So I have a few things going on. I am 25 and single. And really tired of it. I have dated but nothing has worked out. I am trying the online thing, but nothing really good is coming out of it. I am just really tired of being alone. To top it off, one of my friend's birthdays is coming up and I dated her brother a few months back. He now has a new gf. So I basically have to go to this bday party and act normal and nice, when inside it's going to be killing me that hes with someone else and I am still alone. I am just not looking forward to it at all. Anyone have any words of advice or know where I am coming from?? Thanks everyone!
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omg, this could have been written by me a year and a half ago. so yes, at least you know you'll have the inevitable meet'n'greet with the new gf so at least you can mentally prepare yourself. put on a really cute outfit and put on a brave face and be polite. she has nothing to do with you two so there's no point in hating her off the bat. you don't have to hang out with those two the whole night so have fun with other people and have a good time.
as for not being in a relationship, at some point last February/March, i was so sick of wanting to be with someone (after being singe for 3 years), i just thought "to h*ll with it. if its meant to be, it will happen so i'm just going to stop looking and have fun." of course that's when i started meeting all these guys in random places and just dated for the fun of it.
and then i met my current boyfriend on a Monday night in a random bar i never went to last June. we're still together and i'm ridiculously happy. of course, having a boyfriend is not the end-all, be-all so make sure you're happy being single and that you don't need a guy to make you happy, know what i mean? good luck, it will happen!
1nica's right about not hating her off the bat. something must have happened with that guy for it not to have worked out so let it go and try to have a fun time. you never know - you might like her. i was in a similar situation about two years ago so i can sympathize: just don't make the same mistake i did which is drink way too much and make a fool out of yourself with your drunken honesty.
2I think we all have experienced times when we're tired of our current situation and wish we could just snap our fingers and be done with feeling sad or lonely or bored or whatever it is.
Good advice from the others about being nice to the new GF.
You are young and I'm sure you'll have the opportunity to date many people in the future. But since you have no idea when the right one will come along, I would suggest doing everything in your power to make your single life as fun and fulfilling as possible.
3I suggest using this in-between period to just work on being the best you you can be. Especially emotionally and mentally. Be your best friend, love yourself to the fullest! That way others will want to be your best friend and love you to the fullest as well.
4I am right there with you, I to am newly single and trying to figure things out. I say yea be nice to the new GF and just make the best of it! YOur friends day is what is most important, everything else you will figure out along the way.
5These girls all have great advise. Use this time to do all of the things you have dreamed of doing: go on a trip with girlfriends, read amazing books, learn a new language, join a community gym, participate in clubs, activities and volunteer work that will be fulfilling and give you the opportunity to meet people with similar interests. Some day you will randomly meet a guy who has been feeling the same way as you and will be attracted to you even more because of how fulfilled and developed your personal life is!! It'll happen when the time is right, so be patient and don't get down on yourself, you're a vivacious young woman so get out there and enjoy life!
6This post made me contemplate singlehood in general. It really bothers me that women have to view aloneness as failure. That in being by yourself, you are not a whole person. It's the idea that single men are eligible bachelors and single women are spinsters. I want to tell this poster to embrace your freedom - you're only 25! You can do anything you want to do right now. I hope that anonymous can take the advice of the women above and build up her confidence and enjoy her friend's party.
7I totally feel you. I and my on and off bf of about 4 years just broke up again. I am also 25 and now single. I do have to say, that I don't get too lonely though when I am single, but as I get older I find that I do feel lonelier when I am single. I don't know why that is. You will find someone soon I think. Although sometimes it does take a while. But feel free while you are single. It should be a great time for you to look around and show yourself off to the men out there. Always remind yourself, there are lots of fish in the sea and the ocean is yours.
8I know exactly how you feel about being alone all the time. It's really, really tough to meet quality people, especially here. Hang out with some girlfriend and hang out here
. For some reason, when you stop worrying about things, they come your way.
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