You have a large group of girl friends from college that you still stay in touch with. You've all been talking about getting together for a reunion night, but after months of talk, no one's taken on the responsibility, so you decide to take it upon yourself. You all agree that instead of a big group dinner out, it would be more fun to make it a girls' night in. The problem is your apartment is just too small for that many people. One of your friends has a great place for groups; you ask her if she'd be willing to let you throw it there, and she agrees.
When the weekend of the party arrives, you call your friend to confirm the plans for setting up at her house. But now she tells you that it's not a good time for her, and she's not feeling well. You assure her she doesn't have to do anything, but she refuses. Now you have a 20-person party with no location. How do you handle this?
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Good thing I confirmed plans, otherwise we'd all be in trouble when the night of the party were to roll around.
1Anyway, obviously my friend isn't feeling her greatest, so I'd be peeved, but try to see if we could switch it to a dinner party at a nice restaurant or something.
I'd ask one of the other 20 people if they could host. If that didn't work, it sounds like a girls night out instead of in.
2This has happen to me once before but I wasn't the one that was hosting it, I was just helping! My friend was wanting to have a toy party so she called up her best friend to see if she could use her basement! It was a spot that had just enough room for all of her guest! Well come to find out on the day of the party she had a water leak in the basement but informed us that we could use her dean as a back up! We get there to set up and no one is home! Can you believe this situation!!! I canceled all my plans for the evening just for this party and now we have no one answering the door!
I know exactly what this person is going through b/c I've experienced it hands down! It takes a lot to calm you down from the disappointment but the worst part about it is for giving! We for gave her but we never did invite or ask her to another party unless it had something to do with family!
3Talk to people coming to the party to see if they have a place they can spare.
If not...go and look for venues downtown for dinner out.
4I think you're always taking a risk when you're the party planner but having it at another guest's house - I usually find that extra people show up, or their house is really messy. I try to host things at my apartment, but I'm also a control freak and like everything to go smoothly.
5i'd email everyone saying that GirlX bailed (i'd totally out her! i wouldn't take the fall for this!) and then i'd ask if anyone else had a place big enough, and if not, meet at a bar
6Yep I would out her totally and possibly just ended my relationship with her. I wouldn't fight with her though, I would just fade away. If she gets angry well just tell her you have no choice but to do this.
7Unless she has a good reason, I agree with the ones who said they'd bait out her scene. You make a commitment, you stick to it, especially when it's a bunch of people relying on you. And then I wouldn't invite her to any other get together I was planing.
8Hotel Suite!
9...oh, and plan a Lowcountry Charleston Style Seafood Soiree with plenty good looking men and not invite her trifling ass...send out souvenir pictures 'inadvertently' sending her one...that'll make any grown woman cry.
10I would have hosted this at a hotel or restaurant instead of someone's house. It just seems less risky and if the restaurant cancels on you b/c of issues on their end, they would usually be more than willing to compensate you for your loss. i.e. giving you coupon or discount for your next visit.
11well i think that it's a catch 22 cause i have a feeling that she was probably just offering her place up in the beginning to be nice and never had the intention of following through. i think that she'll probably throw it back at you that you should have confirmed too. i think that in this case - you should just make lemonade out of the lemons, and do a low key girls night out for pedis/manis and drinks, and then just have an old school slumber party or whatever in a cramped space to remind you of the good times that you had while you were in college. some of my best memories were having 5-6 of us just cramming into one of our sorority sister's rooms after a mixer or some drunken night out, and all just sleeping on the floor.
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