Dear Sugar--
Hi - So I met this guy at a place I always go to for lunch. We exchanged numbers and not one Saturday, but TWO Saturdays in a row - I drank way too much and acted like a fool in front of him. I feel that there is no way to go back on this action.
I'm a slight "wild child" but I'm a good girl and have just been having a hard time lately. Now I don't want advice on my drinking - I KNOW I need to lay off - but I do need advice on what to do. I have called him a few times asking him out, to dinner, a hockey game, but he keeps turning me down.
If there is nothing I can do - how can I at least hold my head up with dignity when I go to get lunch? I refuse to find a new place!. PLEASE HELP!
--Love-My-Lunch-Place Linda
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Dear Love-My-Lunch-Place Linda--
I think we can all relate to drinking a little too much in front of a guy we like so don't be too hard on yourself. If you are really concerned about what he is thinking about you, try calling him just to talk (not to invite him out on a date). Let him know how embarrassed you are and you hope he isn't judging you on your past experience.
If getting a little tipsy is a rare occurrence, you should tell him that. Be honest and explain that you'd love to have a second chance to hang out - without the alcohol of course! On the other hand, if drinking every time you go out is what's on your agenda, it may not be what he's into so try to get a good read on him.
If he refuses to talk to you, that is his decision and unfortunately there is nothing more you can do. If you love your lunch place, don't let this incident stop you from going there. Walk with your head held high and if you see him again, just smile and act friendly. Taking the high road will show him that you are mature enough to put the situation behind you and hopefully he can do the same. Good luck Linda!
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Unfortunately she didn't get a little tipsy, she "drank way too much and made a fool out of herself". Not once, but twice, there's a huge difference.
There may be no way back, you may have to chalk it up to lesson learned.
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1"All my life, I wanted to be someone, I guess I should have been more specific." Jane Wagner
Once a drunken fool OK twice not good in front of someone you are interested in. No more phone calls and leave him alone. When you go in to your lunch place let him see you sober and maybe, I highly doubt it, he will ask you out. But I wouldn't hold your breath.
2I agree with cubadog that you really should leave this guy alone. He obvioulsy didn't like what he witnessed. Don't let it stop you from eating there, but like Dear said, just smile and go on about your meal. Maybe if he sees you normally don't get so sauced he'll approach you some time, but if not, there are lots of other guys out there for you to meet.
3You can't change the past only what you do from now on. Don't ask him out anymore if he wants to see you again he'll call you, that's probably chasing him away even more. Just keep some distance if you see him be nice to him and keep your drinking under control.
4I would stop calling and just be friendly and detached when I saw him. Think about it from his perspective... he's got a lush who keeps calling him and asking him out despite his repeatedly saying no. I'm not saying that's what you are, but that's basically all he knows about you.
5He keeps on turning me down is the kicker. Whether it was the drinking or not, the fact remains that he continues to turn you donw. Give him some space, the ball is in his court. If he does not call he is not interested. Good luck!
6I agree, stop calling & leave it alone. If you see him next time you get lunch... just act normally and control the drinking.
7I agree with everyone who says not to call him anymore, and keep the drinking in check from hereonin. You never know who else is watching you that might be someone who'd be interested in you otherwise.
8The only thing you can do is hold your head up high, act nice but not overly friendly or interested when you see him.Don't get drunk and act a fool again and see what happens.
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