Dear Sugar,
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. For the past two months I have had dreams of catching him cheating on me and it's driving me to snoop on him. I look in his email, his Facebook account, and phone whenever I get a chance. But there's no reason for me to do this; I know he would never cheat on me. Honestly it is the most amazing relationship I could ever ask for. So what's wrong with me? Why do I keep dreaming these horrible things? Am I losing my mind? — Mistrustful Megan
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Dear Mistrustful Megan,
The expression of insecurities through dreams is no new thing, but avoid taking your dreams at face value. I'd guess that this dream is an indication of things you might have on your mind regarding the future of your relationship or your own personal stresses. The image of catching your boyfriend cheating is only a manifestation of these other concerns. It's normal for a vivid dream to leave you feeling uneasy, but there's no excuse for continually checking up on your boyfriend, especially without reason. He has a right to his privacy, and you're violating it. Plus, the more you play into this paranoia, the more likely it is to keep showing up in your dreams.
Start writing in a journal and see if you can't let some of your insecurities escape more consciously. You can write down your dreams too and see if you notice a pattern. I'm sure they will subside on their own soon, but in the meantime, try to examine your relationship and see if there's something that may have you feeling worried. But whatever you do, try not to let your dreams affect your waking life so deeply.









I'd mention the dreams in a joking manner and watch how he reacts..
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