I don't know what the weekend was about, if it was a one night stand or what, but I'm guessing you're feeling guilty because you regret what happened I hope. It's up to you how you want to live with this. Just because you aren't "officially" dating someone, the mere fact that you had an emotional connection will make this come off as cheating. Just be prepared for that. If you tell him he WILL more than likely be hurt and feel betrayed. On the other hand, you could hide it, but be prepared for it to eat you up inside either way. In my opinion, honesty shows a lot. If you really want to be with him, you owe it to him to be completely honest about what happened. Otherwise it will be worse if it comes out later. As a side note, in the event you tell him and he still wants to pursue things with you, this can NEVER EVER HAPPEN AGAIN, while you're emotionally connected, whether you're dating, engaged, married or on a break. Unless that emotional connection is being severed and you're both moving on for good, thread lightly and don't put yourself in compromising situations, as it will be always on his mind if you're hanging out with some guy and if something will happen.

If you had the "talk" and it was decided that you weren't exclusive then you can do whatever you want.

Unless you two had that 'talk,' you guys aren't exclusive. And it's really none of his business (as in: why do you need to tell him? Unless if you two talk about guys/girls you have sex with to each other).

Maybe you two are going only to be kissing-buddies, hey, who knows? Whatever the future brings, you know.
But take into consideration, health-wise, if you weren't as protected as you should've, get tested, and take proper action if something gone wrong.

Oh of course, if you want, have the relationship talk with the first boy.

hope2be...thank you, I don't have to say anything other than ditto.

No. Like I said to someone else, telling him would only hurt him and would only serve to ease your personal guilt. That's a very selfish motive.

Instead, take some time to reflect and figure out why you slept with someone else. If you were that drunk, it may signal an alcohol problem. If you weren't drunk, what were you thinking at the time? Are you harboring angry feelings for guy #1 because he won't commit? We you just really horny and unable to control yourself? That indicates you're immature and don't like guy #1 as much as you think you do. Either way, figure out why you did it.

This depends on that night, i mean if you aren't seeing that guy again i wouldn't tell unless you've agreed to date publicly. It isn't his business after all. Who knows if he has done a similar thing, would you like to know that if he did?

Personally i wouldn't at all, it will just ruin it. And if he acts funny when you tell him, well he isn't the one.

your not even his steady girlfriend! You don't need to tell him a thing. You own him nothing. On another note, wait until a guy loves you enough to slip a ring on that finger before you gift him with that special present God has given you- your sexuality. That precious gift should not be given to those who don't deserve it, believe me, I know

"If the lion lies down with the lamb, the lamb must be replaced frequently." --Attributed to Martin Luther In the immediate aftermath of the terrorist violence of September 11, 2001.

i'll go with everyone else & say if you haven't had "the talk" you're in the clear. also, to add to that, i'd say if you haven't slept with the first guy you have no obligation to tell him about sleeping with the second guy. if you have slept with the first guy, that's a little murkier for me as far as telling him about the second guy... but that's just me.

I agree with everyone else, don't tell him. My only question is, if you 'like' this guy as much as you claim to, why would you want to sleep with someone else? Things like this just boggle my mind.

There are great guys and bad guys out there, but none of them are angels! I wouldn't tell him... it's not anybody's business and besides you have no idea if this guys has slept with anyone else other than you. And, honestly don't you think if it were the other way around, he would tell you? I kind of doubt that. I would just bury it, forget about it, make sure it doesn't happen again since you are really into the first guy and move on and just focus on the future.

I agree that you shouldn't tell him. If you feel guilty about it, maybe that's an indication that you're more into him than you thought. I really don't think you should feel too bad about it (as long as you were "safe"). Just don't do it again unless you've decided for sure NOT to pursue a relationship with your friend.

I don't think you like him as much as you claim - how could you sleep with someone else if you really want this guy to be your boyfriend? I'm not being judgmental, just asking whether you are really as into him as you think. Personally I was just in a situation like this over the summer and I absolutely couldn't look at or think about anyone else at all. Sure, be friends with him, but maybe you guys aren't meant to be...

You don't need to tell him anything until you are officially dating. You should have the TALK again.

no, dont tell him. let some time pass so you can get the guilt off your mind, and you'll probably realize that telling him would have been a mistake. i agree that you should try to find a way to have the talk again, if you want to be exclusive

huh? tell your friend you had random sex? why?
who cares... save it for your girlfriends... it happens... you're not committed so whatever.

Why tell him? You guys aren't even committed at all, it's none of his business, unless you are also having sex with him, then it's his business for STD's purposes. Other than that though, you didn't do anything wrong...

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because people who mind don't matter and people who matter don't mind."

Keep it to yourself. Why ruin the good thing you have with him? If it gets serious with your friend, then you can talk about being monogamous.

After much thought, I partially take back what I said, it's your decision either way, if you don't tell him be prepared to live with the guilt of what happened, and maybe thinking that you may be lying to him about "who you are" even though this may not be who you are. If you do tell him, it will really hurt him probably and he may have this on your mind, everytime he things about you romantically, not everytime per say, maybe time to time, images of you and someone else will be in his mind...if you two do decide to stick it out. Such memories may in time be forgotten so much as long as they aren't brought up so much, but it won't be easy. People make mistakes...but if you love him, show him that you do, it really really helps for him to know that you do and you want a life with him (if that's what you want), and he's the only one for you etc. This is just for in general.

"everytime he things about you romantically, not everytime per say, maybe time to time, images of you and someone else will be in his mind"

This girl isn't a virgin, and he isnt living under the assumption that she is...so he knows shes been with other people regardless of when it happened (they arent in a relationship, so it doesn't matter) so if hes going to picture her with other people, thats his problem... as long as she didn't do it while they're in a committed relationship it is a non-issue.

Depends on the guy, depends on when it happened. Just my opinion, as a guy. And I probably said that in spite, considering I rather detest how sex is just thrown around.

Nah, don't tell him. He's not your boyfriend so therefore he has no rights and you SHOULDN'T feel guilty as you arn't a couple. I am a little confused though...he was out of town so you have sex with someone else...but you really care for him and you want to be with him?...

Plus, like someone else said it's for a selfish reason that you want to tell him. YOU feel bad so you want to tell him so YOU can feel better. Not good.

My question is... if he means so much why would you start boning someone else when he leaves for the weekend? Obviously that isn't... well.. right. I don't understand why you would feel guilty... Did you feel guilty as you took your skivvies of to sleep with this other guy? I think right now you're pretty low because if he meant that much to you, you wouldn't have done anything else. Do you think maybe he doesn't want a relationship with you for a reason? Hmm.. I think so.