It does for me. I'm 28. I dont want one now or any time soon but I'm starting to wonder if I ever will or can even have them!

I'm 25 and my husband will be 27 next month. We've pretty much decided that we don't want kids until I'm around 28 or 29, so that gives us a few more years of freedom (haha). However, where we live people get married and have kids pretty young... so I feel the pressure just based on that. In fact, my sister in law is pregnant and she's younger than me.

I am 24 and I feel it, just a littleeeee...maybe when in a few more years I'll officially start freaking out? who knows

Nope.

Nope! Don't want any.

i want kids a lot but being 25 and having a lovely boyfriend, i know i have time so i'm not feeling it yet
but around 30 i might start to freak
i think i'd be happy to get engaged, get married, spend some alone time with my man, and then have babies a couple years later

I believe that with age pregnancy becomes a risk factor. B\c of HBP, diabetes and all that other stuff. I am 25 and right now everyone that I know around me is expanding their families. But right now I don't think I would be able to have a baby. But I do think about it. Me and my hubby are too young and there is a lot more things to see. But I do wonder how it would feel like to be :PREGNANT:

yes, I feel pressure. pressure to decide whether or not we want to try (we're 30). In a perfect world where I could def get pregnant as soon as I wanted to (or in a few months), this wouldn't be such a worry for me. but my mom had some real trouble conceiving and making it through pregnancies, so I always have that in the back of my mind, wondering if her problems might be passed to me. obviously if I'm at a disadvantage, it would be best to start trying sometime soon, if we're going to try. tough decision!!

im still young, just turned 23. so i personally can go another 6-7 yrs without a kid. but my husband is 10 yrs older than me and i dont think that would be fair for him. i also dont want my kid to have a much older father, so...i think i'll have one in maybe 3 yrs.God willing.

Luckily most of my friends and family are good about not pressuring us to have kids before we are ready- I especially am thankful to my mom and MIL for keeping it to themselves, even though I KNOW they are so ready for grandchildren. If only they knew I stopped taking my pill two months ago LOL.

I would love to tell them, but Im so afraid it might take awhile, I dont want them watching me like a hawk waiting for me to get pregnant. We have like 3 friends who know Im not on the pill anymore. DH and I are both 27 and ready for that next step in life, really looking forward to it.

i'm only 22 so i'm not even close to ready, my mom had me when she wsa in her 30s. I wouldnt want to wait too long the chance of a downs baby increases crazily as you get older espically once you reach your fifties as well as other potiential health risk to both you and the child

Im only 24 so Im not really in any rush. But I have known since I was very young that I wanted to be a mother and with each passing year I feel it a little more.

I'm 25, hubby is 28. We told our parents it would be ten years of marriage before a baby. It's been 2. It's worked really well and kept the annoying questions to a minimum. If we decide we're ready before 10 year mark, then so be it, but right now there's no rush and no pressure.

No, I decided a long time ago I did not want biological children!

Hell yes. My husband and I receive an enormous amount of pressure to have children from family and friends. We're in our 30's, and we've been married for several years.

The irony is that we're child-free by choice. We don't want children, but people find that unacceptable, and keep nagging us to have kids.

I can't begin to tell you the flak I receive from other women for our decision. I've been told I'm not a woman until I have children, I'm selfish, I'm lazy, etc. The kicker was when I was told I was "foolish" to not have kids. This woman believed I was inviting my husband to have an affair on me. She thought that having children will keep my husband from ever leaving me because I'm the mother of his children. She regarded children as a way to keep a man. So this woman thought I was really "stupid." Her notion was so outside of my way of thinking, I was rendered speechless by her.

woah, glowing

I second the speechless part.

No pressure for kids or marriage thank God!

Oh yeah...every woman in my family (grandmother, mother, aunt, sisters, cousins, etc) have had children by the time they turned 21, most of them had kids when they were 18 or 19. So I am a bit of the "old maid" in my family, even though Im only 24.

Glowing, that is not right! Noone should feel a right to judge anyone for their decisions, especially one as personal as having children! and that woman is crazy..having children with a man is no way a guarantee to having his heart.

