Curiousity mixed with boredom?

I'd just change your password and move on. And I'd probably stop being in contact with him.

I had a friend who was reading her ex's e-mail years after they broke up. In her case, she was stalking. She became obsessed with his new life, his new girlfriend, his new job, etc. He was all she ever talked about, and eventually it escalated to her driving by his house and "happening" to be on the sidewalk when he left work. She was so crazy I ended my friendship with her. No idea what's happened to her since.

Change your passwords - all of them.

It's scary...believe me I know. I have to keep track of the one keeping track of me just so I feel safe. And he has a girlfriend. Who looks similar and he does obvious stuff with her to send the subliminal messages...it's awful I know. Like they said, just change your password. Better yet, close that id and get a new one. That's what I did. Changed everything. I even moved to another town without forwarding my mail or getting a land line phone for three years. Hang in there, hopefully he'll move on without getting worse.

Creepy...NOT LOVE. If he did he would be more active about winning you back. Definitely stalking and probably curiosity to see if you have moved on before him and etc. Change all your password. Don't risk identity theft! "We are all the same colour when you turn off the lights"

stalking, jealousy, insecurity, curiousity...

either word you use to describe him and what he's doing it's not right. you know that it won't work out and that you both have gone your separate ways so it's time to change your password and just let it go.

Does it really matter what his motivation is? What's your reason for not changing your password? Are you trying to make him jealous, with emails you send other guys? If he cared about you, he'd be with you. Any emails he's read can and probably will be used against you, in some way. Change all your passwords.

i totally agree with drunk lady. this wasn't 2 weeks ago. this is 2 years ago. its just sick on both of your parts. he's stalking and your feeding into it. whatever it is that's going on its unhealthy. he's stalking and you're getting some strange kick out of it or you would have changed your password by now.

Change your passwords, pins, all of them and move on!!! you wont become who you want to be untill hes gone and same for him

i'd agree with the first one- its probably curiousity mixed with boredom and also mixed with a slight bit of jealousy and missing you. but don't mistake it for love. he just wants to know what you are up to and when you are dating someone new so he isn't surprised by it if he runs into you somewhere.

i do think part of you is happy he checks cause you think it means he still cares... and i'm sure he does but not in a way you might be looking for. change your PW to something he can't guess and move on and let him move on.

How strange. How can you be so certain he's reading your email? Did he let something unmistakable slip the few times you spoke? Did he admit to it outright?

Whatever the case, change your password. Make it a mix of random numbers, symbols and alphabets. Don't make it too easy to guess.

This certainly crosses a line, but there's probably no need to worry about it as long as he doesn't escalate to something else.

I have to say, there are probably quite a few people's emails I would be curious enough to read if I had easy access to it. But I would just give up and forget it if it wasn't easy, so I'm not, like, totally obsessed stalker material.

I'm certainly too lazy to ever physically follow someone around all the time, anyway, heehee.

And just because I might want to read someone's emails doesn't mean I'm in love with them. (For the record, I never read anyone else's emails.) Actually, if I'm in love with someone, I'll probably refrain from doing stuff that'd make the object of my affections think I'm creepy.

Short answer: I think it's curiosity more than anything else as far as I can tell from your story. If he does something else creepy that takes more effort than accessing an email account he already has the password for, then it would be time for that restraining order. For now, not so much.

my first reaction is wtf haven't you changed your password if you know he's reading your email? it's like you secretly enjoy the fact that he's interested in what is going on in your life and don't want to "deprive" him of that.

second, how do you know he's reading it? whether you *really* know or not is irrelevant. change the password and be done with it.

I'd say its prob a little bit of all of the above

You should maybe ask him if he wants to give it another shot, if you feel like putting yourself out there! Good luck

Curiosity.

Why did you never change it? That's one of the first thing I do after a break up!

That's really creepy. I would change my password after sending him a message letting him know that you know what has been going on.

