I searched my brain. I honestly don't have any. Not that some things aren't embarrassing (inappropriate) to talk about; the answers I have.

you should ask the doctor whatever u want! theres nothing they havent heard. lol

I've never had anal sex before, so I've always been curious how much it hurts (if at all), and if it smells.

I don't have any, I guess when i first started I wanted to learn everything right then and there. Seeing your doctor is so important for when anything new comes up and you want to learn more.

The internet was such a great tool. I never had the sex talk or any sex ed classes (Damn Catholic schools), but I was pretty savy with the computer.. so I learned every and anything I wanted to know by searching the internet. haha

I hate anal sex for the record...but it doesn't smell at least not for me and isn't very messy (b/c your fecal waste only moves to that location when it's ready to be excreted), but please please Use condoms and lube, b/c this area of the body really doesnt get lubricated and its subject to tissue tears that can hasten the spread of STDs........ Oh and very important do not let something that has been in your bottom in your vagina, b/c that causes infection b/c there are different bacteria and germs that shouldn't mix... so put on a new condom if you want to change holes...

lol @ change holes

Does a birth control question count?

And I have already read old posts on here about birth control and looked at other places on the internet, and I am still confused. Is the period you normally have the same as the period you get when you are on your placebo birth control pills? Is the one you get while on birth control a "real period"? For ex., does it mean you aren't pregnant when you get it? I'm just very confused about how exactly birth control works, so I'm not starting on any until a doctor will answer my questions instead of just pushing a particular brand at me without explaining anything...stupid doctors.

"Is the period you normally have the same as the period you get when you are on your placebo birth control pills? Is the one you get while on birth control a "real period"? For ex., does it mean you aren't pregnant when you get it?"

Yes and no. You don't ovulate when on birth control, so there is no unfertilized egg in the uterine lining that is shed when you menstruate on the pill. Otherwise, yes the period is the same, but usually shorter & lighter.
You definitely aren't pregnant when you get it, just like you aren't pregnant when you get your period without the pill.

"I'm just very confused about how exactly birth control works, so I'm not starting on any until a doctor will answer my questions instead of just pushing a particular brand at me without explaining anything...stupid doctors."

Your doctors aren't stupid, Muirnea. Understanding of birth control is very basic biology to the point it's practically common household knowledge at this point, and it's explained in every instruction package that comes in each box.
They push a particular brand at you because that brand pays them to push it. The pharmaceutical industry in the USA is the largest in the world, and drug companies buy everyone's loyalty.

Muirnea- No, it isn't. Birth control pills make your body think it's pregnant, so you don't release an egg during the month.

You can still get pregnant even if you're on BC if you are really bad at taking your pills around the same time every day (especially with mini pills) OR if you are taking antibiotics. The antibiotics kill good bacteria in the intestines that recycle the hormones in the pill.

Ok So my question is this. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. He was my first and he has been my only. The problem is, I can't orgasm during sex. I can orgasm when we do other things but not during sex and it is driving me crazy. I enjoy sex but not the extent that I feel like many of my friends say they enjoy it. Its not him because we've experimented with many different positions and nothing works. I have been able to orgasm when I use a vibrator during sex but I don't want to always do that. I love him so much and I think he thinks there is something he isn't doing. I don't want him thinking that at all. Is there any way I can have an orgasm during sex or are some women not able to get them? If there is something I can do, please tell me.

well i don't really like to talk about sex all that much - not that i'm a prude - but more so that it's just not my thing - so i can't think of something to ask. i'm sure that a LOT of stuff would embarrass me.

The pill causes thickening of cervical mucus which blocks sperm penetration. It will also cause the endometrium to thin inhibiting implantation. Since the uterine lining is thinner the period is less severe. The blood is thinner and contains fewer vitamins.

lgangel, have you or bf tried stimulating your clit while you're having intercourse? Some women can't get an orgasm just by intercourse alone. There's nothing wrong with that. =) Furthermore, I can attest to having much more intense orgasms when my husband and I do this.

I guess I don't really have questions about sex itself. I mean, between tons of biology, sex ed, and anatomy classes, and I've never really been bashful around doctors...some people say I "know too much"!

The one question I really want to ask is kind of lame, though, and pretty much undermines that preceding paragraph. I don't think the question has an unbiased answer though, so...yeah.

