I chose not to forgive. Not so much about the cars, but about driving drunk. Do you not understand how many deaths occur each year due to drunk driving?? You could have killed yourself or others. Always make sure you have someone with you that can drive you around if you get drunk.

I think you need to owe up to what you did. Go back to the scene, and knock on the door. Don't just leave a note on the car. Let whoever it is know that you are extremely sorry and give them all of your information. Your insurance will most likely go up, but it's a hard lesson learned for driving while intoxicated.

Honestly if you just hit a car and drove away i would forgive you, but really drunk driving could kill someone...

TINA!

The only reason I say not forgive is the drunk driving Are you that dense? Of course you are going to think you are ok to drive you were drunk!!! Everything is ok to do when you are drunk idiot. I feel for the person whose car was hit. That is the worst feeling ever to find your car mysteriously damaged. And who knows what their finical situation is if they can even get their car fixed.

I hope you think twice before drinking and driving again before you do something worst then just hit a car

Can the people who chose Forgive please explain why because any drunk driving is inexcusable

Driving drunk by itself is unexcusable, but leaving the scene without even a note is worse. Don't count with the fact that no one saw you since when you are drunk you feel invincible. Good luck with that. And how does anyone actually think that it is Ok to drive drunk and damage some else's property without taking responsibility? wait until you are the one with a busted car.

I said forgive just because I understand the "hit and run" thing.. I don't drive but once my boyfriend parked his car too close to another one and when I opened the door it scraped the other door's paint, a bit. And no, I didn't tell anyone. Guilty.
The drunk driving tho is something I would never do- I was hit but a vehicle and suffered (still do) some pretty severe physical trauma. I'm lucky to still be alive and I wouldn't wish this on anyone but I think being the one responsible for the harm or even worse, death, of an innocent person is much worse. So please, next time you drink leave your car and get a cab. You don't want another close call.

I chose not forgive. First off you drove drunk!! If you have even had like only 2 drinks, you should not be driving home! Even small amounts of alcohol impair judgement, and it clearly did with you because you chose to drink and drive. And secondly, you are a coward to not fess up to what you did to the parked car! And like JessNess said, you don't know what that persons financial situation is, they may not be able to afford the repairs! I believe however, that the situation is still rectifiable. Go back and leave a note, I'm sure your guilty conscience will be somewhat alleviated.

NO FREAKING WAY! People like you is the reason the car insurance system is so screwed up. People like you cause people to die. People like you cause people not to be able to get the help they need from there insurance companies when they really freaking need it. How dare you. Go back to the scene leave a note and I really hope you admit you were drunk and you go to jail! Its just not freaking right. And Treva and Jess are right! You dont know there situation. This could be a single mother taking care of her kids and all she can afford is liablilty and you effed her car up. What if its a young kids car who just got there liscense and there parents dont believe that they had a hit and run? You are so unforgiveable whether you were drinking or not.
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Candy Apple- scraping someones paint a little is completely different then sideswiping a car. Even if they were not drunk and they SIDESWIPED the car I would still say dont forgive because that can really mess up a persons entire world.

I still cannot believe how many people are saying forgive! Are they just not reading the whole story or if they are they think drunk driving is ok? If so then we live in a sad sad world

I have a hard time forgiving either problem because people need to be responsible. I was part of a hit & run (I, not me in a vehicle, was hit by a car) and the person drove off on me. I had bruised bones and now scars that will last for the rest of my life. It was dark, you were drunk and you probably couldn't assess the damage as much as you could because you didn't have a clear mind.

As everyone else says, it's the drunk driving that I struggle to say 'forgiveness.' you're an adult and you know right from wrong. if a person had been sitting in that parked car, that person could have been hurt - and yes, maybe you would have stopped if you were 'caught,' but still, as someone mentioned above, so many people die because of reckless driving when it's something that can be prevented. You knew and said you were a strong advocate, and now you've been hypocritical.

It is great that you are remorseful, and yes, you will forgive yourself with time. But you need to start thinking clearly and come up w/ plans so you don't think that your only option is to drive home, even if you feel fine.

Definitely not forgive. You SHOULD feel very guilty. You could have killed someone.