How did you find out he's reading your email? Also, just because SOMEONE is reading your email (opened messages that you haven't read etc.) doesn't mean its him. Anyway, since apparently it is him.. i'd say change your passwords, and don't tell them to ANYONE. Also, if it gets serious like he's reading your banking info etc.. i'd suggest talking to the police.

Does it even matter what's going through his head? Just change your damn password.

Um, first off, don't give anyone your passwords to anything!!! There's really no reason he would have ever had to check your email even when you were together.

Secondly, I agree with the posters here who suggest not only changing your password, but your entire email address. And change all your passwords for any other sites your use(online banking, Facebook, whatever). Since you already say you don't have any contact with him otherwise, this is totally in your power to stop. So do it already.

thinking whether he still loves you make me think you still want to be with him.

You are no longer together so why do you even care what is going through his head it does not matter. Change your password I don't understand why you haven't do you like that he is snooping into your life? You must be getting something out of this if you haven't taken care of this already.

It is a little bit crazy for him to check your email, but crazy is good sometimes =)
u gave him ur password which means u trusted him to read ur emails at one point. Maybe he never realized when it stopped being ok to read ur emails.
but as far as his motive, he probably just wanted to see what was going on in your life without embarrassing himself by asking you in person. I think it means he's interested in u. Af the very least, he's hoping to hear from you.

DDL, I agree crazy is good sometimes. Someone logging into some one's email account is a huge invasion of privacy, a violation of trust and maybe a criminal offense. IMHO, it's the same as a house guest snooping through EVERYTHING you own, when you're at work or etc. I also think it's the same as a computer hacker getting your personal information off your computer.

"Maybe he never realized when it stopped being ok to read ur emails." It's been over 2yrs, unless he's mentally challenged, 12yrs old, missing a chromosome, and the like, he knows better.

The OP can file a complaint, with her email provider and they can find out if he really is. He could be giving her email password to other people also.

honestly - i think that if you broke up on bad terms and it's been 2 years, it's kind of stalker ish. there's no reason that he should be reading your email if you don't have any contact and you don't have any relationship together. i think that there's something wrong with being IN a relationship and having your significant other read your email. if there's a password on an account, then that should be telling enough that perhaps it's not something that they should be going in and reading. i think that the first thing to do is CHANGE YOUR PASSWORD and then you'll know if you need to have a conversation with him...since he'll know that you found out that he's reading it and he'll have to call you to discuss it. i don't feel like this is a healthy relationship so you should just cut your losses and walk away ...

its been 2 years, youve said you cant work things out.. hes probably just someone who cant let go.. if he hadyour email password while you were together.. once you broke up why didnt you just change it?
theres always curiosity as to what someone is doing with their life if they were a big part of yours and he probably want to feel like you are still a part of his so he reads your email to know whats going on.

change your password. seriously, its something you should have done right after the break up.

Honestly, I checked my ex's email. It just occurred to me one day that he had given me the password. I did it out of curiosity, for one. I also did it out of spite, but to my disappointment his inbox was mostly junk.

Of course this was months later, not years. I was also careful to cover my tracks, so I'm wondering how exactly you know he's checking your email? And however you discovered this, why haven't you changed your password? I also agree that you should get it out of your head that there is any love potential here. You sound like you want to be a target.

There is no such thing as internet emergencies that would enable me to give away my email passwords.
You totally like the attention, thus you haven't changed your password.

Avoid the drama and change the email! If you know it will never work out, move on. You could be holding yourself back from something new and great if you are still letting the ex in your life even if it's only through reading emails.

How are you not ripping this guy apart for reading your e-mail behind your back? Even if he were your current boyfriend, that's NOT okay. Nobody should be going through your personal communciations without your permission. It's creepy stalker material.

If he had any real interest in your life, he should be e-mailing you, not reading your email. Change your passwords ASAP!

It's probably curiosity. Two years is kind of weird, but I still check old exes facebook profiles occasionally out of curiosity. Just change your password and cut off all contact! No need for drama...