Oh i feel the pressure, being 34, my mom emails me every week ..."any luck?" seriously.

Yep, 28 and wondering if it's going to happen. Not that I don't have enough time still, but I don't want to be like 45 trying to have a kid! I think if I don't have them by the time I'm 35 I probably won't.

I'm definitely have baby fever. I want kids soo fricken badly and I'm soooo ready for them.

Me and my fiance are getting married next year and planning on kids as soon as possible after.

We have already discussed baby names and told our moms.

His is happy, mine keeps teasing me that she isn't ready to be a gma. I know she really is ha-ha.

Is that b*tch in the geeksugar too?... I should've left when I was leaving!

-nope. I've got 3 (14,10&7) My time now! I have career pressure.

No pressure from family or friends, but I'm starting to get really excited about it. I'll be 30 in January, we've been married for 2 years, we're buying a house soon.......it's looking like it might be time soon enough!

We don't feel the pressure at all. In fact, I get the 'don't have kids right now, live!' speech from my mom and his quite a bit. Only 2 of our friends has kids. So no pressure at all from folks or friends and that's good because we're so not ready for children. My fiance and I have discussed it thoroughly. I'm 25, he's 28, going to be married in 2010 and won't have kids until 2013 or 2014. We want to enjoy our time together, but i know eventually he'll want kids and so will I, not just now.

I suppose I should feel the pressure...I'm 37, just married earlier this year, own a house...blah blah blah. All my ducks are in a row...yet, I just don't have the desire to pop kiddies out. Every once in awhile I will think I need to hop to it but then that feeling goes away (especially when I think of all of the travelling we want to do in the next few years). Perhaps it will kick in when I turn 40 (gulp!).

I'm 31, and I know the clock is ticking, those ovaries are turning into prunes as I type. But I just moved across an ocean to be with my BF and have to start my career over, and if I don't do it now... it will be too late. Yes, then it may be too late for kids too, but I figured I'd give it another 3 -4 years; if you're not established professionally when you have the kids, you never make it. My mom had my brother when she was 36, and he's a genius, so I guess our genes get better with age - LOL. Also, my BF is younger than me, and sooooooooo not ready. He's got the maturity of a fruit fly. But we want two, so I'm going to have to pop them out the one right after the other. If God permits.

Nope no pressure here..... I already have a biological child and a stepson.

I'm 21 years old so I don't feel pressure. But honestly, I love, love, love babies/kids. I definitely *want* to have kids in my mid 20s but who knows if that'll happen. I'm just focusing on being in a relationship right now, and I know I'm sooo not ready have kids yet. Heck, I still feel like a kid right now.

Nope. I'm done. I already have a 10 year old and a 15 month old. No more kids for me

No pressure at all! I'd say there is more pressure NOT to have kids!

When I was younger I always wanted kids & thought I'd have a baby by now. My husband & I are both 28, have been married for 3yrs and together since high school...but now that I'm at this stage in my life, I honestly don't know when or if I'll have them. We don't get too much pressure from our immediate families, they've learned to back off...but I as a woman, I feel it a bit from society. It's like once you're married it's expected...my doctor asks about it, co-workers, extended family, etc. Honestly, my husband & I enjoy our freedom...sleeping in, going out for a late night movie or bite to eat & not being tied down. It's so good to hear everyone's feelings on this topic...I feel that it's such a personal decision, I don't understand how people think it's appropriate to ask someone they hardly know when they're having a baby!!?? For now I'm content w/ just the 2 of us & of course my pups Who knows what the future will bring...

yup! and i'm only 20! my bf and my mom don't want any right now but i really want one! all my girl cousins and my sister have babies so i feel left out sometimes (like baby birthday parties and holidays... all the babies looked CUTE on halloween!). of course, i'm not going to until i finish college and all that jazz... but i still want one!

Nope...according to my mom we're super fertile. I'll have one when I'm ready.

I'm 25 and I feel relationship pressure more than anything else. I've been single for a very long time and all my friends are in relationships (or married).

I turned 35 2 weeks ago and definitely feel the pressure.

It started when my friend (also 35 and childless) told me that doctors call over-35 pregnancies "Geriatric Pregnancies".

