Earlier this week the BBC [1] noted the results of a recent study suggesting that premature ejaculation, long thought to be a psychological disorder, may actually be genetic. According to the article [2], the men in the study who suffered from premature ejaculation had a variation of the gene that regulates serotonin [3] levels — the hormone that controls, among other things, mood, appetite, and the speed at which ejaculation occurs.
And while this information will eventually help researchers create an effective treatment, for now there is no medication, leaving many couples searching for solutions to something that is often a serious detriment to a satisfying sex life. The good news is that there are some techniques to help men learn to slow their ejaculation [4]. To see them just .
- The "stop and start" method — Use sexual stimulation to bring a man just until he's about to ejaculate. Then stop stimulation for 30 seconds, after which you should resume. Repeat this on-and-off stimulation until the man is ready to ejaculate.
- The "squeeze" method — Like the previous technique, use sexual stimulation until just prior to ejaculation. At that point, instead of simply stopping all touch, the end of his penis should be gently squeezed. After 30 seconds, release and continue stimulation. Repeat as desired.
- Certain antidepressants can also be used to help because of their connection with serotonin.
- For a topical treatment, try desensitizing creams. Likewise, a condom can also act in the same way.
Dear's Advice: While many men are embarrassed by this affliction, it's quite common. If you're dealing with this in your own relationship, ask your significant other to talk to his doctor about his options. No matter what, avoid resentment; instead, work together to make sure feelings of inadequacy stay out of the bedroom.
Source [5]