I've had someone hit and run my parked car, and it was a horrible experience. The deductible and the rental costs came out of MY pocket and the accident went on MY insurance which could have upped MY premiums.

I've also been rear ended with a police officer as a witness. He decided not to write a report because he said there wasn't any damage. Turned out there was significant structural damage that wasn't visible unless you looked underneath the car, and the repairs were over $2,000.

You need to go back and find that car and apologize and give them your information.

drunk driving is unforgivable, but she said she didn't do much damage, if any at all, to the car. it's not like she totaled it, people. but she was drunk, so who knows if she even got a good enough look. i think she's learned her lesson. it's not like she's acting completely cocky about it.

Forgive. NOT!

For one, driving drunk. For second, hit and run.

You ever had your car sideswiped? It sucks. You have to pay the insurance deductible (mine was $500) and then your rate goes up. So this person you hit was doing nothing wrong --except being sober and parked-- and has to come out of pocket for damage, higher insurance monthly, and you get away scott free.

Besides, how do you know what the damage was: you were drunk! Go back there and submit your insurance info so at the very least you can get their car fixed.

-the ceeg

I chose not forgive for all the reason that others stated above.

You know...depending on where the car was when you hit it, there may have been a surveillance camera. It would be better if you fessed up about what you did, rather than have them come and find you.

this is a tough call. not because of the drunk part (obviously that is never okay) but because the 2 times my dh has hit another car and i INSISTED he leave our information we got totally screwed on it (MUCH more damaged claimed than he caused). no one was hurt and hopefully this driver got a scare that will put an end to this behavior.

sometimes when you just barely hit a parked car, and you inspect the damage, you're like, "seriously, they wouldn't even be able to tell if a car or a shopping cart hit it!" so i agree with lickety. forgive the hit and run (if she's telling the truth that there was hardly any damage, because if the damage is small enough, a deductible might not even have to be used!), but never forgive drinking and driving.

I feel for the person who's car you sideswiped. I've had that happened to me and it was horrible (dealing with insurance was very stressful). It's not fair for that person to have to deal with all of that because you lack the courage of admitting your own faults. You're an adult and I think it's best that you be honest and fess up to it. Deal with the repercussions... it's the LEAST you can do. I won't even comment on the drunk driving.

It sounds like you learned your lesson. It's good the only damage done was a scrape to the car.

But yeah, it's bad to drive drunk (duh) and re: the other issue, how would you feel walking to your car and seeing someone else had hit it? So you know you messed up there also.

I think you will probably feel guilty for a little while, and I think that's a good thing. Feelings of guilt tend to deter behavior and in your case that's not a bad thing!

But you know, just don't do it again and you can forgive yourself in time...

Not forgive. YOU made a mistake and now the other person is paying for it. How have you learned your lesson? You haven't paid for anything. You didn't fess up, and you didn't admit what you did.

Sorry, unforgivable. It's just lucky that you only hit a parked car and didn't kill someone. I had my car sideswiped during the night once and there was a lot of damage. My insurance company covered it but they also raised my rates when my policy came up for renewal. All because of someone with no conscious or courtesy.

Today on my way out I noticed a car that was parked on the street and was hit on the rear end. Part of the back end of the car was on the street. It reminded me of this post. As I was looking at the car I was thinking how easy it would be for someone to think that there was not that much damage because it is dark out

Personally I don't care if there was no damage it still is unforgivable. If you were responsible enough to stop and see if there was any damage to the other car you should have been responsible enough to leave your info

I agree with the others- the hit and run is definitely forgivable. I've never done it, but I could understand panicking and being too scared to fess up.
Drunk driving is not forgivable.

I hope you learned your lesson from all this.

I forgive sort of because you feel so bad and obviously know what you have done... even though you shouldnt have done it in the first place.
Daisy-Chainsaw

Not forgive! This post makes me very sad for two reasons. Firstly, my parents recently had to pay to fix my moms car when someone hit it while it was parked beside their house. You don't know the financial cirumstances of the person who now has to pay for damage you carelessly caused their vehicle. Secondly, I have a couple of people close to me who have been injured by drunk drivers. You really could have killled someone, or given them a life-long injury. I stil can't believe that this day and age people still drive themselves to an evening out where they know they will be drinking. I am begging you to arrange a cab or designated driver the next time you go out!! I seriously hope this incident has scared some sense into you. Also, what is up with your friends that they would be okay with you driving your car after drinking?

