Hello of course it would bother you!DId he do it when you are with him?If thats the case then thats cheating!I think its also wrong to have a threesome it is so not right!I hope he did not do it when he is with you because if thats the case than you need to rid of him for good!

It would bother me too! Regardless of whether he did it while we were together or not...I just think it's gross.

Hi Girlie,
I understand where you are coming from. You would like to think of your boyfriend is a good-all-american-wholesome-virgin before you met him. But sometimes you find out somethings you wish you could erase from your mind.

I agree with you on how gross a three-some can be. I know there are plenty of people out there that enjoy it, but I am not one of them. I can understand that your view on your boyfriend has changed. I wish I could do something to make it go away for you, but that is where the saying "ignorance is bliss."

Try to give it some time, it is still fresh in your mind. If it still bothers you, you need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Explain how your background is and your point of view. I am sure he will tell you, "I was a one time thing, something you do once in life, blah blah blah."

I am sure, if he truely loves you and cares about your feelings, he will assure you that he loves you and wants to be with you.

But I can only offer you the advise of time. Just give it time sweetie. Try to remember the reasons why you love and care about him. If he is funny, if he is smart, if he sends flowers to you just because. Try not to hate him for one single act, that I am sure, he regrets.

Good luck sweetie!

I don't see anything wrong with a threesome. As far as random sex acts go, this one seems harmless. Just let it go. It's really not a big deal.

Talk to him about it. If you are still bothered by the fact that he is a 'threesome guy" and you don't want to look past it, then leave him. Honestly, I think the past is the past and you should just forget about it. Focus on your relationship right now.

Just about every man I know has some sort of fantasy about a hot threesome at one time or another. It's almost as common as our "hot sex with a movie star" fantasy that we have. I really don't think it's a big deal at this point. The point is, he's with YOU now, and as long as you're the only one in bed with him, no big deal.

The older you get and the more different kinds of sex you have the less relevant this will become. There are more important issues in life than your jealousy and sense of inadequacy. Go down on a chick or somethin'. Live a little.

get over it. if it happened before you two were together, there's nothing you can do except accept the fact that he had a sex life before. if you don't like what you hear, maybe you could stop asking? as long as he's faithful to you and makes you feel good then that's really all that matters. jealousy is normal and it will pass.

Yea no one would like to hear that about their boyfriend but its something in the past that if you want to be with him that you need to get over. If you all were honest and he told you then you should be glad he was honest and just get over that fact. If he asks you to be involved in one that is a diff story but for now move on....

When I met my current bf I thought he was a really nice guy (He still is... lol) One night he were having that same talk "previous relationships" and OMG... I was in shock! He came really honest to me and told me that he probably slept with more than 50 girls which most of them he doesn't even remember their names or faces, that he had had threesomes more than once, well you get me... I was scared, because at the moment I thought "This is not the kind of man I want in my life". It took me a while, and it bother me like is bothering you, so I talked to him. He told me that that was his past, that he regrets things he did, but most important that right now he wanted a girl that was different and that would show him what real love is and that he doesn't deserve at all (Which is another story) but he is glad that he found a nice girl like me. Past is past... and probably what we wants is a nice girl like you.

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Yeah, easy to say it's in the past but you have to ask yourself why did he bring it up beyong just being transparent if that's all it was? My guess is that he's trying to put an idea in your head--i.e. he'd like to get it on with you and another gal. I'd watch and listen to him to see if he brings it up again in a lewd suggestive way. If it grosses you out than he needs to respect that. Yes, as commented here it is probably most guys' number one fantasy but if you think it's gross then ask yourself if you want o be with someone who likes that sort of thing? Did he seem to like the diea that was in his past or was he embarrassed by it? that will tell you if yoou are compatible or not.

BTw, personally I would even be open to a 3-some in the right circumstances but that's me! LOL! But, it's NOT you so I would be cautious with this guy and find out what his feelings are on it now. You don't want to end up with someone who might gross you out later. Especially find out what sex means to him--you don't want to be used.

I can totally relate... My boyfriend confessed to the same thing when we had dated for a while, I still feel uncomfortable about it as I would never do it, but i trust and love him so I decided to put his ummm kinky experience behind and just focus on our relationship. If you really love him don't judge him for his past actions.

As long as this is something he wouldn't try to pressure you into, then I think you should try to let it go. It was in his past and before he started to date you. Maybe this is a bit of a lesson for you two that you have shared a little too much information with each other?!! I would never want to hear details of my boyfriends sexual relationships before we got together! I say as long as you were both screened for STDs before you got together, and as long as neither one of you pressures the other to do anything you don't want to do, then his past shouldn't really be a problem.

girl... my boyfriend (really fiance) had a 4-some with 3 of the nar-stiest girls that went to our college. then we played never did i ever with my co-workers and the 3-some question came up and he's the only one who had to drink, thens adds "really it was 4" *sigh* but it was before me and we've been tested and it's in the past. if you love him, let it go.