Thank you, ThePerfectScore. My embarrassing question has been answered!

the bleeding you get during the "placebo" week on birth control is not a period. It's called "withdraw bleeding" by some doctors. You can't have a real period because birth control prevents you from creating the nutrient rich lining in the uterus where the egg would implant. If you are taking your birth control properly (starting the pack on the right day, same time every day, never missing a day, not on a drug that prevents your bc from working, etc), then you are very very very unlikely to get pregnant. However, if you ever have bleeding in the middle of a pack of pills, you should refrain from intercourse or use a back up method of birth control to prevent pregnancy. Spotting in the middle of your cycle or a pack of pills is not normal and could mean that you are not on the right pill or not on a strong enough bc (this happened to me when I attempted to go on low dose birth control). So...your "period" when you are on the pill isn't really a sign you aren't pregnant, since it isn't possible to get pregnant...unless you haven't been taking the pill correctly, then it could be a real period and could be a sign you aren't pregnant. The reason your "period" is lighter and you pass fewer clots when you are on the pill is the fact that you aren't building up a lining, so there isn't a lot of material to shed. Hope that helps.

the only BC pill that you cant really tell if you are pregnant or not is lybrel, since that gives you 365 days straight of hormones, w/o a break for your period. its just as safe as the others, but you cant tell how effective it is at ppreventing pregnancy since theres no marker that shows you that youre not pregnant.

lgangel821 - it's not just you! I think that only about 30% or so of women are able to have an orgasm from intercourse alone; most need direct clitoral stimulation along with intercourse. For the record, I can't usually have an orgasm from sex either - there needs to be something else. It's not anything that you or your boyfriend are doing wrong, even though it's definitely frustrating sometimes. The only suggestion that I have is the same as Meike, and that's to try direct stimulation while you're having sex. This might be TMI, but don't be afraid to reach down there and help yourself out - you'll enjoy it, and I'm sure your BF will enjoy the view

PerfectScore- That's only with progestin-only pills. Combo pills (progestin and estrogen) do the cervical mucus thing and stop ovulation.

yeah I know what both forms of the birth control pills do... i was just adding on to what hithatsmybike said.. since she hit the nail on the head talking about not ovulating, but I was just adding more info about the uterine lining that is actually shed during a period on the pill...

I don't have any questiions but the most embarassing thing I've had to ask is if the implant contraceptive would impact my fertility later!

Thankfully it doesn't.

I neverhad anal sex before and I would like to know the first time does it hurt worser than the first time of vagina sex

I have a question - why does sex hurt so much sometimes? It's NOT a lube issue but he is quite big (7 inches).

If I go on top to start then it feels like he is ripping me apart. Then as it continues or after I orgasm the pain goes away and it's OK/comfortable again.

Is it him hitting my cervix? I've heard that can cause this type of pain. I definitely don't have any STD's.

I'm going to tackle the anal sex questions, because my husband loves it. If you don't use lubrication and your man just slams into you, it's incredibly painful. But if you lube up and he goes slowly (or even better, if you sit down on him so you control the speed), there's no pain. I'll admit that it's not always exciting for me, but sometimes when I'm in the mood it's incredibly sexy. In my experience, the first time wasn't painful at all -- it completely depends on the speed at which he enters.

A girlfriend of mine compared it to performing oral sex: not necessarily pleasurable for the woman, but not at all unpleasant... and so, so intimate and sexy at the same time.

crazy07 I hated anal sex... it's just not comfortable for me... but vaginal intercourse for the first time was a breeze because I naturally get really wet so there's a lot of lubrication to slide right in (is that TMI?) But with anal sex you have to add the lubrication and take things slow so if you're not with a man who is considerate and takes things slow then its not so fun.

B/c your anus and colon are a series of sphincter's which are designed to let only let things come out and not go back in... Sphicter's are circular muscles which need to be relaxed, so try fingering that area first and getting comfortable with something small there before you shove in a huge penis.

oh rectum not colon... haha Sorry My anatomy knowledge is fading...

crazy07 - honestly, I've tried it before and, while I know that some women love it and claim it doesn't hurt, I've never clawed my way off the bed faster. We took it slow, tried lots of lube, followed all the tips, and still...it was like I'd been catapulted off of the mattress. I think it depends on a lot of things, and definitely takes into account how big your guy is.

My embarrassing sex question... If you don't use a condom during sex (like if you were on BC), what happens to the stuff that's released inside of you? Does gravity have it coming right back out when you stand up? Does most of it end up coming out when you use the restroom? I'm getting married soon and asked some of my girlfriends, but they all use condoms and weren't really sure.

Hmmm... I kinda can't believe I'm posting this!

OH well depends on how much he cums... but you can definitely feel how wet you are there... but it's never like rolled down my legs or anything...The consistency of cum at least from my experience hasn't been very liquidity ... it's definitely thicker than water. And most of it does not come out when you go to the restroom b/c the whole point of female orgasm is to contract the uterus so that the sperm is pushed farther inside so it can reach the egg....plus most guys ejaculate when they are well inside you so its not like they are concentrating their "shot" right at the opening...