I said unforgivable because of BOTH of the facts. If you scraped or bumped someone that is one thing but to cause damage well just imagine if that happened to you. Its rude, irresponsible and hurtful. Driving drunk is not okay but i am not going to lie and pretend like i am perfect and have never made that bad decision. You know something is really bad when you dont tell anyone b/c you feel embarrassed. I would own up to it, that is the only way to really clear your conscious.

I said forgive you made a mistake, and what you did was wrong and irresponsible and showed lack of good judgement, but I think you've learned your lesson you know what you did was now you feel bad about it. Thankfully the only consequence is that you hit a parked car and nothing tragic. Just remember this next time you're in a situation like this.

I said not forgive but do worry I won't lecture you about drinking and driving because we all know your not supposed to. I don't care who you are we have all done it. Everyone needs to remember that for most women legally drunk is 2 normal size drinks. You really should have left a note. I am going through the ordeal now and it sucks. I am lucky that I have a family friend that is going to fix it for me so I won't have to go through insurance.

I would say the side swiping hit-and-run would be forgiveable, sometimes things just shake us up and we arent able to think clearly... but I see you clearly weren't thinking clearly already when you were driving DRUNK! Sorry but that is stupid stupid stupid!!!!!!!!!

Not forgive!

inexcusable. are you a woman or a little girl? hit and runs are ALWAY unacceptable. you have cost that person hundreds of dollars in car repair and insurance. you have made that person's life much more difficult because you chose to run away from your mistake without taking any consequences.

driving drunk is ridiculous, i think you know that you could have seriously injured or killed yourself or someone else. hopefully you learned your lesson there.

if you can find the person whose car you hit, send a note and exchange information. be an adult.

Unfortunately, I've been in a similar situation. I thought I was okay to drive, but apparently I was wrong. However, I filed a police report the next day and gave them all my contact and insurance information to pass on to the car I hit, since I knew there was about a 99% chance that they filed a report as well. I was thanked for my honesty, and learned my lesson the hard way.

"Party like a rock star, pound like a porn star, play like an all star!"

Yeah, you should definitely go back there and leave your information.. but take pictures of the damages, even if there aren't any, just in case.

Not forgive. First drink and drive. And then cowardly leaving; just think how pissed off you'd be now if someone had hit your car and run. Childish and unsensitive, not to mention dangerous because of alcohol.

Not forgive. First drink and drive. And then cowardly leaving; just think how pissed off you'd be now if someone had hit your car and run. Childish and unsensitive, not to mention dangerous because of alcohol.

NOT FORGIVE. Hitting the car and running, OK well karma always comes around sweety. What chaps my ass about your confession is the driving while intoxicated. I shudder to think of sharing the road with people like you when I'm out driving with my precious babies in the car. Seriously, yes the car can be replaced. Another person's life cannot. Grow up and own up.

if it was just a careless act, that'd be forgivable. but the fact that you were drunk does not deserve any forgiveness!

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say FORGIVE. Yes, you were drunk driving, that in itself is serious but I saw the point of your confession was that you hit the car and drove off, not the drunk driving. Honestly, who hasn't drove home drunk, even tho we felt fine we know we were over the legal limit. You just feel bad becuase you always preached about it. Not leaving a note with contact information was in poor form, but not only is your conscience eating at you, you have to pay out of pocket for your damages as well. I understand why you woulnd't call the authorities considering you just broke a few laws, but karma got you in the end and IMO it will punish you enough.

I wouldn"t forgive the drunk driving at all, because you could have seriously injured someone else doing that. But I understand the fact that you drove off after hitting that car, probably out of panic. Maybe you could go over to that place and look again to see if there's any damage. If so, maybe you can still leave your information?

You're lucky you're still alive and no one is hurt.

You know what you did wrong, and I'm so glad you're not a kid of mine because I'll be so damn ashamed that I didn't raise you to be a good person. I'll be so upset because you didn't inherit/learn enough ethic in your person.

Karma is for real, you know.

Believe it or not, something not-so-nice will happen either to you or someone close to you, and you then realize or learn the same lesson you should've learned.

