Are you serious???????????

wtf?!?! i can't believe he does this! i understand that some countries do this as a greeting but we don't except for like your significant other. that's weird. i can't believe you've put up with this for so long.

Does he do this with your male friends, too, or just your female friends?
Just tell him one more time that it makes you uncomfortable, and if it doesn't stop, leave.

My friend's boyfriend is very touchy with all girls. He doesn't kiss on the lips, but he does put his hands on them (like around hips or will touch the arm) a lot. Whenever he does this with me, I always smile and say, "So, how has your girlfriend been doing lately?" Or any reference to his gf. That usually annoys him

I'm not usually an "eye for an eye" person, but maybe start doing the same with his guy friends and see how her reacts! Hey, I know it's not very mature, but I think it's the only way for him to know how it feels. He probably thinks there's nothing wrong with it. OR, get your friends to say something. Seriously, if each of them asked him not to do that, he just might get the picture.

*he*- see how HE reacts.

wow since you CLEARLY told him that it bothered you and he still kept it up, I'd have bigger issues with him if I were you. Does he RESPECT your wishes at all? Why would you want to be with someone who is intentionally hurting your feelings? Maybe he doesnt mean it to hurt you, but you told him you dont like it, and he is basically saying 'whatever, Im going to do what i want to anyways'.

RED FLAG

ummm do people actually do that? thats not okay at all. i think the majority of people that are reading this are also seeing huuuuge problems. for him, that may be a normal thing to do and he doesn't feel uncomfortable with it, however he is making your friends and you uncomfortable. i'm more worried with the fact that he is blatantly disregarding your feelings.

That's pretty disgusting...the germs alone! Tell him 'Listen, you don't kiss anyone on the lips that I don't kiss on the lips if you ever want to kiss mine again!'

Im sorry but thats just creepy... lol
Tell him to cut it out or move on... thats just gross and really inappropriate... I can only imagine what your friends are saying when you're not around... the ones that turn their heads probably dread hanging out with him...eww... and the ones who don't...well...thats just weird

I would kick his ass!!!

Okay I would totally be bothered by that too!! And I think Dear's answer is perfect, hopefully it will help him to see where you are coming from and everything will work out!

My friends husband likes to kiss on the lips. It is so weird and I would turn away. I am sure she knows he does it, but not sure if it bothers her. They are a very sexual couple so more may be going on there that I no for sure.

It is quite inconsiderate of him to keep doing it though, since you specifically told him it bothers you. But that is men for you!

i honestly don't think its a red flag, some people are just like that. maybe its how he grew up and he really gives it no thought when he does it. gently remind him. don't make it a bigger issue then it needs to be. then kiss him and tell him to save those wonderful lips just for you!

Aw someone is getting his rocks off under the guise of "friendly"

Please. Its inappropriate. And its a huge flag. You already told him that you're uncomfortable with it, and he disregards your feelings and goes on with the behavior. Whats that tell you? NO respect there.

Can you maintain a relationship with a person who has no regard for your feelings?

I know I couldnt...

yeah I would agree that it wasnt a red flag IF she hadn't already explicitly told him she didnt like it.

The fact that he is blatantly disreagrding her feelings is what sets the red flag for me, anyways

I was about to say, unless he's European, that's not okay.

And then I thought about it, and even if he IS European, he needs to respect what you're okay with.

Which is obviously not kissing your friends on the lips.

I agree with missyd. Red flag.

I was about to say, unless he's European, that's not okay.

And then I thought about it, and even if he IS European, he needs to respect what you are and aren't okay with.

Which is obviously not kissing your friends on the lips.

I agree with missyd. Red flag.

Is he European? Even French Canadians only do the side cheek kiss thing...they don't do the lip kiss. That is wierd. And I agree with Dearsugar. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable..you should talk about with your bf..and he should address. You should bring it up again and explain more emphateically that you are bothered by the whole issue and it is NOT ok. If it keeps doing this again...time for some serious thinking on your end about a guy that disregards your feelings liek that.

