WELL, I CAN SAY ALL 0F MY GUY FRIENDS HAVE HAD A CRUSH 0N ME, BUT!! I W0ULD TELL THEM & THEY KN0W... IT CAN NEVER HAPPEN! S0 WE'RE JUST G0NNA KEEP IT AS FRIENDS, THEY'VE NEVER TRIED T0 PUSH UP 0N ME. H0WEVER, THEY'VE T0LD ME AB0UT THEIR CRUSH. BUT AFTERWARDS, WE REMAINED G00D FRIENDS WITH N0 STRINGS ATTACHED!

I don't think so either one or the other develops an attraction. Happens every time.

I think it depends on the people. I know some men and women can be just friends... I think? For me the answer is no, I have a hard time just being friends with guys, and vice versa. I don't know why, but it's hardly possible.

I also think it depends on the people....i've had guy friends who ended up liking me, and then some who werent attracted to me at all, but thought of me as a sister. Unless the guy looks like Nick Lachey, I think I can manage just friendships haha

I don't know how many times I've fooled myself into thinking I could be friends with a guy. No matter how you slice it, the sexual tension rears its head at times; not always, but it does come up - for both parties. So my opinion is yes, we can be friends, as long as we're comfortable with the sexuality that is always evident. If one party can't deal with that, then no. So I guess, no is what I really mean after all that.

Almost all my friends are women. I think SOME women can have male friends, but I'm a girlie-girl who dates men and hangs out with my girlfriends.

well, if she's not his type and/or if they are buisness partners then yes they can. I do believe that there are men out there that firmly believe in being faithful! Not all men cheat...unless they know the relationship is headed to a deadend.

i have a lot of close guy friends and a good amount of girl friends. i've only hooked up with probably about 10% of my guy friends and the rest i have never been attracted to even tho a lot of my girl friends think they're gorgeous or ask "who's thaaaaat?!" haha. i am confident in saying that i can have guy friends and not have a worry in the world about it turning sexual.

Yes, it is possible for a man & a woman to be just friends.

I've had male friends, and that's all we were, plain & simple, just friends.

It does depend on the person though, and what their feelings are towards each other.

i should say yes & no, because my current boyfriend and i were 'just friends' for 5 months and i didn't even really realize his attraction until he came out and told me (turned out to be a good thing ). I do, however, have a lot of guy friends because i LOVE watching sports. I bond w/ a lot of males just because of that and I haven't exactly been dating them all!

I think it's easy to be 'just friends' w/ a guy or a girl when you're already attached and when they are. I have some friends I met when they were engaged or even while I was dating my current guy that it was easy to befriend because there was no pressure...I can't speak for them on their end, but I truly do believe in almost all these types of situations it's been mutual.

For me being GOOD friends with a guy is easy, being CLOSE friends is a different story. I've got a few guy friends, but I'm mostly a girl's girl. None of them appear to have anything for me, however most of them already have fantastic girlfriends.

My boyfriend has a few really good friends and they are ALL women. He hangs out with no men whatsoever, at least not on a regular basis. All of these women are either ex girlfriends or friends of his ex girlfriends and at first it really bothered. I suppose on some level it still does but I've found a comfort zone with it. I think his best friend still harbors feelings for him but at this point I figure that if he's going to cheat on me with her then he's making a really bad decision but it's his to make. Whether men and women can be friends or not you can't spend your relationship looking over his shoulder.

i don't have many girls i'm friends with. my best and oldest friend is a guy who's like my brother. then my other close friend (who's also my boyfriend's best friend) is also a guy.. nah. they're pretty much all guys and nothing has happened between me and them, except for obviously my boyfriend. there is a sexual thing, of course. sometimes when we're out partying there can be some flirting/touching going on but it's just the drunken party mode. and there's never any awkwardness when we're back to normal in the morning- that's because we're close friends. (btw, that last part was when i was single, not with my bf)

i dont know, i guess i just find men easier to hang out with. with girls i always feel like there's some secret animosity/competition. i refuse to accept what my boys always tell me ("they're just jealous") because i don't think i'm all that smart/pretty/whatever, far from it. i still don't get it. sad.

I have several close guy friends. A few fall into the ex category, but others are totally platonic and always have been. I'm a bit of a tomboy though so I really think I just relate to guys better than I relate to women. Like if you are the type of person that would rather watch sports and play poker than try on clothes or something, you are just going to end up hanging out with guys more often. So I guess it's by default that I have more guy friends.

yes, IF both are in relationships that meet their needs.

I agree with Giggle. For me, I never had guy friends. Just girl friends. I dated guys.

I have more male friends than female ones, and they are the best friends I've ever had. They help carry stuff and make sure that you're safe on the T, and it's great to have guys to talk to when I'm having boy trouble, I can also help them out by demystifying girl behavior. There's innocent flirting and some sexual jokes, but that can be said for my female friends too.

