It seems like most of you like the freedom aspect of being single most, but that autonomy is often a double-edged sword. Though having the freedom to do whatever you want, whenever you want is liberating, a common gripe I hear about being single is loneliness — having no one to rely on, no one to spend Sunday nights with, and not having that special someone to call just because. The grass is always greener, right? So to you 29 percent that think being single is a total drag, do tell, what is it you dislike most about being unattached?
Buffalo London
Graeme Black
Zucca
I miss some good pillow talk!!!
1I've been in this position a few times but I know the main thing that I don't like about being single is the dates! I like to go out with my man more than my lady friend's. I like to be able to call my man/he call me up and ask would he like to go out or just kick it! When talking on the phone you seem to get a better feel about your self when you talk to a man that's feeling you! I'm in a stable relationship now but I hope I don't have to experience the single act again.
2All my single friends tell me what they miss the most is having a warm body at night.
3test
4just to have someone to say sweet nothings to. someone to do boring stuff with. someone to hold you when you need it. someone to love and to love you back. Mostly, its missing the feeling that someone there notices and witnesses you and your life making you feel like you matter.
5I have a few things... but there is one thing that PISSES ME OFF to no end. That I have to bite my tongue and count to 10 over.
People asking what is wrong with you!!! Or on a related note, why you're so picky! Or actually getting mad at you because a first date didn't go any further!
I am fed up with people being so closed-minded. I've actually been told that someone feels sorry for me cause there must be something seriously wrong with me as a human-being. WTF?? How ancient is the idea that one needs to be in a relationship to be happy, successful, and "adult".
I am completely of the mind that if/when I meet someone I connect with I give it my all. But I REFUSE to be in a relationship just for the sake of it. That's not fair to the other person and definitely not fair to you!
6Gigly... I totally agree. I mean why should I be dating someone I don't really like, what because it makes someone else happy. Some people feel the need to always be in relationship but they don't really get criticized for it, because being single is bad.
I think the thing that bothers me the most about being single is that if you need someone to go to something really quickly and last minute you have someone. I also miss the touch of the hand on the back. I guess being single makes you more aware of the physical touch. And I hate dating random psychos and idiots.
7The only part I dislike about being single, is actually not the part of "being single", but the pity - that everyone feels the need to think you're bummed out about it or that you're "without" so they try to fix you up with someone. I'm currently single and I actually don't mind it at all right now.
8Yep, I agree. The worst thing about being single is being badgered by everyone to get a boyfriend and get OUT THERE! I'm perfectly fine on my own, thanks! I also HATE that one of my good friends got married a couple of years ago and now has forgotten what it's like to be single and acts like I'm diseased. She won't hang out with me alone, I have no idea why! LOL...one night when I was hanging out with her and her husband, her husband actually asked, "what can we do to help?" Like I need help...I need a CURE to my singledom! HA HA...then he tried to hook me up with some random loser. Pretty funny when their relationship is pretty bad. ARGH...sorry, venting!
9I am certainly sick of people assuming I'm gay. Since when does, I won't sleep around equate I'll sleep with a woman. Or I'm mad at men means... I love women 'in that way'. Besides that, I miss the extra cash.
sex would be good. But he better be Awesome! 
10Think I'm joking... nope.
I'm marrying for money next time and LOTS of it... because now, in my 30's as opposed to my 20's I know that I'm worth it.
I know he's going to be a jacka* sometimes and will need to apologize with gifts because that's what men do. So he will need cash to do that. I am beyond cheap gifts and flowers, I do that for myself anyway.
As for the cuddling and all... sure. I'd welcome that. But when I want to be alone or I want to sleep alone... GIT! SCAT! I need my own space.
I'd like someone to eat with sometimes but if I want salad and he wants a burger, call Tyrone; I don't mind, I'll eat alone or call my friends.
That's the difference in having been single for a few years. Completely and utterly alone without so much as a single male interaction. Things become crystal clear. And I am thankful for it. But now, it's time to move on... I'm ready to entertain offers
It feels good to be so content and know I don't and won't settle. I wish ALL women, especially teenagers knew what I know and feel now. They wouldn't think of inviting a man in their lives that wasn't busting his a* to be the best man he can be.
Sex.
