Get him to get himself off before he sees you and then by the time he sees you he's raring to go and will hopefully last longer the second time around.

Try to get MORE foreplay than him. I like my BF to drive me to the very brink a dozen times before we get to serious things, so when we do, I am the one who usually doesnt last more than a minute!!

Our problems are simliar only usually it is me that doesn't last long. He can get me so ready to go i think i will explode, but 5 minutes into it I will dry up. It's very frustrating. Lately I have been doing better though. And honestly...I don't like marathon sex. I can't come vaginally anyeay (although he makes me feel as though I could) so at that point I am more concerned that he is getting what he needs.

make use of that hour....chill...massage...breakfast..lunch..or dinner in bed...read a sexy novel together...then later act it out....you may not be able to make it last longer or the recovery time shorter, its just how he is wired....don't make to many suggestion to him on how to make it last to him...don't want to make him feel inadequete (sp?)....just make use of the time you do have and use it fully! good luck and have fun!!!!

I've been in this situation but when we do get close it doesn't take long at all for my man to come back wanting more! Being away from each other for a while does cause enough tension but when you meet it shouldn't be that hard to jump skins more than once! Just take your time at the beginning then work your way to that point! As long as your spending time apart there's going to be a slow start at the beginning but you should always come out wanting more!

I agree with Fallen 85.

cravin - me too. I hate those fake-outs!

all i can say is... that sucks. my man can hold his load for me and 10 minutes after we're done i always hear "more". I couldnt believe it the first time we slept together: 3 times with 5 minute breaks in between AND he was drunk as a skunk. haha i have a keeper.

LOL all class all the way, right LikeThoseShoes? hehe tho truly I can relate to you

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Is he any good at performing oral sex on you? Extend the foreplay, but make it about him pleasing you! He can touch you or go down on you until you come, then after you can have sex. Don't spend very much time touching him if he gets too turned on. You could even bring a little silver bullet vibe in (small so he won't feel replaced) to the bedroom and put in on your clit while you are having sex. Change positions often and use condoms, that will reduce his sensitivity. Have sex in a position where you can control the depth of penetration and how excited he gets, like with you on top or side by side, because he can only move slowly in that position. If he starts to get too excited, take breaks from intercourse and rub your clit while you are waiting. Finally, tell him that you want sex to last longer and/or that you need more foreplay performed on you! You really need to communicate your needs to him. This is not only about his pleasure! You can also buy numbing condoms at the drugstore and numbing cream at sex shops-he will still feel good, it will just reduce his sensitivity slightly. (Just don't use this unless he puts it inside the condom-the last thing you want is for your vagina to feel numb)!
If it is still too quick, but a rabbit vibrater (and lube) and use it afterwards. He should get the picture pretty quick. Good luck, have fun and I hope things get better and longer lasting!

hahah may not be too classy but so far we're going strong for little over a year! hah

I have a question, how old is your bf? Are you his first sexual partner? Because men need to LEARN how not to come right away, and how to prolong themseleves. If he never had to do it with you, and etc he may not know how to? A lot of times they start off with masterbating which is coming as fast as you can point A to B..

He should know when he is about to come, and needs to stop being selfish about his pleasure. Sorry but I never buy the "I can't last" excuse.

What he needs to do is give your more foreplay. He also needs to stop, pull out, and change positions..whatever he needs to do to stop from coming if he feels he is close. He could stop and stimulate you manually for a while...and etc.

Good luck.

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omg janine22...thank you. i am determined for this to not happen anymore with my bf! you've set me on the right path.

You're welcome girl! I am so happy that I may have helped others. Have fun