technically, my one night stand has now turned into 2 different nights? so maybe it's 2 one night stands with the same guy?

Wait, how would you categorize a one night stand without sex... no fingering, no touching anywhere intimate and no kissing... just plain slept next to another person. Does that still consider a one night stand...

Can't remember a few of their names.

Once. it was kool but wouldn't do it again.

Not my thing, I've always been a serial monogamist.

Hah, my comment didn't make any sense! I mean that I've always been in long-term relationships

A couple of times. Once I met the guy later and we ended up in a relationship that lasted almost a year. The other times were in strange cities for conventions, and I didn't see or hear from them ever again.

I've done it once and it was not for me. I felt terrible after all was said and done.

How about an option for "yes I've had a one night stand AND I've also had it turn into something AND I'm also past doing all of that anymore" lol

Agree Berlin!

Yes, twice; one against my will, the other by choice. both were not my thing, so I haven't done them since. I actually just told my fiance about the one I didn't say yes too, and he is first person I have ever told it too even though it happened over 8 years ago...that was tough, but he says he doesn't see me differently so that's good.

Nope. Never.

No, and i wont.

Me neither. For me, sex is a fabulous thing but also precious. I just wouldn't be able to share that with someone I just met.

Yeah once, and I would do it again. It was fun!

yes, have had them 3 times, things happen...i new all of them, they werent just random strangers.

It's one of those things I pictured would happen a lot in my college/adult life (for whatever reason), but it just never did. I guess I just pick someone and stick with 'em!

Yep, I did em but most of them turned into FBs anyways. Then I decided to settle down and found my perfect man

I'm too afraid of catching something.

I haven't, not sure that I would. I'm not against them, I'm just not sure that I could do it myself.

I wouldn't say no until I'd tried but in some ways I see it as disrespectful of him toward me to expect one, or me being disrespectful of myself that I don't deserve more than wham bam thank you ma'am, as the phrase goes

The last time I did it was at a party in high school when I had too much to drink. I definitely wouldn't do it again--in a real life situation, the whole concept of bedding a stranger is a lot more scary than sexy.

I haven't done it. Too scary for me, and I need that emotional attachment, that's more important to me.

I'd never do that to myself. Too much risk.

ummm yea I have...
my current almost 2-year bf was suppose to be!!! But I thought he was too sexy and too nice to slip away

Yeah, I've had a few, but I was young and stupid and drunk. It's not something I would do now. Luckily I was smart enough to use protection!

a few times but i felt pretty used and the guys i was with weren't nice guys, so i promised myself no sex unless i'm dating/in a relationship now.

A one night stand isn't so bad when you know this is the person you want to be with! I did it a few times with the man I'm with now and it turned out great! We ended up being together for 5 yrs.. so I don't think there so bad but it can cause problem's! I guess you have to have a good experience in order to judge this situation!

I have but we've always been in touch after the fact...Nothing came about and we didn't hook up again but we spoke...I was usually the one to end communication

loving the ghetto spelling of hookupz. lol

cravinsugar - if it was against your will, it wasn't a one night stand, it was rape. i'm glad you were able to tell your fiance about it, and you should never ever ever accept anyone judging you for it.

Load, on more than i can count on one hand, The sex was okay, nothing special. When you're in love the sex is pretty good

I was in college in the late 80's and early 90's. Yeah, I had one or two. LOL

Once and I regret it. I'm not that kind of a person.

I have...couple summers ago between my high school and college years. It was definately fun and although i may regret some....it was definately a growing experiance as a person and I wouldn't take any of it back, because it made me who I am right now. And actually, one of them actually turned out to be my current boyfriend(we've been dating for over a year) and so there IS a possibility you can end up with someone great. it's about learning what kinds of people you like, and don't like.

They r difficult, or maybe just 4 me cos i knew it was a no strings attached thing which was fine but i still wanted 2 keep n touch. maybe make it a 2 nite stand...a permanent booty call I guess but it doesn't always work out that way.

I have had a few, and I really see nothign wrong with them. I enjoyed everything. I don't really talk to those guys anymore, even tho they're on the outskirts of my huge circle of friends. But we all knew what we were getting into so it's not like either of us tried to see a relationship from it.

Also, i think when i have sex with someone that i don't have to worry about hurting their feelings, is WAY fun. i really get to concentrate on me and do what i want. I'm young. i get to do what i want!

Also i have to admit that they have helped me become a lot more comfortable with myself, my body, and what my body can do for the same reason that i have more fun. They don't have to care about MY feelings ,and are honest.

And when THAT still gets compliments, hello confidence.

Nitachequita-

Thanks. I still don't see it as rape even though it was technically. It was someone i thought I knew as a friend, actually, him and another man. I had been drinking, and my girl friends ditched me and went home before it happened so I pretty much blame myself for getting in the situation. I have always just counted that night as 2 people I had done it with, but never explained it to anyone. I can count the different people on 1 hand anyways, even with that.

No, but I had something similar. Met a guy at a club, went out with him a week later....then never talked to him again after that night (by choice--he really pissed me off).

when i was going to school overseas, i had a one night stand that i thought was all it was going t be, but low and behold i started dating this guy and we had a 6 month relationship - so it wasn't so bad. i don't really think that there's anything wrong with them if you're using protection. i think that we live in a time when it's socially acceptable to put yourself out there if that's what you want to do - as long as you're safe. there are too many consequences if you're not careful.

I recently had a one night stand. It was my first time doing anything like that and only my 3rd sexual encounter. I was always one of those people who said I would never do anything like that. I was married over 15 years and was faithful the whole time. The guy I had this encounter with was an acquaintance I worked with. We would talk on IM or have coffee every 4 or 5 months but not regularly. I always thought he was a nice guy and very intelligent. He IM'd me one night while I was working and wanted to drop by so I said ok. I wish now I hadn't. He is much younger than me and when he showed up I could smell alcohol on him. We talked for a while and I think out of sheer loneliness I let things get out of hand. He came over for one thing and one thing only and I allowed myself to give in. It was not enjoyable, it was over so fast and after the fact he said he was going to step out and have a smoke then be right back. I heard him get in his car and drive away. I felt so used and like a wh*re. He has not spoken to me since and I don't know why I should want him to. I never thought he would ever do anything like that. I never will again...I wish I could take it all back.

Sorry its a novel, but I have been dying to share this with someone. I don't have anyone I can talk to about this.

Cravinsugar - I think it's important to realise that if something happens against your will, the circumstances (drinking, being alone with someone) do not matter. The heart of the matter is you were forced to have sex when you did not want to - and the legal definition of that situation is rape. Never blame yourself. Society does a good enough job indoctrinating you to think that way, but it's not helpful. You are not to blame.
I've been in a similar situation some 3 years back now, and it's taken me about 2,5 to figure out that no, it wasn't my fault and yes, that was rape.

No, I would never do that-with a stranger. I might do that with someone I already knew but casual sex with a perfect stranger or someone I don't know well is way too risky.

no, never, and will never. such a slutty thing. i aint that cheap