Yikes.

However I am extremely healthy and REFUSE to start freaking out until I have proof that I should (ie. 1+ year of trying to get pregnant naturally).

Been married 2 years (he's also 35 - I'll blame his tired sperm if there are any problems!!) I just went off birth control (also 2 weeks ago). The irony is that I am NOT ready to have kids but know that I need to get going if I'm going to.

Sigh.

I've been married for two years and am 31. We felt SO MUCH pressure from both sides of the family to have a kid (not to mention all the friends popping out kids out all around us ) We talked about it, but never let it bother us till we were absolutely ready. I JUST found out that I'm pregnant. It's really early, so hoping all goes well since I am "older", according to my gynaec!!

Look you can now freeze your eggs, someone here has just done it so that she can train for the next Olympics in London. I personally would adopt if by the time i want kids and I'm too old. Having said this, I love kids and I am thinking of having them now (though i don't think i will go through with it in the end cause i am a high achiever and i want to earn more and be a lot more established in my business), well i don't know. I don't feel the pressure at all but in the same time I am not denying motherhood is very attractive.

I certainly think about it a lot. I'm 26 and single. It's hard for a woman to meet a quality guy and know that with him there could be a future with children in it. And for me I'd like to have a well-established relationship before having any. It kind of scares me sometimes that I may grow too old to have that chance. Men take forever to grow up, yet they are able to reproduce for the rest of their lives.

I'm only 21 so there's definitely no pressure yet. I think about it a lot though. I'm always trying to plan out when I'll get my career started, be married, have kids, etc, which is silly since usually life plans can't be followed exactly. I'm not too worried about it. I'm healthy so I expect to be able to conceive in my 30's if it comes to that. If not, I'd be willing to adopt. Oh, and if the husband never happens, I'd be cool with being a single mom. I want kids more than I want a husband. I find the pressure society, families, and friends creat about babies to be ridiculous. People are so blunt and will say to your face that you should be trying to get pregnant or that you're too young. It's a personal decision. Why do outsiders think they have a say in it?

I'm with you UrbanBohemian. I worry about finding the right guy in enough time too. It sucks. Guys are lucky in this, that they never have to worry about it! They can have kids when they are 80 years old. Ugh.

I never felt pressure from anyone. My husband and I wanted a big family, so we started making babies. I'm 23 with two so far. I can't think of anything better than staying home and raising my kids. I know I'm pretty rare though, I'm just impressed with everyone here who is waiting because they don't feel they're ready! That's awesome, and smart.

I don't feel pressure from others, but I pressure myself because I'm dying to have babies. I'm 29 and when I finish my last degree I'll be 31. My boyfriend lives overseas and I'm planning to move over and join him, but then will need to start my career in a new country. I'll be honest, I'd like to start a family as soon as I possibly can. I don't know what his career situation will be at that point, but we both know we want a big family - we just don't know if we can afford it. I'm really in limbo and just wanting to skip a couple of years so we can start our lives....

Geriatric Pregnancies

I'm only 20 and don't ever want kids anyway.

So maybe since I've made that clear to a lot of people, they won't bother me about it when I'm older...hopefully...except most people don't take me seriously when I say that, its SO annoying. >:-( Everyone always says, "hahahah, oh yeah you're going to have tons of kids when you're older". OMFG!!! people, not everyone in the world wants kids just because they are female, why can't people get that through there heads!!?!?!?

i don't think that age is really making me feel the pressure but i think that it's my own pressure that makes me want to have a baby. my man is a lot older than me and he doesn't seem to care as much about it but i would be so happy to have a baby in a week.

I'm 24 and I want to be a young mother. I'm going to be doing my postgraduate qualifcation for the next 2 years and graduating when I am 26. I see children (or a child) in our future before I am 30 though.

This means we need to get engaged, married and the whole hoopla before that happens though and that costs money! Money we don't have. So until we have money (once I am working) then we cannot save and cannot have children.

I do feel pressure though. My mother was 31 when she had me and I was the person in school with the oldest mother. I also only had my grandparents around for the first 15 or so years of my life.