Hmm I think so. I've had a couple of male friends who I've never been attracted, but I've also found out years later that some were in fact interested in me. I think it can be difficult when one or both are single, but if they are both in committed relationship, like lickety split said, I think it happens.

Ooh, I just remembered actually. I have a very close male friend , we're both single. And we get on just like I do with my closest female friends. And there's zero chemistry or attraction between the two of us.

it's possible to have friends of the opposite sex, but, no matter what anyone says or thinks, at one time, there has been some attraction on at least one side of the friendship.
girls who have guy friends and are adamant that they are "just friends!" may not realize that that guy has had feelings for them. and maybe not love feelings, but at least sexual feelings.
now that i'm married, most of my guy friends are mutual friends my husband and i share. and the same is true about his girl friends. i have friends that think this is weird and restrictive but honestly, for me, it's about respect and boundaries.

I think, for me it is a bit different from what all of you have said. I have not lived in the same town for more than a few years, so all the friends I may have had once are not friends anymore. My friends now are friends my husband has had for years (because he grew up here) and their wives or girlfriends. So I have never thought of them romantically.(Okay maybe a fantasy, but that's healthy , right?) I think it is totally different when each party is in a relationship. I think being friends with guys helps a girl to find what she wants in a partner. Friends tend to show their true selves with each other long before they would with someone they are dating.

i get along better with guys than with girls (i attribute this to having all brothers growing up), so most of my close friends are guys...it's definitely conceivable for some people to be just friends with the opposite sex.

I think you can have friends of the opposite sex.

No, I think there's always sexual tension between a man and a woman.

Honestly, I really do not think it works out. Everytime i have been, it ends up someone wanting more...the only way the opposite sexs can be friends is through somoene else..thats it!

I know from experience that while a woman can be friends with a guy, it's MUCH HARDER for a man to be friends with a women, especially if he finds her even halfway attractive.

I have many male friends where I have ZERO attraction to them, but I know what a few of them find me attractive. And, if I give them the opportunity, they would hook up with me if I asked. It's up to me to keep a distance and make sure the relationship stays platonic. So, it's not really a true friendship because I can't get to close or they will get thier signals crossed.

SO, NO, men and women can't be friends... unless they are closely related...

I have quite a few guy friends and while there have been "slip-ups" in the past with a couple, I feel that I can still be just friends with them. I actually tend to get along really well with men. I think it also helps that I'm not really attracted to my male friends. So, while I can have a friendship with a male, I don't know if all ladies can.

i used to thinks you could be friends but i have learned so many times that this is untrue....somebody ALWAYS catches felings- whether they tell you or not is a whole other issue!

depends on how hot one of them is...

All my friends are girls, Ive tried being 'just friends' with a guy but it always ends up bad. So no. Guys are for dating!

It's very rare that there is no attraction one way or another or mutually... so I find it extremely difficult to be "just friends" in the sense that there won't, at one point or another, be just a little something more on at least one side.

But, not impossible...

yeah it can happen......

Just because there is a physical attraction doesn't mean there is a personality attraction. My best friend loves me as a friend, but I am too high maintenance to be a girl friend. It doesn't mean that I don't make a great friend, and I need more attention than he can give, so it works perfectly.

I grew up as a tomboy, and the drama girls bring into friendships annoys me. While my best friend is a girl and I have my group of girl friends, I'd much rather kick back with the guys. Most of my friends are guys, and I can say that while I might find some of them cute or interesting, it only makes me appreciate them as a person and friend more. I wouldn't dream of dating any of my guy friends.

some of my best friends are males. they've been my friends since college and i wouldn't trade them for anything, just like my girl friends. but, there is never going to be anything romantic between us, they know that, my boyfriend knows that. the same goes for him: he has girl friends he's known longer than me, and i trust that his relatinship with them is like mine with my male friends. b

My boyfriend puts me in the awkward situation of forcing me to except his exes as well as former friends-with-benefits. I've tried to explain to him that once you date someone or sleep with them, that the dynamics of the relationship is changed forever and that I am NOT comfortable with him maintaining 'friendships' with those girls... Then he tries to make me look like the psycho possessive, jealous girlfriend from hell.

Keep in mind, that I am friends with some of his exes and have NO problem with his female friends who he was never sexually involved with. It is the romantic/sexual relationships that he refuses to put in the past that drive me up a wall!

I have a lot of male friends. I admit there have been a few that I've liked and I have no idea if some of them like me but I have a feeling that a few have. Who knows. I think that if both people like each other enough it will happen and if not it is possible to maintain a friendship. It depends on whether the person is really hurt or accepts that they will be nothing more than just friends. But I do believe that I have male friends where there are no sparks whatsoever between us or at least we know starting anything would be a bad idea.

I'm torn in the middle. well, not the middle, more like "If it weren't for that one particular guy friend i have, men and women could never be friends".

