After you broke up with your boyfriend you both kept in touch, and though you’re not close anymore, you’re still friendly. He recently started exclusively dating someone new who you actually know through a friend of a friend.
She’s a nice girl, and you have no hard feelings towards her, but you’re caught off-guard when you run into her and she immediately starts inquiring about your ex. She wants to know all sorts of personal details about his past including specifics about your relationship with him. You're speechless but that doesn't stop her from asking you to coffee so you can chat. It's an awkward situation to say the least so how do you handle this?
Wow, awkward. Actually I met my ex through mutual friends and HIS ex was close friends with some of my friends, though we were never close. I'd never have asked her private details - that's totally weird. I think I'd say - sure, we can have coffee, but honestly, I keep details about past relationships private and I respect his space.
Now, if there's anything *really* bad that you want to save her from - we're talking STDs and/ or cheating - then, you should spill. Otherwise, I'd try to be friendly but firm in not discussing details. It's not fair to anyone IMO.
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