I agree that it's very intimate. That's one of the things that I miss about having a relationship. It's also very hard to get used to NOT waking up with that person after you break up. That is one of the worst parts of breaking up.

We sleep together, literally every night! Actually I know this may sound weird..but we were doing that for about a year and 10 months before we ever had sex..(he was my first time)

It's weird when I go to bed alone! I love love love going to sleepp with my man being all cuddled up!

When I first got with my husband we had our on place but when we decided that he was ready to move in I felt kinda odd b/c I didn't know how he would react. I was use to my son sleeping with me off and on until he got use to his bed. Now we've been together for 5yrs. I can't get my husband to sleep any where else but with me and I love it so much!

I do agree its very intimate. My boyfriend and I acutally had this discussion when we first started dating. We had been intimate but I hadn't spent a night at his place and he asked me why..and I told him that I feel that is a very intimate thign to do.

Think about it..as a woman you have to let go of your insecurities..about snoring, smeared make up, or no makeup in the morning. Risk morning breath and looking not so attractive and have them still adore you. Then there is the whole issue of waking up with someone and needing to bring stuff over to get ready for work or the day the next day so you aren't wearin the same clothes and what not. You bring your makeup, shower stuff, hair stuff over...its like you strip down your entire being physically and let them watch you 'transform' into the image you want to project...its very intimate!

I guess my boyfriend and I are just really heavy sleepers- we nap together all of the time. I really love doing it, and he calls me the best soporific, but I'm not sure it's a huge deal. Personally, I'd call sex and other things we do more intimate, but cuddling up and sleeping together is most definitely one of the most satisfying things.

i agree it's intimate, and i enjoy it a LOT, but in my adult life (save for highschool) when i've done this, i have either already slept with the person or did it for the first time that night.

I think it's sweet.

And yes, it is intimate, but you don't need me to say that

I guess since the bf likes to take all the pillows and I kick at night, we are just not sleep-compatible. We have separate rooms at our apartment, although we sleep together on the weekends, since he has to get up at 5 am and I don't have to get up until 7 am, we sleep in our own rooms during the work/school week.

I love it! with my ex, I remember that we slept in the same bed together before we even fooled around - I loved cuddling with him. It is very intimate and it definitely helps establish a physical bond, though it takes me a few months to get comfortable sleeping through the night with someone else in the bed.

Intimate? I say sacred. If I get married again I want us to have our own bedrooms (it's necessary trust me!) And the fact that we get 'invited' to sleep in each others bed would be a privilege and not a right... and if we can't sleep together no way are we going to have sex. I'm picky about who's on my sheets can you imagine how I feel about my body!!!

my situation was a bit different, having known my partner for 4 years before meeting, and when we did meet it was second nature to sleep in the same bed.

before that it didnt phase me much at all. usually just crashed at whoevers house was closer (went out ALOT) lol

It definitely was a big deal the first time I slept over my ex's place and woke up together the next morning.

I agree that it's very intimate. It's a very weird(good) feeling to wake up next to someone for the first time. Especially when it's the first person you've ever done that with, lol.

Oh yeah, and just cuddling together and then just sleeping together can be so refreshing and nice rather than having sex and falling asleep. Sometimes I just need to cuddle and not do something sexual.

i love when we end up sleeping together but i'm a super-light sleeper and he's a heavy-weight snorer (like he's chainsawing trees, make that REDWOODS) and it just makes me cranky when i can't get a sleepin! but if i'm knocked out enough (from sex or a long day) and i manage to fall asleep to the rhythm of his whistling nose then it's the warmest feeling ever!

Mesayme - probably the weirdest comment i've ever seen on sugar

are you joking me? "invited" to sleep in one another's bed? please

I agree that it's intimate too, and imo a tell tale relationship sign. My ex, i couldn't sleep with him. i think deep down i knew i couldn't trust him, so whenever we had occassion to sleep in same location, I could not. Now with my fiance, I am pretty sure the op is true. we don't live near each other, so the first night we sleep together I don't fall asleep easily, but i think that is because I have gotten used to sleeping alone. I can't wait to adjust to married life though lol.

