You need to get over the idea of your "type" and give this guy a chance! Take a chance. He could be the one you but you will NEVER know unless you try. My current boyfriend now was not my type either. We actually didn't even like each other at all in the beginning. He thought I was a snob and I thought he was immature. LOL But, we gave each other a chance and 2 years later we're still together! Good Luck!

I agree with shopaholichunny.

It kind of sounds like you are just scared to be committed to someone. It seems like you are just searching for a reason (different than you normal type) for him to not be right for you. If you guys get along and are happy and work well together, the fact that he isn't your usual type doesn't really mean anything. I say get over the idea of your "usual" and go for it.

Tell him you're not ready to be exclusive. If he can't handle that, he's not the right guy. It seems like he asked really early on, too. Most guys wait till it's obvious you'll say yes.

Whether he is not right for you, or you are not ready to be commited, the bottom line is that you don't want to be in a relationship with him. Do what feels right to you. Perhaps it feels wrong because he just isn't right for you in general, or maybe you don't have enough sexual chemistry. Tell him that you just are not ready. If he decides to stick around then maybe you can be friends, or maybe it will grow into something more, who knows.
I am thinking that you sound like you just don't know him well enough to commit. But I also think that if you liked him enough, you would be totally willing, happy and excited about getting to know him better. Both of these are valid and practical reasons for holding off on getting serious. Trust your own feelings and instincts and do what feels right for you. Good luck to you.

I definitely have 'type' when it comes to dating men. However, I have given different guys chances although all of them ended with regrets except one. And, from that exception I learned not to judge people too easily. After dating for awhile, if you don't feel it's right, then he is not the one for you. As Janine said, do what feels right you. You can force or pressure yourself to date someone just because the person is sweet.

When you're not ready, you're not ready. Don't force yourself into a commitment.

I agree just tell him you're not ready to commit.

I met my current boyfriend under similar circumstances and although it took a while I came around. But I was really clear up front that I didn't want a commitment and he was fine with waiting until I was ready.

He definitely wasn't my "type" but given how all the other guys that were my "type" had worked out, I thought it might be worth a shot.

you "I have had a good time going out, but I just dont feel any romantic feelings towards you"

Him "okay"

that simple.

Unless you have been leading him on, than it will be difficult, doubly if you slept with him.

I feel like I just read one of my own journal entries! I am in a very similar situation, great guy, a lot in common, in others words...great on paper. However, I spent a weekend with him recently and there is just no sexual chemistry...he just really isn't my type. Since that weekend, I have taken a huge step back and given myself time to think about it. I think that in order to pursue a relationship with anyone, that feeling just needs to be present. I for one, have to get excited about the person I'm dating, and when it's not there, it's just not there. I recently told him I think we should just be friends, which he was fine with, but I discovered something even more important about myself from this situation. In the past, I would have probably continued to date him regardless of the lack of chemistry, just so that I would have someone to date and have fun with, however, now that I am older, I have realized that I would much rather be in a relationship with a lot of passion and excitement and I am not willing to compromise that. So bottom line, go with your gut instinct. When ya know...ya know..and if you have to search for an answer, it probably wasn't really there to begin with.

I went on a few dates with someone that I thought was totally not my type and I lamented over it for a few weeks. Luckily I got over that. Now we're married and I couldn't have asked for a better husband.

To me, it sounds like you're really not into this guy. Have you spent enough time getting to know him to care about the fact that he's a nice guy, or are you just saying that because he's not as exciting, interesting or attractive as other people you've dated? Just asking, because when I was younger I often overlooked "nice" guys for exciting ones, but the "nice" ones have to be interesting, attractive, and exciting enough to keep you interested, Why would you commit to someone that you only feel so-so about?

I told friends that I thought my current boyfriend was "not my type". However, after being friends with him and getting to know him, I realized that he WASNT my type, but my "type" never seemed to work out! So I gave him the chance and I'm the happiest I've ever been.

If he's a nice guy and treats you well, give him a chance - you may be in for a surprise and realize you were chasing after the wrong type of guy all along!

Give him a chance, he might surprise you . But warn him that you're not ready to commit yet.

you'd know if he was right for you. I don't think you should break up but you shouldn't commit either. I have no idea how you'll explain it to him but if you're honest and say that he's not your normal type so you need more time to adjust then he might understand and let you do your thing especially if you're not currently dating other people. Or you could just date him but if something else comes along break up with him before you cheat on him. Just make sure you're not cheating on him to see if there is something better. Who knows you could end up really happy together because he treats you right and things seem to be going well so far.

Sure you have a great time with him, but can you picture being intimate with him? Sure you get along great but that may not equate to relationship material. You said you keep looking for your type...so what is to say that you won't continue looking for your "type" while dating him? If you really like him as a friend and enjoy his company you owe it to him to be completely honest. Don't lead him on, in doing that you will only jeopardize any possibility of a friendship.