Really, I usually don't say this often, in fact, this is my first time ever saying it to another: shame on you for doing what you did.

Hopefully you learned from it and will not do it again!

Unforgivable. I can't understand why people drive drunk. I live on a seriously busy street and last summer my car was totaled one night by a drunk driver (while it was parked in my driveway). Whoever did it kept going. I'm sure they thought they just 'sideswipped' it and 'left no real damage' but now I'm out of a car, my insurance rights are high and the loser got of scott-free.

You're lucky it was just a car and not a person. Driving drunk is dangerous and stupid and unforgivable.

A learning experience that your alive to tell the story..
Call a taxi if you know you can't drive.
You don't want to hurt yourself or anyone else.
You could destroy a life (your life or someone else's)
Do the right thing leave a telephone number under the
windshield wipers or go find
out who's car you hit. Put yourself in the persons shoes who parked their car
and came back to find damage. We all work to hard for our stuff..
Take responsibility for all your action.. All actions!!

do you know why it's unforgivable? because you drove drunk.

No forgivness on this one. I just bought my cute little dream car -- Crossfire -- and some one parked next to me put a big dent in it!!! Not over reacting people. It is big enough for me to put three fingers tips in it. People need to be more responsible these days. Drunk or not (driving drunk is another issue) this is not forgivable!!!!

Wow, that's super dangerous driving drunk, and also, to be honest, if you had even SCRATCHED my car and didn't leave a note I'd hunt you down.

I forgive the sideswiping without a note - I've done that before. I also forgive you for driving drunk ALTHOUGH, I think you know it is really not forgiveable. But then again, we've all been overconfident in soberity a time or two and have either gotton behind the wheel or in the passenger seat of someone who's been drinking. I think you've learned a lesson about driving drunk - please don't let it happen again.

I don't think any member on here would come out and admit this publicly for the first time...SO, this is a made up situation.

You've learned a valuable lesson. Buzzed driving is drunk driving. Thank your lucky stars that it cost you and others so little to learn.

Since nobody got hurt, I wouldn't waste too much time worrying if you can be forgiven. It's very common for people to think it's OK to drive with one or two drinks. Many of us have done it. And many of us have made horrible mistakes driving with no alcohol involved at all, for instance, I almost hit a car with a family inside when I went through a flashing red light a few years ago. I was a new driver and somehow didn't know you stop for a flashing red. Do I think about it? Yes. And I haven't forgiven myself. But the important thing is, I will never do it again. That's more important.

Forgive yourself, just don't forget and don't ever do it again. As for the other car, maybe there's some way you can track it down. You could put an ad in the paper or call the police to find out or local insurance adjustors.

Okay, this is a sticky situation. First of all, for all the people who are so adamantly against forgiveness, I would like to know with surety that NONE of you have EVER, EVER had a couple of drinks and then got behind the wheel of your car. I would say a large percentage of Americans have actually driven when they technically shouldn't have, and most people are really lucky not to have had any repercussions from it, so feel they are allowed to very harshly judge someone who also made a mistake and ended up damaging someone else's property. I got a DUI several years ago because I was completely stupid and chose to drive when I shouldn't have. I felt like my life was ruined at the time, but the incident has changed my life for the better, because it has made me more responsible about my actions. You can see this as a learning experience as well. Yes, driving when you shouldn't have was a terrible thing to do, but don't listen to the people who tell you that it is NOT forgivable. I'm not saying you shouldn't feel terribly guilty, but you don't deserve to be made into a monster by a bunch of hypocrites who have probably been guilty of the same crime in the past. When I got my DUI, everyone I told about it responded saying they knew it probably could have happened to them at one time as well. You just need to take this as a serious lesson that you must prearrange your transportation if you know you are going to be drinking.

As far as the hit and run car goes, it is up to you whether you want to do something about it. Just know that if you don't, you'll be feeling guilty about this for a LONG, LONG time. It would help you to contact the owner of the vehicle in order to assuage your guilt and find out if there truly was any damage. At least try to drive by during the day and see if you can get a look at the damaged car in the light. In my opinion, the owner of the car deserves to be told, but it is your decision.

bleh
i dunno
forgiven