When we first started dating (almost 6years ago), I kindof missed my bed space but now...I cant sleep without him.

I totally get the intimacy in the act. It's not so much the falling asleep its the waking up with the morning breath, bed hair, crusty eyes, dried drool on the pillow and face... if you can see the beauty in that then you must really like the person.

Actually my husband was the first guy I slept with literally. that was the most amazing thing to me. It's sort of easy to have sex with someone and then go on about your day or whatever but waking up with him was awesome.I actually went into the bathroom the next morning and cried a little because it meant so much to me. Sex is great but being able to feel his arms around me is amazing. Maybe it's because our relationship was long distance for so long, but I don't think I will ever take that for granted

skigurl...'the weirdest comment i've ever seen'...

... ya d*mn right! I slept with my husband for ten years, and the last divorced three are the best I've ever slept! And no way am I giving up the RIGHT to get a good night sleep with out snoring, or a hair bear 'all up in' my personal space.
My sleeping space is as personal as my body, and I don't care if you think it's weird. It's 'weird' to me to have an open-door policy.

I missed your personal view...so busy commenting on my business

I think it's intimate as well! You have to be comfortable with the person because I think you're at your most vulnerable in the morning -- no makeup, morning breath, the works. Plus, there's such a sense of connectivity when you're completely calm, laying next to someone. I personally love it

I think that the "first" of falling asleep with someone was always accidental for me

I don't find it as intimate. I sleep (in this sence of the word) with my best guy friend all the time

I think it's a very intimate thing. I mean, think about it. You have sex with someone and you find it not so great. What do you do? The same goes for sleeping with someone. What would you do if you you didn't like waking up next to them?

For me and my guy, it's not really the "sleeping" part that we love, but the waking up. We both spread out as much as possible to fall asleep, but whichever one of us wakes up first goes back to bed and kisses the other awake, or brings them breakfast/coffee. It's fabulous- I'm the late sleeper!!

It took a week to get used to after I got married to my DH. We both move a lot in our sleep... though I don't move as much anymore seeing I love being snuggled with and getting kisses before he goes to work

It is intimate. I like it. I agree with Muirnea-- "just cuddling together and then just sleeping together can be so refreshing and nice rather than having sex and falling asleep. Sometimes I just need to cuddle and not do something sexual."

Definitely!

Definitely!

early enough in the relationship, i take sleeping seriously enough that if you aren't compatible when sleeping leeping together then it's kind of a deal breaker for me. IF we don't cuddle well and i sleep very poorly when you're there, it can't last long. [and i've been right every time]

I finally found someone that I don't scoot away from in the middle of the night, or even right before i actually fall asleep. This is the first time i've slept through the entire night in someone's arms. After I realized that, it SERIOUSLY increased my hopes for the relationship.

Me and my boyfriend love to be cuddled up as we drift off to sleep and we started spending pretty much every night together from the beginning. Then we had University work to do and we would spend the week apart and it was gutwrenching to have to sleep without him.

Now we live together and it's wonderful. It is definitely a very intimate part because I snore like a warthog sometimes! ;p

i'm still so shocked by considering a marriage an "open door policy" on the bed?!??!?!?! no one else finds this strange?
i get that some people snore and kick but you can get a king sized bed and he can get something up in his nose fixed or something....it's intimate and it's important and i feel it is one of the times a couple can connect the best

I've got to add, I love it when we wake up in the morning and lie there cuddling/talking, sometimes tickling or joking or teasing. I could stay in bed all day like that!

Nothings better than falling asleep with the one you love and waking up next to them.

If my fiance goes to bed after I do, I don't sleep well until he comes to bed. Once he lays down though, I'm out.
I just feel so comfortable and safe around him that it is so easy for me to fall sleep next to him - I know I can let my guard down.

