Disgusting. He stomps all over you repeatedly, you openly admit that he's a liar and a coward yet you are willing to lie down for him all over again. You need to grow a backbone and stop being so damn pathetic. He doesnt respect you, how can he? You have no respect for yourself! Not Forgive. No way.

LOVE IS BLIND.
HOPEFULLY HE DOESN'T COME BACK THAT WAY YOU CAN MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE FOR GOOD.
YOU CAN'T GO BACK IN FORTH WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT. ITS NOT HEALTHY.

YOU WILL BECOME A MENTAL HEADCASE.

grow a backbone and call him out on his sh*t and move on.

Don't we always want what we can't have? Ha!! Get over him and move on.

What a boring "True Confession"! I was expecting something juicy, not some pathetic girl who can't make up her mind. Sheesh.

Oh geez girls... ease up on her a bit! Breaking up with someone is really hard. I do agree that she needs to leave him. He obviously can't make up his mind and it's not fair of him to keep putting her through all that heartache. You deserve better!!

I agree w Silliness79. Who hasn't been there w/ some guy who couldn't tell you straight up how he felt? And just b/c you realize he's an ass doesn't mean your feelings fly right out the door (too bad we're not men - they seem to have no problem w this). However, I think realizing that someone that loves you would never mess with your heart like this might help. It is definitely time to move on.

I voted forgive. Just because she knows that he is an idiot doesn't mean that she will automatically stop loving him. It is up to her to not accept his behavior, but love isn't like a light switch that can just be turned off.

undecided because there's nothing to forgive here really. Your hearts just broken and we all do stupid things when we're hurting. Call a really close girlfriend, get out and do things, and work on getting past this guy. Also I would delete his name from your phone so if he calls you don't see his name pop up, just the number. Someone else posted about that and I thought it was great advice.

Well Jennifer Anniston, just kidding...

It's tricky. It all comes down to why he broke it off and how.
It sounds like a personality disorder though... I'd let him go.

Being in this situation may cause some question's especially if you've been dating for a while! I wouldn't think about going back out with some one that really didn't know what they wanted in life! If there undecided now on how do you think they will feel when thing's get heavy and they can't handle it! What ever action's come your way think about what the out come may be later on!!

What a rollercoaster.

he's immature!

I say forgive, but if you were talking to me about this as a friend I would encourage you to move on, and if you refused to tell you not to talk to me about it anymore as you know what to do but aren't doing it and that is frustrating to all those around you.

I am going to be harsh because while I know we have been in the position where we still care for someone even if they suck that does NOT excuse letting someone treat us like a doormat. Even if you love him -you say you would take him back after he dogged you like that?? No way- I don't forgive you- you deserve better and you know it.

Well, the REAL confession on the site doesn't end like that. It ends "You're either a liar or a coward. Either way, you've completely f****d me."

Lets Examine this...

You dumped me (he met a hotter chick), then two weeks later you turn up on my doorstep and tell me you love me (the hot chick dumped him), that I'm the best thing that ever happened to you (he really needs to get laid), and that you've never felt like this before (he's terrified of being alone). A week later you call to tell me it's over and you made a mistake (the hot chick wants him back). You're either a liar or a coward (both), but whatever it is, I still love you (infatuation) and would get back together in a heartbeat (She's a doormat with tits. No wonder he dumped her for a hotter chick.)

I might have forgiven after the first time but the second time? No chance. Not Forgive.

You MUST know either subconsciously or admittedly that the better choice is to leave him behind and don't look back, it's just the actually doing it part that's hard... When you're ready, (and you may never REALLY be ready, but you've got to do it sometime - soon) tell him to leave you alone (don't call, don't text, don't write), have a good cry, go out with your friends, spend time with the fam, just do things that'll cheer you up and DON'T fall back into his trap (which is SO easy to do). You've got to realize that you're your first priority in this case and you've got to treat yourself better than he ever could. So forget about him, move on, all of which takes time, but you've got to give it time (and lots of it) in order to succeed!!! Trust me! you'll feel SOOOOO much better in the end.

are forgiving/not forgiving the boy or the girl?

leaving someone is like treating acne... it gets worse before it gets better!!! but you've got to DO something to make it get better!!

oh... i don't get those whole forgive/not forgive thing... what's to forgive? she's doing this to herself!

Not Forgiving the chick.

I don't really think that this is an issue of forgive/not forgive. If you want to continue to allow a man to step all over you, then go for it. But hopefully you will reach a point in your life where you have more respect for yourself than to allow some guy to manipulate you. You don't really love him because you don't really love yourself enough to have the pride and dignity to not allow him to use you anymore. If you take him back again, he will do this to you again. Trust me, I have been through this before. It's not worth it.

I'm agree with Fallen85 with her examination because my friend through the same thing! And my friend is the guy who "made a mistake". So my friend is immature and a liar and a coward right now. Haha. But, my friend did that whole thing Fallen said. He broke up with his girl, hooked up with another chick (which was his best friend), ended things with her, crawled back to his ex saying "I love you. I never felt this way about anyone before. I made a mistake". He told me he did this because he has commitment issues. So maybe your ex has commitment issues? I don't know, but do you really want to get back together with him when he can just hurt you all over again? I think you should move on. Yes, it'll be hard but you'll feel better in the end and find a better man. Love is blinding you right now.

**my friend went through the same thing

Forgive. You know he is wrong, but I know you still probably wish for the better 'old' times. Be real though, you deserve better than that!

not forgive, because you deserve WAY better! you'd be amazed how many guys will treat you like a real princess, once you start treating yourself like one! learn to love yourself!

Who are we supposed to be forgiving here?

Yeah my question too, Jude C. Forgive the guy for being an a$$ or the girl for being a fool in love?

Anyways: guy - not forgive
girl - forgive, but only because the pain is still so raw. if you still feel the same a year from now, i would be worried

Honey, you are INVITING trouble by making yourself so vulnerable to someone who treats you like THIS.

Tell him to bugger off. You're not a yoyo!
Your emotional strings aren't to be played with. He doesn't know what he wants, except maybe that he wants the best of both worlds ie: being single yet having you to fall back on

Fallen85's comments are spot on! That's what I was also thinking. Its quite obvious to women who have been burnt before and can now sniff out an a**hole from across the room.

He sounds like a game player and you don't need that. Realize that you deserve a lot better and move on. He'll keep using and abusing you if you let him.

Remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

i don't think that what he's doing is forgivable and i think that i would just 'x' him off my list of people to talk to. when people yo-yo like that in such a short period of time, it means that they are being coward-like in my eyes. if he didn't want to break up with you then why go through the trouble, and if he did, then why come back and say that he still wanted to be with you. i would write him off of my list and just move on

Forgiveness can be cleansing, but is ultimately a sign of weakness and insecurity. Move on, and if you look back on anything at all, look back at what you leanred not to expect in a relationship.

I was undecided about this one. We all know what a man can do to a woman. But you really need to move on, he's a jerk and he's playing with your head. You definitely deserve better. I mean c'mon, do you really want a guy like that??

forgive u for what? loving him or letting him use u like a piece of handkerchief? i voted undecided. because i dont know what ure confessing here. but ive gotta say, u are pretty cheap. he keeps using u over and over and treats u like trash. its up to you to be his toy. its up to u to be a cheap little loser. strap on some boobs and move on. let him go. hes a loser. you dont have to be one, do the better thing and stop being so cheap. have some self respect