said I've been with my husband for over a decade and we still do it like 4 or 5 times a week. I love sex and so does he mostly because the bond between us so intense.So we'll probably be those old people nobody wants to think about doing til we die.

it's been about once a week for a long time, but we're making a point to do it more now because we're trying to have a baby. once a week was fine with me prior to this point -- I work days and he works nights, so we're not home much at the same time.

sex is probably the biggest point of contention in my marriage...so clearly it's important.

me and my boyfriend are very far from each other...we hadn't sex since now...we are together already 9 month but he say every day that he loves me and he will wait for me as i will wait him to....he always say that i can do it when i want...caz he know that first time is very hurd...i love hi

we were and are mad about sex. the difference being, previously we could have sex anytime we wanted but now either him or I need to schedule it before.. haha.. I mean we are presently located in different cities. but it is lot of fun having phone-sex and sometimes masturbating..lol. we meet 4 to 5 times a year and he is waiting for my higher studies to be over and we marry and settle down. touch wood. :')

Sex is very important in our relationship. We have sex almost everyday. But of course some days we don't have the time. It really keeps our relationship alive. And we have been together almost 3 years.