I'm sure many of you can relate to being persuaded into having sex because your guy claimed he'd have painful blue balls if you didn't. 
So is this just a lame way to try to seduce you, or are blue balls an actual issue?
Let's first talk about what they are exactly. It's a slang term for aching testicles, which occur when a guy gets aroused but doesn't have an orgasm. When he becomes sexually excited, blood rushes to his genital area and the arteries carrying blood enlarge, but the veins are more constricted. This uneven blood flow traps blood in his penis which causes him to have an erection. His testicles enlarge about 25 to 50 percent, but once a man ejaculates, his arteries and veins return to their normal size rather quickly. If he doesn't ejaculate, however, there will be a lingering, heavy or aching sensation in his testicles, known as blue balls — the name comes from the bluish tint that appears when blood engorges the vessels in his testicles.
So are blue balls harmful? To find out, read more.
Experts say the discomfort is minor and it doesn't last long, but this feeling is likely exaggerated because it's coupled with the disappointment of not being able to orgasm. You should know that in no way do blue balls cause any physical complication or harm to his business, and you shouldn't feel like it's your job to cure him. It's become a socially accepted idea that when a guy has sex, he has to orgasm, but try not to feel pressured into going all the way or pleasing him so he's sexually satisfied if you're not ready to take that next step.
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I will attest to this-
It is the most uncomfortable feeling, almost like you want to jump out your skin. I have only had them 2 times and had to "deal with the situation" to make it stop.
And no, I don't get embarrassed talking about this stuff. lol
1i've heard this line many times.
2funny.
I have to say this one has never come up. My husband never seems to have this problem, but then again we rarely stop short!
3Puh-leeze!! Women get this too! It's a result of the vasocongestion in the area! It's not nice for anybody.
4I have had guys use this line on me before and I just say pffffffffffft whatever.
5Strangely enough, this line has never been used on me. I think they sense that I'm not the type to care about their physical discomfort.
6I've heard this line many a time when I was younger. I would tell them that I wasn't going to stop them from having an orgasm and they could feel free to use the bathroom to rub one out if they wanted.
7WAAA WAAA....I don't like not getting off either, deal with it!
8My husband has never complained about it, even when we have to stop in the middle cuz he has to go to work.
9Why not just finish him off? I don't get why you'd just stop in the middle and make him uncomfortable?
10I've never heard of death from blue balls. LOL Anywho, girls do get this as well. If you don't like it, take care of it! Don't depend on someone else to relieve the pressure. LMAO
11As long as it doesn't precede...'and that's why I cheated'...he gets to keep his balls.
12
wait...hold up...what girls get 'blue balls'? fill me in...
13I've heard this one many times. I roll my eyes.
14See princess_eab's comment!
15See princess_eab's comment!
16Dearsugar, i commend you for saying 'blue balls' alone.
17hahaha i've heard this one before. my boyfriend jokes around sometimes like if something happens (work, people in the house etc...) and he'll make this sad face but he drops it immediately and never brings it up again. its actually really funny and the face he makes is so adorable.
18Excellent article. LOL
19hahah my ex boyfriend would throw a pitty party for days telling me i couldnt touch him and he couldnt masturbate because it hurt SOOOO bad. gimme a break... so do my cramps... suck it up
20bbfk... in many a circumstances... you just cant... it could be something as simple as someone just stopping by your house unexpectedly. either way... if you're gonna use the tools you have like a man they should suck it up and be a man. no woman wants a cry baby
21Women experience the same thing...it's just not called blue balls.
22bbkf, a lot of younger guys use this term regarding "heavy petting" (I feel like such a grandmother for just using that word, but i can't think of anything better) -- as in, guy and girl making out, girl doesn't want to go farther but guy says they have to so he doesn't get blue balls.
i think this is a cultural phenomenon - my husband is a doctor in france and had never heard of anything related to blue balls. once i explained it to him, he said there's no medical basis to it at all because the blood will leave the testicles almost as soon as stimulation stops.
23I can't believe that people use that line.
Boy would get a 'looks can kill' look if he tried that. But he wouldn't, because as he says "If you want to, and I want to, then it's good. Otherwise we wait till later."
Seriously, if it's that uncomfortable, the man can take care of it himself. That's what masturbation is for.
24My boyfriend gives me the blue balls line from time to time and in my mind I'm thinking "too bad". Although I don't want him to experience any discomfort, I'm not going to feel obligated to have sex if I don't want to at the time.
25I have seriously never heard of a woman having blue balls-like pain. I mean, I have felt frustrated before but never pain.
Anyway, any guy who says that he needs to have sex to relieve it can just jerk off instead.
26LOL on all the comments! They are great! I asked my boyfriend about this "phenomenon" (sp?) just the other day and he said he has never experienced such a thing and is not sure that it really even really exists.
I gotta agree with FashionLuvr though, if it does exist then why cant they just go relieve themselves?
27I'm curious how many times DearSugar giggled as she wrote this column??? Blue balls!
28i feel like younger guys use this a bit more often than older ones - cause they think that there's a chance that if they make the girl feel bad, then that's the way that they are going to go about it. i think though that in my personal opinion, that if i were going out with a guy and he tried that - i would just tell him to deal with it and go masterbate since we know that it's something that he's likely to do anyway.
29Wow, people actually use that line?!?!? Yeah, I would tell him to suck it up or go take care of himself if it's so horrible.
30Yes, blue balls are for real. My fiance and I were sexually abstinent for the first six months of our relationship and I never knew just how easily aroused he'd become from just casual displays of affection between us--light kissing, holding hands, resting my hand on his thigh or belly while watching a movie--even a mere whiff of my perfume or the conditioner in my hair he later confessed was enough to get him all astir, beside himself, hot and bothered.
31i'm a girl and i can say that when i want to have sex really bad and i don't i will feel sore and frustrated. any other girls feel that?
32All I can say is Have Merccccccy!!!
33frigid b*tches
34I don't understand why all the girls here would not just finish him off. If I don't feel like having sex, there are plenty of ways we girls can give him a "hand" or other items. Besides, he his just nicer to be around if he is satisfied. He makes plenty of compromises for me why would I not take care of this need of his, a relationship is caring for one anothers needs and this is just a need men tend to have more than women. I want him to listen to me when I tell him about my day or what the kids did that day even when he is to tired from work to really want to listen and empathize but he does, so what is the difference?
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