My fiance and I are getting married in October and he will be moving in with me in a week. He has a new friend who he hangs out with all of the time lately. I am not crazy about this new guy. He is nice and in a relationship with someone but he is kind of a loser and not the most motivated person. My fiance is excited he has someone new to hang out with because many of his old friends have moved. Should I keep it to myself or should I express my feelings about the new friend? If I do keep it to myself how should I act around the two of them and what should I do when he wants to do something as couples?
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I loathe two of my boyfriends friends..
I am very open about how I feel about them and why... I don't say he cannot hang out with them, nor do I limit his interaction.. They're still invited over, i just make myself scarce..
and I generally let my bf know that so that when I do dissapear he understands why..
You cannot choose your bf's friends, but if you don't like them.. Just avoid them
1It sounds like your BF is a little lonely. Maybe you can both search for other "couples" friends that you both like.
2Thanks Guys, I like the advice about being sparse when he is with the friend. I absolutely do not want to tell him who to spend time with or criticize his choice in friends because this guy is actually very nice but he is just not my choice of someone to spend time with.
3Hey girlie,
I understand what you are going through. It is hard to get along with every friend your guy has.
My advise to you is if you don't like this friend, encourge them to go out and do guys night out. Go see a game, go to shoot hoops, whatever. That way you are not getting in the way between your guy and his only friend, you appear to be the supportive girlfriend, and you get an excuse to not be around them.
As for the double dating/group dating, try to make sure some of your good girlfriend come along to keep you 'busy' and keep your mind of your guys friend.
But the bottom line is you might have to smile and bear through it. If it makes your guy happy to have this friend, then you should be happy to. Just find an excuse to run to the store if he starts to get on your last nerve. Shopping cures everything!
Good Luck!
4I really like pinupsweetheart's idea to encourage them to get out and have some guys night out fun. Then you don't have to hang out with them, thinking the whole time that this guy is not someone you want to spend time with. I wouldn't judge this guy too harshly either, you say he's nice and has a steady girlfriend. So what if he's a bit of a slacker? It's not really any of your business how motivated he is, and who knows, maybe some of your fiance's positive qualities will be a good influence on him.
5My boyfriend has a couple friends that I can't stand! I tell him I dont like him hanging out with them because they are bad news. They are nice and I show my faceonce in a while since we live together, but I'd rather him not party with them or anything like that. If you feel strongly about it just tell him and that doesn't mean they cant be friends. It's hard when you are in a relationship and you need freinds other than each other.
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