Almost every guy who I've ever been really good friends with has either liked me, or I liked them...and that's not the easiest thing to ignore. Over time, you just start liking them more and more. The way I see it, the only difference between your best friend and a guy you're crazy for is that you find them attractive in some way. When you factor in that you found them physically attractive from the start, and THEN found out how completely awesome they were personality-wise, that makes you want them even more.

i can only think of one guy friend who i truly love as a big brother and nothing more, and never got the "he likes me vibe" from. All the others i eventually had to limit my contact with because someone would feel awkward, someone's feelings would resurface, or their girlfriend/my boyfriend would feel threatened/uncomfortable.

And also, my boyfriend has only had one close female friend while with me, and he ended up liking her within days of meeting her (he told me himself)
Before that, he had a crush on a girl for like 10 years and still speaks to her from time to time.
Now that i think about it, i can't think of any girl he ever told me about that he didn't end up liking(or vice versa)...which just backs up my point.
heh, i didn't realize i'd have so much to say.

yusukesgirlie almost read my mind. Personally I can't keep many close male friends as they end up liking me and therefore exactly as she said, i have to limit my contact because of awkward situations that may arise.
I think men find it more difficult to keep a woman only a friend.
Above all, I think that - no, a man and a woman can never be great close friends. One of them will surely be hiding secret feelings for the other. And if one of them is in a relationship, then surely another close friend of the opposite sex is not appropriate.

True Story:

I have known Alex since 11th grade, we are now 22 years old, about to graduate from college and still good friends, no, maybe best friends. I easily see Alex everyday, at some point, no matter what. We blow off others to hang out, sit around and watch movies, do all sorts of art, I make lunch, he makes dinner, and the awkwardness is officially killing my spirit. I have probably hooked up with Alex a total of four times. Each time, better than the last. The other night, we were sitting in my room watching
"Life as a House", lounging around on the floor, drinking all sorts of lovely beverages around 1 am when Alex, the most amazingly fun and interestingly weird, intelligent, person I know put his hand on my leg, then his arm around me, then his head on my shoulder and his mouth on my neck and asked to me convince him to stay the night, and I turned him down!!! And I'm in love with him! Completely and utterly. And then we talked about it and he rattled about how he wouldn't take advantage of me and for crying out loud all I want to do is sleep with him! Christ! This was like 4 days ago and now the tension is so thick you could slice it with a knife and put it on toast! Someone respond to this comment and help me with my problem because this is literally, starting to take over my life. He's all I think about and he knows it, and I'm pretty sure if something doesn't change soon I am going to need a therapist.

True Story:

I have known Alex since 11th grade, we are now 22 years old, about to graduate from college and still good friends, no, maybe best friends. I easily see Alex everyday, at some point, no matter what. We blow off others to hang out, sit around and watch movies, do all sorts of art, I make lunch, he makes dinner, and the awkwardness is officially killing my spirit. I have probably hooked up with Alex a total of four times. Each time, better than the last. The other night, we were sitting in my room watching
"Life as a House", lounging around on the floor, drinking all sorts of lovely beverages around 1 am when Alex, the most amazingly fun and interestingly weird, intelligent, person I know put his hand on my leg, then his arm around me, then his head on my shoulder and his mouth on my neck and asked to me convince him to stay the night, and I turned him down!!! And I'm in love with him! Completely and utterly. And then we talked about it and he rattled about how he wouldn't take advantage of me and for crying out loud all I want to do is sleep with him! Christ! This was like 4 days ago and now the tension is so thick you could slice it with a knife and put it on toast! Someone respond to this comment and help me with my problem because this is literally, starting to take over my life. He's all I think about and he knows it, and I'm pretty sure if something doesn't change soon I am going to need a therapist.

Hey RunAroundClaire,

I think if you like him, and vise versa, and your both single and your wondering "if something doesn't change", what you will do? Sounds like the only thing that can change is you flat out walking up to him and saying you like him. Nothing else can change.

I see your post is from five weeks ago. If it works out, and you feel like it, let us know what happened!

–TSG.

yes but no at the same time. The reason why I have guy friends now is that they were tired of being friends with my ex and just wanted to be buds with me. been friends with them for more than 4yrs no weird moments whatsoever. but if it was a guy i really liked and it didnt workout between us no, doesnt workout. i think unless you met a guy through a friend or a ex i think you can be friends...other than that i wont go there...anymore.

no

The answer to the question is No. 90% of women who say men and women can just be friends are crazy in the head. It does not benefit the man at all to just be friends with the women. It only benefit the woman. Women like to have many friends because it make them feel good and popluar. How does it benefit a man? It does not. They can not help you fix your car, they do like sports, they can not be your wing-man at the club,no sex. I can go on.they only want to talk about their problems, no man want to heard that s#it all the time,"bags ladys" It will only hurt your game to be friends with a woman. They will slow you down from finding your wife and have sex with other women. Women like to call man brother or good friend. Most of the time it is BS. It is Hollywood talk that S#it not real. Women can not be friends with other women. Why? Because y'all are messes. I have heard it from other women. I have find it to be the truth. The good lord did not put a man and woman on earth just to be good friends, believe it or not.