theres nothing to rekindle. she wasnt a good friend to you then so why would you be relying on her to make your social life better now? you need to get out there and make new friends on your own.

I wouldn't "scrounge" for friends just because you are having a social life down turn right now. The relationship sounded toxic and chances are (if she hasn't grown up) things will be the same. I like to think people change, but don't do it for the wrong reasons. If you truly feel good about reconnecting, then go for it. She may however, not be up for it, so be prepared. You wouldn't want to get burned by her again. I say surround yourself with positive people and relationships.

Good lord. I don't understand female:female drama!?! Or Facebook for that matter. Popsugar is all I have the time or patience for...
That said...

You'd have to be pretty desperate to 'rekindle' (wth is that?) a friendship with a s*tty friend in the first place. Make sure you aren't the problem (be your own best friend first and foremost) and then make some friends who are effective at being one

Yeah. Definitely don't contact her. How about developing some social hobbies? There are karaoke clubs and knitting circles all over the place.

don't do it... she will be all in you business... that mini feed aint no joke haha.... I wouldnt want to take the time to censor what she could see

i had a friend like that. trust me, don't go to her. people like that will forever eat away at you, and she'll just end up pissing you off somewhere down the line anyway.

go ahead and "block" her on facebook as well, to avoid any internet drama she may send your way. people feel a weird confidence over the web that they can't convey in person. don't even give her the chance!

NO

No no no.

I would rather not have a "social" life than have bad friends. Don't you like your own company? Go to museums, book clubs, attend events, go shopping, read a book, watch a tv show you want to catch up on, etc etc etc. Seriously.

obviously something is missing from this that indicates this 'friend' was at least fun and entertaining or had some redeeming qualities! but just because you're bored, don't bother with her!

lol you'd rather have a crappy friendship than a crappy social life? Woman...you really need to rethink that!

Find a hobby...

no! dont do it! i've been there, it will only make you miserable. its a nasty can a worms you just shouldnt open. yes its been 3 years, but people dont change as much as we would like to think.

You cant possibly be that desperate for friends that you are thinking of recycling useless people from ur past?

no no no dear, owe urself more than that please. thanks.

wierddddd.

NO.

I had a "friend" like this. We had a falling out like, 7 years ago. She recently friended me on Facebook. I still don't contact to her. She doesn't talk to me either, which is fine.

My social life is currently not optimal, but there is no way in HELL that would drive me to her again. When I said, "I don't ever want to hear or see you again as long as I live", I meant it.

There is nothing to be gained by talking to this girl. People come and go in our lives for a reason. Let her go!

And take this opportunity to GET SOME NEW FRIENDS. or a new hobby!

Absolutely no.....I think I would rather put up with a non-existant social life then to deal with some bullsh*t bottom feeder who doesn't have a clue as to how to treat a friend.

I guess I'm in the minority here, because I would do it. It really comes down to whether you believe people are forever good, forever bad, or neither. I'm in the "neither" category, and I think people can change for the better or worse depending on circumstances. The worst that could happen is you could discover you did the right thing by dumping her before. If you contact her now, you can be in control of your relationship, and YOU get to decide how YOU will be treated. Now that you've learned from your relationship with her in the past, I wouldn't be surprised if she apologized to you and you started a new friendship. I would totally give that a shot.

This is a very similar situation to going back to an exboyfriend when you haven't had a date in awhile. It seems like a good idea, but then you have to remember you broke up for a reason! Meeting new people is so much fun. Try to get involved in some type of hobby or activity and you will meet loads of new people. Then you will be so glad you didn't rekindle anything with that mean girl.

I think it depends on how your relationship really went down. Are you so sure that she did everything wrong and you were such an angel? I had a friend who would probably say the same things about me (at least she did to all our mutual friends) and I still have no idea why because she just stopped speaking to me. If you have told her what your problems with her were and she still refused to change, then I wouldn't contact her because the results would probably be the same. If you cut off a friendship without even trying to resolve your problems I would try again. There is probably a reason you want to be friends again that doesn't have to do with her being "selfish and rude".

I've been there, girl. Don't do it. I had a lull in my social life also when it seemed like every single one of my friends was moving out of the country. So I went back to one of my old friends who was such a b*tch at times simply to have another person to go out with. The good news was that I had my old going out buddy back. The bad news was that her sh*tty personality had to come with! It lasted a few months, then I had to break it off again. It ain't worth it. Your friend will just go back to her old way and you'll remember why you stopped being friends with her in the first place. Run.

Why go back? make new and better friends. That bridge is burned.

if you decide to proceed, go about it with caution. keep your guard up until you're sure she has changed for the better.

Sorry but that just makes you look pathetic. Learn from me, I actually let those losers befriend me again, those pricks that treated me like sh*t throughout grade school and I gave them all multiple chance. Then they come back on facebook or myspace or wtf ever, and I say k, whatever, I'll accept the invite, then 2 days later, I realize they were jerks and know what happens then? DELETE, there's better people out there than those losers. Have some dignity. Even if you don't have that many friends or friends at all. I frankly don't have BEST friends really...don't really find a dire need for them. Don't a fake friend is no real friend.

There are other people who deserve you. You broke up for a reason. You've got to be friends with someone who knows what they have when they have you.

i have a former "friend" of the same caliber. and while all of my friends stayed by her side and i chose to leave the group, i still hear stories of her treating them like sh*t. people like that rarely change. stay away. keep positive vibes in your life.

I have a similar situation on my hands. Rather than having a lack of friends at this point in my life, I am simply reaching out to my once enemy in order to reconcile for my own peace of mind. I don't plan on having a friendship with her like we once had, but rather close any negative feelings I have about any one person. We live in separate cities now anyways, which is why facebook is also our main mode of communication. Maybe you want to friend her on fb just to not feel so terrible about whatever happened in the past, but I would not recommend befriending her with hopes of becoming super close again.

No way, Jose! There are plenty of new people who will be your friend and actually treat you like one. Ignore this girl.

theres no need to suck up to a person that didnt appreciate your friendship. go to meetup.com you can find social groups in your area. i had a "friend" like that who just abused me as a friend. it was a fake love friendship, i only stayed because my best friend was friends with her so i put up with it. until that "friend" screwed over my best friend. that friend just decided to just drop me as well. i know i will never be friends with that girl again. i say grow a spine and run away from toxic people like that.