Dear Sugar,

My two best friends (guy and a girl) like each other, but I have really strong feelings against them being together. First off, my girl friend is a man eater. She dates a guy for a week and then when things get semi serious, she dumps him. If she does that to my guy friend, he will be crushed and I don't want to see him hurt. Secondly, I have a feeling that if they do start dating, I will be the third wheel and it could become awkward for me to hang out with them together, especially since she makes a habit of ditching me for her boyfriends.

I told him how I feel but he freaked out on me and told me stay out of it. I don't know how to tell her not to hurt him or how to stop anything tragic from happening. Am I overreacting? I'm just worried about what the outcome could be. — Third Wheel Wendy

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Dear Third Wheel Wendy,

It sounds to me like your hesitation is purely based on your needs. Sure, it's normal to fear being left out, but what if they have something really special here? These two people are your closest friends, so don't you want them to be happy, even if it means you're in an awkward position for a while? Regardless of your answer to those questions, I think it'd be best if you didn't get involved. Since they are close as friends, I'm sure he's well aware of her dating pattern, so if he's willing to take a chance and put his friendship and heart on the line, I don't think you should stand in their way.

Nothing has happened yet, so try to just sit back and let things fall into place as they will. If they do end up dating, the dynamic between you three will change, but that's not to say it will change for the worse. You never know what the outcome will be, so try to be patient with them, let them enjoy their blossoming relationship (if that is in fact the case), but voice your concerns if you're feeling neglected. Hopefully they'll be understanding of your position and you can all work toward developing a new kind of friendship. Good luck.

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