Dear Sugar,

I am a 25-year-old professional. Yesterday, the 27-year-old man I had been dating dumped me in a four-sentence email. Two days prior, I met his sister and brother-in-law for the first time and we shared a wonderful dinner with all of their friends. His reason for ending the relationship? My personality was too similar to his sister's and it made him feel "strange." He said that while she is (and I am) a good person, it wasn't what he was looking for. He refuses to discuss this in person and I am having a tough time as a result. I need a better understanding of why he would choose to break up with me by email, and why for those reasons? It just doesn't make sense to me. — Need More of a Reason Rachel

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Dear Need More of a Reason Rachel,

I'm sorry you're left without answers, but it sounds like your ex just doesn't have the maturity to break up face-to-face. This is very reminiscent of the breakup via Post-It episode of Sex and the City [1], and while it's no doubt frustrating beyond belief not to be able to ask questions and get the answers you need, my advice is to take this as a blessing in disguise and try your best to put this guy behind you. It sounds like you weren't dating very long, so if he's willing to overlook you just because you remind him of his sister, be glad that you found out sooner than later.

He clearly has issues with confrontation [2], but if you have some things you need to get off your chest in order to gain closure, send your thoughts back to him via email. Realize that you might not get a response, but hopefully just writing it all down and knowing that he read it will take the weight off your shoulders. When it comes to the dating game, there will always be times when we're left confused and in the dark as to why people do the things they do, but unfortunately it's just par for the course. Lean on your friends and family for support and chalk up this email breakup as a good story for your girlfriends!

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