Plus, cuddling is the best

When my husband and I were just dating, we were in a very long distance relationship. So the first time he came to stay with me, it was so nice. We both hadn't had that kind of thing in a long time. Yeah, it was pretty special.

cravinsugar, i agree! my bf gets up really early for work (and the gym) and so i am half dead when he gets up and i try not to become too alert or i won't fall back asleep for the additional hour but i still chat with him a bit and spoon really closely before he jumps out, and it makes us both feel really connected

a couple weeks ago, we also woke up at 4am for no reason at all, and without speaking, ended up making love half-sleeping...it was amazing....now you wouldn't get that if you didn't sleep in the same bed together

It's incredibly intimate! I'm sure it's wonderful when you're with the right person, but I just got out of a relationship where we moved too fast too soon. I learned my lesson. I think it's very necessary to be comfortable with someone before taking the step of lying on the same mattress for the evening- when you wake up, it's poofy hair, crusty eyes and stinky breath- you better be sure you have a partner that appreciates you inside and out before he/she sees that.

That is the one thing I miss more than everything about the last guy i was with. When things were really good we were sleeping together 2-3 nights a week and I miss waking up with him and kissing and cuddling. Just remembering feeling his feet under the covers, its some of the best memories I will ever have.

i guess i am in the minority here. i don't think it is that big a deal, but then again i have been known to sleep anywhere.

I love cuddling and sleeping together. Now that we live far apart, me and my boyfriend can't sleep together and it's really hard to get used to. I love being able to wake up with him next to me.

it's really cute to hear how intimate and cute your relationships are and make me sad that my fiancee can be such a heartless douche. oversharing! sorry...i'm sad tonight. lol

I know for some really sex driven couples this is a negative milestone, the first night you sleep together without the sex.

I was just thinking about what it would have been like to literally sleep (in the same bed) as my high school crush who turned out to be gay lol. He slept over at my house one time but he slept on the floor.

Having my husband sleeping beside me is honestly one of the best parts of being in the relationship. It is such a comfortable and trusting thing, and yes - very intimate. I don't sleep well if he's not laying there...i think it is very important. For those who believe that they can have sex in a committed relationship, but not share the bed for the night, every night (except for occasional arguments or travels or whatnot), I say you're not committed enough for sex. The sex and the bed-sharing should be intertwined, and both pretty much equally important.

i love sleeping with my boyfriend. He lives with his parent at the moment, who are super religious, so Im not allowed to stay the night over there but he spends the night at my house sometimes. He always tells me that he sleeps better when Im in bed with him. Im not really much of a cuddler when Im sleeping (I toss and turn and get all sweaty) But we usually sleep with our legs entertwined....it is very intimate.

So reading these got me thinking...
I kinda hated sleeping with my ex, it always got like too hot or I'd get a cramp in my neck, or i would get super fidgety and I would only fall asleep when he would fall asleep and I could finally extricate myself from him... and by the end of our relationship when he stopped coming home at night, I got some of the best nights of sleep.... hahaha

The guy I am currently casually sorta seeing.. I have no desire to sleep in his bed at alllll. We have sex and then I'm like, Thanks! Ciao.

I sleep in my best guy friend's bed all the time though. The plot thickens....

to be honest, i don't think that 'sleeping together' is as major as a lot of people make it seem. there have been any number of guys that i've shared a bed with that i didn't have romantic or even sexual feelings towards. sometimes you just need a bed and sometimes you're just drunk and want to sleep with someone else in bed and that doesn't make it any more significant than sleeping alone or with a family member .....

Lurve sleeping/napping together! It's one of my favorite activities with my boyfriend.

I love sleeping with my boyfriend at his home, we're both in college now and it is harder to do that at my parents when I visit them, but we don't have sex either. I just love cuddling and talking with my boyfriend in bed and we've been together for more a year and a half. He doesn't pressure me and I don't pressure him (but I do seduce him to be funny He catches on...) We both want to marry each other someday but now we just enjoy what we have now. I think the cuddling and pillow talk brings us closer and we both don't mind the morning after I feel like as long as we don't have sex too soon and just wait for marriage, the sleeping is okay for now. That's just me.