get out of that relationship for the love of god! you're not living your life to its fullest potential by being passive! take control!

if fighting with him is taking so much out of you i can only imagine what "turning a blind eye" is doing to you.

it is more physically and emotionally exhausting to think that he is cheating and lying (especially if he's done it in the past) than to confront him and leave that *sshole.

you can do soo much better. don't play the victim and don't let anyone get away with treating you this way. you need to leave him. if he's done it before and your gut is telling you that he's doing it again then you need to trust that instinct and get out of there. don't give him the chance to lie to you and convince you that he isn't if you are sure that he is. there doesn't need to be a fight. just be strong and leave him so you can get out there and heal then find someone that won't treat you this way.

If your husband has cheated in the past, it is his RESPONSIBILITY to you to prove and gain your trust back. If he has failed to do that then you are being a fool if you remain in this marriage and turn a blind eye. You are teaching him it's OK to treat you as such. You don't have to have hard proof, just don't go in there accusatory. Just simply say that you can't do this, you feel that he is cheating again and that's enough for you. You cannot remain in a marriage without trust, so even if there's no hard proof, there isn't enough trust (or commitment on his part to gain it back) to have a foundation to work off of.

Fool me once...fool me twice!

TRUST is such a hard word for some men! If you have that inner feeling about him not being a man then yes, leave and take your PRIDE with you! Hold your head up high and think about the times you'll have peace, quite and none of those inner feelings! It takes a lot out of women when they have to deal with a man playing the field! It's not easy and especially when your married it makes it harder b/c your sitting around looking like a fool! Having the sense and a blind eye can make it more difficult for you in the end but do whats right for you not for your marriage! Seems he's not!

What bothers me about this is you say "again". If you have the suspisions again...please get out. He isn't going to change!
If he is cheating and you ignore it so many bad things could come from it, like STD's!
Do you really want this for your future?

You have to figure it out for sure or not so you can both move on.

I'm also having a hard time with "again". If it were me his sleazy behind would have been sh*t canned out the door the very first time he cheated.There's no lame azz excuses to explain it away and there's definitely no forgiveness here either.

Turning a blind eye to the cheating, has to be obvious to you at some point,as being totally useless.The only certainty is ,is that it surely won't prevent him from doing it to you again.Stop being his personal doormat and pull yourself together.Get rid of him before he ruins your life to the point of no return.

So are you saying that you don't care if he cheats on you? Turning a blind eye basically means you are just going to sweep it under the carpet and forget that it happened. You deserve better than that. A woman's instinct is usually right. Please get rid of this sleezebag.

You have to become a grown woman at some point in life you have to take control over whom is there and HOW to handle a crisis in your life.

Get as far away from that man as you possibly can. Anyone who repeatedly cheats on someone should NOT be forgiven -- it doesn't even sound like he's fessing up or asking you to forgive him, so what's the point?

Again? He still has his pen*s?... oh. well then no.
Poof! Be Gone!

Who's asking for forgiveness?? You? For turnig a blind eye? Or your husband? He doesn't seem to be asking for forgiveness.

As for you turning a blind eye to avoid fighting, that's your choice. You're not alone in your behavior.

Sure, forgive. If that's what you want to do. You're an adult and can choose to ignore it, just don't b*tch about your life because that's what you've chosen for yourself!

It's your choice, but you sound so unhappy. I hope you figure out what's best for you, rather than taking the "easy" way, because it sounds like it might just be much harder in the long run.

You need to get out. Obviously he has not problem walking all over you and you should walk out while you still can.

omg lol @ ur comments u girls are seriously hilarious

trust your instincts girl...its ur life

You both took vows, he broke them...you forgave, and now AGAIN???

Please don't waste your precious time on someone you doesn't value, or respect you.

I believe in giving people a second chance (but not more than a 2nd) but you honestly need to get out of this relationship. Do it for yourself and do it for him if anything. Don't subject yourself to ANY UNECCASSARY torture if you don't have to.

And on another note-- Do you have any love left for yourself as a being?

cant believe u gave him a second chance. i voted not to forgive u. but only because ure prepared to let this go and let him do whatever he wants to u. dont be cheap. u can always find a better guy who would treasure u rather than someone who takes u for granted. he cheated on you once, and u let it go. now ure gonna let it go again? confront him, if he admits, then leave him. you can always get a better man, because, this guy is not good at all. sounds like someone who takes u for granted.