When I am single...I missing having someone to cuddle. I miss having someone to share random odd thoughts with...oh and the regular sex. I am not a big one night stand/casual relationship girl..I attach too much emtion to the act and it screw me up...
11'So... why don't you have a boyfriend?'
There's that and, not having someone to do stuff with. It's funny because it's nice to be single and not have to be accountable to anyone, and it's not difficult for me spend time on my own at all (in fact, I love alone time)... but it's not nice when you're sitting at home on a Friday night and all your friends are doing stuff with their significant others etc etc.
12OMG!!!! i totally agree with giglygrl - i thought this just happened to me - but i've been told i'm too picky and people actually wonder what's wrong with ME?! my cousin says that there's nothing wrong and i'm not being picky just because i'm not willing to settle.. .so ha! lol..
13so what do i miss or not like about being single other than the above - is after really busy days - all of a sudden i have some time and i just want that warm body..
What I most dislike: being treated as a child by my parents (though the do this even when I have a long term boyfriend, because we're not married and therefore totally single). Also I only sleep with people I'm in relationships with, so the lack of sex is very difficult for me...
14Yeah, I mentioned the "getting grief from other people" thing in the other thread, but it definitely bears repeating. I think more people are realizing now that they come off like morons with no lives if they constantly badger other people about their love lives, since I've been getting less of this sh*t in social gatherings, which is a pleasant surprise.
To me this is really the only thing that sucks about being single. Everything else is no problem. For every perk there's also a price to pay, anyway. For example, having someone there to be there for you and take care of you just in case sounds good in theory, but you have to do that in return. Having more resources to pool together sounds nice, too, but if the other person gets into trouble, that's also something you might share. So, potentially, someone else could be an albatross around your neck, or you can be someone else's albatross. Neither appeals to me.
This is why I don't buy into the "you have to have someone just because... well, it's what you have to do" school of "thought". This is how a lot of people get themselves into all sorts of messy situations. Being with someone will most likely end up feeling like a chore if there are no real feelings involved besides "I'm afraid to be alone!"
15Hey, Dear, I think our next topic of discussion should be come backs to "so... why don't you have a boyfriend?"
16Seriously, the societal perception that having a significant other is the highest achievement ever possible by humankind eclipsing every other possible achievement needs to go. It's waning a bit, I can see, but still alive, unfortunately.
Sometimes it's like some people wouldn't even blink an eye if they were to say something like this:
17"You discovered the cure for cancer? Oh whatever, who cares. DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND?!?"
Right now I love being single, but once and awhile I miss just being in love.
18Also have to agree with gigly!
And not getting laid on a regular basis. I'm having a a bit of a hard time with that one
19I agree with gigly too and looseseal (who cares about cancer anyway, ha 8-/), lol!!!!!!!!! Omg, it's so annoying when people act like it's a bad thing that your single! They ought to learn to be able to live by themselves and have their own fulfilling life, geez!
Other than that, I love being single right now.
20I hate having no one to be affectionate/physical with.
21when i was single i hated going to events and parties alone - that was never fun since i ALWAYS got the questions about when was i going to settle down and all that. it's just not a fun thing!
22when i was single i would get down on special occasions, especially valentines day and my bday
23and when i go to a romantic place and i have no one to be romantic with.
someone to go to the movies with...
24I miss the attention and affection!
25I am totally cool with being single except for the fact that most of my friends are married or have s/o so I often feel like the third wheel
26I am content being single but ever since I turned 22 few months back it's starting to get to me. See I've never been in a relationship, and when all my friends were I was so happy to be single because I would hear all their boyfriend issues/crying and I was happy that that wasn't distracting me.
But NOW, I don't know, I am feeling it, wishing I had someone. Friends tell me I need to be more open, but the guys that are interested in me I know I can never date them. I don't see how that is picky because I am not going by looks I can tell right away if there's potential. I am open but I know what I want and I get worried I won't find that guy, I don't even know how to go out and find that guy since I'm too busy with college and all my gfs are busy with their boys.
27Post New Comment
Please share your opinion with our community, but make sure it is on topic and follows our Community Rules. We moderate comments and prohibit personal attacks, threats, spam, lewd images, or the promotion of your personal website.