I also wondered about his culture. Regardless- as everyone said- he still needs to respect you and of course the culture he is IN not where he came from. If he doesn't stop I would seriously question if this is a decent guy.

okay, I stopped reading this as soon as I read he kisses them on the lips!!!! WTF???

Um....I would say to him "Look, man....you have REALLY got to stop kissing my friends. NOT COOL"

wtf...not only would i be totally uncomfortable, but i'd be so embarrassed. i can totally see a couple of my friends slap a man who kisses them on the lips out of no where. that would teach him.

Are you $hitting me? Punch him and dump him!

Why does he need to do this? How ... urgh... creepy.

One word, STOP! He needs to know women do not like this. I mean this is a very creepy behavior as sparklestar has said. The only people I see doing this are gay men. Straight men don't do this. They know it's way too much.

Oh..someone here has said if he's European it might explain it, Well..i am not sure on that, I guess if you are spanish then it might be kind of normal cause i know spanish people are affectionate and this may be how they greet each other (though all spanish I know don't do this)

I dont care what culture he is.....
Welcome to America. Keep your lips to yourself

Lmao! To me, being European might only imply that they'd have no issue kissing another man on the cheek. But that's all.

Bottom line: ITS CREEPY and your friends probably HATE it... sooo tell him to knock it off for those simple reasons

Well girls, we seem to all agree European people don't do this! It kind of makes me laugh out loud in a way, you know he would make such a good character in a sit com. It makes me think if Jerry Sienfield..man that show was full of men like this!

Ok, it's not a big deal if he comes from a culture that does that to greet people, that's not creepy or weird or strange or bad...everyone in the world is not like the U.S., good grief!!

It is a big deal, because you already asked him to stop b/c it bothers you. He obviously now has no regard for your feelings at all. I would maybe talk to him about it once more, and make sure he knows you are very very serious about it and why. After that, if he doesn't make an effort to change, you get to decided if you want to stay without someone who doesn't care about how you feel.

She needs to just b!tch slap him, there, that'll end it.

Ounch! Rockandreplublic! That will hurt

Are you sure it is affection and nothing else. Does he do it to the guys too? If he does the kissing to both the guys and girls I would be less worried. If he does it to only girls.. then I am not so sure what his intention is. You just don't kiss someone on the lips, cheeks is also crossing the line a bit but still could be socially acceptable. Lips no way. You also made it clear to him that his actions made you feel uncomfortable, after you guys talk, what was his response to your concerns? Did he say "screw you?" or "It is just the way I am?" Either way, he either stop or he needs to go see a psychologists to discuss his behavior as it is crossing the line and affecting your relationship.

It's time to stop being polite and tell him to stop it immediately! If he thinks this is normal, tell him to read this post. Maybe ask one of your girl friends to slap him next time he does that and have her make a scene, like asking him where the heck does he think he gets permission to kiss anyone on the lips besides his own gf. I'd totally do that for you if I knew you. Then my man would follow up with a punch in the face with a "Try that again and you'll get a kick somewhere else." Seriously, your bf is going to get some ass kicking if the girls' boyfriends knew about this.

Wow, that is unbelievable inappropriate and disrespectful to you.

HAHAHAHA RockAndRepublic I think your way would be the most effective...lol

Thanks, k8. I try.

i think that sometimes it's really key to have conversations about what you like or don't like and this is one of those things that you HAVE to tell him about. if your friends don't like it and you don't like it - either he has to adjust his actions or you need to get rid of him.

As already mentioned, the concerning aspect is that he is disregarding your feelings on this particular issue. While I would personally be offended by such a behavior, perhaps he was raised to show an overabundance of affection. I would have a nice long chat with him about this. To look on the bright side, he's not alone in such mannerisms; the Obama's and Biden's have kissed on the lips on numerous occasions. Perhaps it's the new "hello."