For graylen..

uh this is like way TMI so anyone that doesn't want to know can just skip my post:

It usually comes out when your muscles finally relax after having an orgasm (usually 30mins-1hr after sex I find or next time you go to the bathroom like PerfectScore said). It's not too much, but you might want to wear a panty-liner just in case it makes you uncomfortable.

I was also thinking you can like make the guy's cum come out of you if you like push down sorta like you're trying to pee... But that's if there is tons of semen inside of you.. sorta like the Cream Pie genre of Porn. On average you won't have like this big mess coming out of you. Idk if I made it clear that some will find it's way out due to gravity, but it's nothing that will make you change your pants.

graylen - I feel awkward answering this but all in the name of information!

When I have sex sans-condom (I've been on BC Pills for a very, very long time), it tends to kind of come out within 10/15 minutes but i guess it depends on each person. Usually it makes me feel pretty uncomfortable so, like thePerfectScore stated, I'll pop over to the bathroom and squeeze it the heck out of me. It does work. I don't really know if you have to strengthen your vaginal muscles or anything before trying this because it worked for me the first time I tried it, but if you push hard enough it definitely does come out. You just kind of have to flex and unflex for a few minutes.
Sometimes, if there is post-coital cuddling for a while, as soon as I get up I can feel it coming back out, so that's kind of awkward.

It's just kind of a weird thing altogether. But I'm not going to lie, sex without a condom is amazing, and the ONLY bad thing about it as far as I can see (besides the increased risk for STDs) is this exact problem of what do you do with all those extra fluids inside you?. However, it's still not a good idea to go sans-condom though: STDs, STIs, and even the BCP doesn't 100% protect you from getting pregnant, so just be careful if you're considering it. I'm sure everyone knows that but still.

hithatsmybike: "You definitely aren't pregnant when you get it, just like you aren't pregnant when you get your period without the pill."
And yes, my doctor was stupid, which is why I'm changing doctors. Any doctor that puts getting money over choosing a correct brand for the individual patient is stupid. Medicine shouldn't work that way, even though I know it does. And understanding birth control isn't basic knowledge (not everyone has good teachers/mentors/etc.), and no, the question I am asking is not answered on the instruction packet...yes I did read it, thanks. Excuse me for asking a question I wasn't sure about...I won't let it happen again.. >:(

peadot: "So...your "period" when you are on the pill isn't really a sign you aren't pregnant, since it isn't possible to get pregnant..."

These two quotes show the point I was trying to make in my first question/post!!! I get conflicting information everywhere I go!!! And I am in the process of finding a good doctor I like, b/c the last one I had was horrible. And I am just asking this question b/c if the "period" you get while on placebo pills isn't a true period and doesn't tell you that you aren't pregnant anyway, I would rather skip it altogether and just take Lybrel, b/c either way, I wouldn't know when I was pregnant. Thanks.

how long does sperm live inside of you for??

"how long does sperm live inside of you for??"

3-5 days. i remembered 5 from my human sexuality class (probably b/c that's the 'just to be safe' number), but i looked it up and that's what mayo clinic says.

Yeah 3-5 days.....Which is scary.... haha someone elses lil swimmers still kicking it long after the passion is gone.... This is how a girl can have fraternal twins from 2 different males if her body releases two eggs and she has sex back to back with different guys. Since sperm can be there long after the act of sexual intercourse is preformed it is possible for one guy to impregnate one egg and the other guy to impregnate the other egg... Isn't that trippy?

Thanks graylen for asking that question. I always wondered about it too. Toilet paper on the nightstand might do the trick. Good luck in your upcoming marriage!

This is TMI/kinda embarrassing, but I'm on the Patch and when I have sex sans condom with my BF, the cum just slides right out after he's done cuming. Some of my girlfriends on the patch have the same problem. Is this a normal side effective of the patch or are me and my girlfriends just freaks? lol

I hav never used birth control pills. for all these 2 yrs i hav been with him(24th nov.. lovely date for me), it has either been condoms or post-sex pills. my doc wanted me to start the BCP as I went pregnant a second time this april.
well, actually we are presently in different cities and we visit 4 to 5 times a year, say 3-5 days at stretch each time. can i use BCP for just those few periods or it has to be a permanent affair

MyPrivateSpace.... I think takes birthcontrol for 3-5 days at a time won't do anything and is a waste of money. It takes at around 3 months for your body to become adjusted to the chemistry of your body and regulate your menstruation and be truely effective in preventing pregnancy. Plus you have to take if for the full month cycle and a consistent time each day. Plus the fluctuations in your hormone levels of going on and off birth control could have adverse effects with your body. There are other alternatives to the pill that would be a good option if you want something you don't really have to think about on a daily basis... NuvaRing... the patch... the shot... the IUD... there are so many options. I think you should sit down with your doctor and determine which is best for you. But the key is to be consistent with it b/c you are ultimately messing with the hormones in your body and they control anything from mood and sex drive to weight gain, blood clots, and menstruation.

