i wouldn't be mad unless he was being a jerk about it.

i would reassure him, explain to him reasons that would prove i was telling the truth (like little details) and then i would tell him to drop in on me if he was so concerned and check my cell phone, email, and facebook...i have nothing to hide, so why not full honesty? if it will make him feel better, i'm okay with it

plus, then if i ever have a similar concern, we have the communication lines wide open

Well I would know that I wasn't cheating so I would immediately be suspicious of him. Sudden insecurities like that aren't a good sign for me. I would try and be patient but that would be a huge warning flag for me.

Never dealt with this before... I've been the one cheated on every single time.

Honestly, I wouldn't deal with it. I can't be with someone who doesn't trust me. I'd let him go and find someone with a little more confidence.

Ask him who he's cheating on me with since that's usually the reason behind a sudden change in behaviour resulting in the guy accusing the girl who's so obviously not cheating.

I'm somewhere between the "He's the one cheating" and "Dump him if he doesn't trust you" camp.

On the one hand, maybe he was cheated on in a past relationship and this has made him wary. Ask him. IF that's the case, then you need to say "Honey, I understand your concern, but I'm not her. Have I EVER given you reason to distrust me? Then you need to realize that what you're doing will push me away and not bring me closer." Whatever you say, you HAVE HAVE HAVE to talk to him about this. Don't ignore it or you'll resent him for it.

On the other hand, you could also calmly say "You know, typically when a guy, without any reason, accuses his GF of cheating, it's because he himself feels guilty for the cheating HE'S doing. So, maybe I need to be suspicious of you?" And just give him that "look" that says, "What are YOU up to mister?"

It's a hard situation, because it could ALSO just be his buddies feedin' him stories and making him paranoid.

Bottom line, you two need to sit down and discuss this.

If he was all cute and insecure about it than I might be able to deal with it. If he was mad and accusatory than I would have a huge problem with it. Asking me about it without accusing me is fine but I couldn't deal with someone who didn't really trust me.

Someone please tell me how to deal with this. I've already tried Skigurl's suggestion; my husband has all of my passwords and frequently uses them, he checks my call logs and text message and e-mail inboxes/outboxes...I'm actually starting to get used to it. He's not aggressive or controlling, he's just a worrier! It's more easing his worries than my own annoyance that I'm concerned about.

After dealing with this for years, my answer is walk out the door, because once it starts it doesn't stop

I have no patience for men like this

I can understand his worries, I've felt like that myself before...but I had some d@mn good reasons.

So I can't quite decided between just giving him all your passwords and reassuring him or wondering if he was the one doing the cheating. Because I agree that it is a major red flag for guys to start acting like that suddenly.

Either way I would probably at least do what Mykie said, "On the other hand, you could also calmly say "You know, typically when a guy, without any reason, accuses his GF of cheating, it's because he himself feels guilty for the cheating HE'S doing. So, maybe I need to be suspicious of you?" And just give him that "look" that says, "What are YOU up to mister?"

"You know, typically when a guy, without any reason, accuses his GF of cheating, it's because he himself feels guilty for the cheating HE'S doing. So, maybe I need to be suspicious of you?" And just give him that "look" that says, "What are YOU up to mister?"

C'mon, guys, this line starts a HUGE argument that never dies. TRUST ME.

i think that when someone suspects you of cheating, and you're NOT - then there's something going on with them as well - and that it's not your actions. maybe he's doing something that he shouldn't be? i think that the only mature thing to do is to have a conversation with him and try to explain to him how you feel about him and how your school work or work work keep you busier than you'd like and that you hope that it won't last much longer so you can spend some much needed quality time together.

I agree with miriah15. It's very often a guilty conscience that makes accusations.

I dont understand the concept of "its a guilty conscience that makes accusations".

So if YOU suspect your BF of cheating then it means you have a guilty conscience????

I would go with "skigurl's" advice.

I totally disagree with the guilty conscience bit. When girls get insecure about a change in behavior in their guy, it's not because we're guilty, is it?

Just be patient with him and make sure you're anticipating his questioning. Don't wait until he's upset himself enough to ask you about it. He will appreciate you and love you that much more for being understanding.