oH and different levels of Birth control have different levels of how permanent they are. But usually hormonal birth controls are reversible effects if you stop taking them and want to get pregnant later in life. If you want something that works right away and can be used on an on and off basis barrier method is the thing for you, even though you've seem to have a bad track record with it. Make sure you are using condoms right. Do you know the proper way to put it on? Making sure there is space at the tip for the semen to collect, and checking expiration dates and keeping condoms in cool and dry places to lessen the risks of holes, tears, and deterioration. Plus you can always use a diaphragm with spermacide... the diaphragm can be placed inside the vagina before sex and should be left in a lil bit after sex to make sure all sperm is killed before moving it around. Also there is the today sponge... I think that's making a come back... Just review your options with your doctor and make sure you educate yourself about proper usage.

haha, bcbg and everyone else who asked about "extra fluids"... I'm just on the pill and it comes right out afterwards for me too. If I stay on my back or side I can snuggle for about 3 mins with my husband, but afterwards I always sprint to the bathroom. Annoying, but definitely worth it.

thanx for th opinion. i definitely cannot continue with such pills when i return home for my holidays.. lol

Muirnea- well my dad's a doctor so i can give it to you on pretty good authority that if you're on a pill it is very unlikly that you will get pregnant, but it is still possible. So just ask your doctor and questions you have and answer honestly and questions he askes you so you can figure out your dosage and reduce the liklyhood of you getting pregnant. And most doctors have your intrests at heart and are not worried about money since they get paid a very nice sum. but if your not comfortable with your doctor than, by all means, change doctors. it's your health and if you feel that he/she is not concerned for your well being then find another doctor!

myprivatespace- as long as you are taking your BC on the right days at the right time then you should be fine, but you can't just start the pill on the day you meet your boyfriend and stop when you leave. you have to be consistant. and if you take the pills continussly (say for a year, even when your not wiht your boyfriend) then you will be more protected from pregnancy because your body is used to it than if you've only been on it a month.

i've been on the pill for over a year now (we don't use a condom) but we always pull out... we both think it would be kind of sexy if he came in me (tmi i know.. but i have a valid question)...we're engaged and know that pregnancy is possible and we're not trying for a kid or anything but if it happens it wouldn't be the end of the world... so, ok, i've never missed a dose and take it at the same time so would it be safe for him to "let loose" in me? i know this has probably been answered before but i had to ask for myself

I need to share this. I had sex the first time recently. And it was painful, very painful and I bled. And subsequently, it was less painful but the next time I had it, I bled again. And this time more than the first. I would assume it is probably because he thrust too deep inside, and although not SO big, he has a rather long penis. Is this normal? Is there anything I should worry about?

Don't worry unless you the pain the bleeding persists for like the next few times you have sex. When my friend lost her virginity she said it hurt like hell and there was blood every where... Since my losing of virginity was smoothed sailing I don't have personal experience, but I'm pretty sure you are fine, but just had an intact or partially intact hymen. Lots of girls usually break their hymen or partially tear it during childhood just with normal wear and tear of life, but in some cases the hymen can only have a small tear in it that does allow for menstruation, so you've probably just never thought about it before intercourse. But once you heal sex should be much more comfortable after. Also make sure you are properly lubricated because that can make all the difference in comfort level. But really you just literally got your "cherry popped" and it's natural and common and will soon heal so you can enjoy sex more.

ok so after opening our Christmas presents my younger sister invited me into her room so she could try on the clothes that I gave her and she ended up bombarding me with questions that I didn't know how to answer mainly because I was shocked and another reason being I had no clue what the 'right' answer to her questions are.

My sister is a 17 year old who pleasures herself 4-5 times a week. She asked me if there is such thing as too much masturbation and since I have never really masturbated for fun I told her that I don't think there is such thing as too much.

Then she asked me if it is more pleasurable with toys or just with my fingers. At this point I just told her that I didn't know because my husband has met my needs whenever I am horny so I have never really experimented on myself.

She doesn't have a steady boyfriend but she has been dating and what not and she feels that if she can do it herself than she doesn't really need a man to help her out ( and I am not about to tell my seventeen year old sister that sex is way more fun than masturbation.)

So after reading this crazy rant does anyone know if there is such thing as 'too much masturbation"? And if it is more pleasurable with toys or just your good old fingers? I mean after having this conversation I felt like going out and buying her a vibrator or something.

Any help would put me at ease!